Tactics Tuesdays: Breaking Women's Tests with "Only"

Wouldn’t it be great to have a super SIMPLE one-size-fits-all teasing formula you could use to defuse a large number of the most common tests women toss your way?

• “You must say/do this with every girl.”

• “Does that line actually work for you?”

• “Do you always go this fast?”

• “I’ll bet you buy drinks for other girls.”

• “Do girls actually go for that?”

In today’s Tactics Tuesdays, I will give you just such a formula.

We’re coming up on the rerelease of my one-of-a-kind “tease girls” course, the Lush Teases Method™. Last time I released it during the US presidential election (bad timing on my part), so while a bunch of guys picked it up my guess is many also missed it. So this will be your chance to grab Lush Teases™ if you didn’t grab it before.

As we build up to the rerelease, I want to try to get a little more content up on teasing girls.

So, here we are – a simple but powerful little tease-based tactic you can use to instantly defuse a certain class of questioning/tests from girls.

It’s teasing answers that begin with the word “Only.”

 

Using “Only” to Respond to Women’s Tests

I had a post on X about this a few weeks back.

USING “ONLY” TO RESPOND TO WOMEN’S TESTS

Works wonders for dealing with playful tests/accusations. e.g.:

💁🏼‍♀️ “Do you do this with every girl?”
👨🏻 “Only the cool ones/naughty ones/etc.”

💁🏼‍♀️ “I’ll bet you bring every girl here.”
👨🏻 “Only the really bad ones.”

💁🏼‍♀️ “Are you looking for a relationship?”
👨🏻 “Only if she passes my screens.”

💁🏼‍♀️ “Do you hook up with a lot of girls?”
👨🏻 “Only really beautiful ones.”

💁🏼‍♀️ “I have a feeling you say that to every girl.”
👨🏻 “Only if she’s earned it / deserves it.”

Gives you an air of choosiness while playing relaxedly around with her test.

— Girls Chase 🏃‍♀️💨 (@GirlsChase) April 15, 2025

Today we’re expanding on that – giving you more examples, and spelling out for you exactly WHEN this response fits.

First off, here are some examples, so you can see how this tease response works:

HER: “You must say this to every girl.” [imagine this girl is a redhead in a slinky dress]

YOU: “Only the ones with red hair and slinky dresses.”

HER: “Does that line actually work for you?”

YOU: “Only with girls who are cool. The lame ones it doesn’t work with.”

HER: “Do you always go this fast?” [imagine her name is Susie]

YOU: “Only with girls named Susie.”

(alternatively: “Only when a girl’s really impressed me” or “Only when there’s a spark and I don’t to lose it”)

HER: “I’ll bet you buy drinks for other girls.” [trying to convince you to buy her a drink]

YOU: “Only ones I’ve already made out with.”

HER: “Do girls actually go for that?”

YOU: “Only the smart ones. The dumb ones get all weird and awkward.”

You can see we’re using the ‘only’ formula to respond to all these tests.

You can also see there’s a similar vein running through all these tests from women: they all center on what other girls do or you doing it with other girls. The “only” tease is a dedicated tease response for women checking on what you do with other girls.

While the response looks simple, we’ve actually got a few very different tease objectives, depending on the nature of the girl’s tests and what we want to accomplish. If you look closer, you might see – and if not, don’t worry, because I’ll explain below.

 

To Personalize or Challenge Back? That Is the Question!

What is the difference between these two tease responses?

HER: “You must say this to every girl.” [imagine this girl is a redhead in a slinky dress]

YOU: “Only the ones with red hair and slinky dresses.”

vs.

HER: “I’ll bet you buy drinks for other girls.” [trying to convince you to buy her a drink]

YOU: “Only ones I’ve already made out with.”

Both tease responses use the “only” formula. Both are short. Yet the two have very different objectives. If you’re not sure what they are, try running both teases through the SAC model from my One Date System.

Which element does each tease advance more – similarity, arousal, or compliance?

I’ll give you a moment to think about it.

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Have your answers yet?

The first example raises similarity by personalizing your response – i.e., claiming that you only say what you said to girls who strongly resemble her (“Only the ones with [her hair color] and [her attire]”). When you deliver this, it will take her a moment to register that you are talking about her – and when she does, she will feel that you ‘see’ her much more and are far more attentive to her.

Similarity goes up (“He likes and appreciates women like me!”), and you fix the attainability issues that prompted her test.

The second example raises arousal by challenging her back, setting up a hoop for her to jump through. The fact that you don’t just roll over (like some guys would), but handle her request in a playful back-and-forth, excites her. If she actually agrees with your terms, and makes out with you to get a drink from you, that’s +compliance as well.

Why do we use the responses we use? Why not responses like these?

HER: “You must say this to every girl.”

YOU: “Only ones I expect to make out with.”

HER: “I’ll bet you buy drinks for other girls.”

YOU: “Only the ones with red hair and slinky dresses.”

We don’t do this because these set the wrong frames:

• Telling a girl you expect to make out with her when she claims you “say this to every girl” is likely to backfire, making you seem like even more of a playboy – unless, that is, you can tell she’s aroused and wants to kiss you (in which case it may work; especially if the two of you are in private. That said, you must still fix your similarity/attainability problems post-make out, or they are only going to worsen).

• Telling a girl who wants you to buy drinks for her that you buy drinks for other girls who look like her doesn’t make sense (are you suggesting that because of how she looks you are going to go buy drinks for her now?). Telling a girl who wants you to buy drinks for her that you buy drinks for other girls who DON’T look like her just tanks your similarity/attainability and risks putting her into auto-rejection (“So you only by drinks for girls who don’t look like me? Screw you, jerk!”).

Thus, as simple as the tactic looks on its surface, we can see there’s actually some finesse in how you use it: you must attach the right frame to your “only” tease to make it work!

 

When to Personalize

You want to focus on personalizing your response to deepen intimacy / build similarity / make her feel like you are there for HER and her ALONE whenever you sense her test is due to her feeling like your attainability is too low, or that you don’t really know and value her.

Cases in point:

• “You must say this to every girl.”

• “Do you always go this fast?”

• “Do you date a lot of girls?”

Comments like these from women should scream “PLAYER PROBLEM!” to you. She’s worried that she is “just another girl” to you; i.e., that she is not special. She needs to feel special to move forward with you. She needs attainability. She needs similarity. Your response must give her this.

Therefore, however you respond, the frame must aim to convey that you know her, appreciate her for what she has shown you or done for/around you, and personalize the seduction to her.

Cases in point:

HER: “You must say this to every girl.” [imagine this girl is a redhead in a slinky dress]

YOU: “Only the ones with red hair and slinky dresses.”

Again, by describing herself to her, once it clicks for her (after half a second or so) she will feel like you are very focused on her – the antithesis of the callous player who treats every girl like an interchangeable sex toy.

Another example:

HER: “Do you always go this fast?” [imagine her name is Susie]

YOU: “Only with girls named Susie.”

(alternatively: “Only when a girl’s really impressed me” or “Only when there’s a spark and I don’t to lose it”)

Here, using her name is the least-good response, but it works in a pinch if you don’t know what to say or lack anything better. However, as you get quicker on your feet, you can switch to more tailored responses:

• “Only when a girl’s really impressed me”: this works if you’ve gotten her qualifying herself a lot and you’ve complimented her and rewarded her on what she’s told you. When she hears this from you, she’ll recall how she impressed you earlier, and feels closer to you. If you did NOT qualify her heavily early on, don’t use this, as it’ll feel forced and fake (and will reduce how well she feels you know her, rather than raise it!).

• “Only when there’s a spark and I don’t want to lose it”: this works if there’s a legitimate spark between the two of you (which largely comes from having SAC firing on all four cylinders; however, eliciting values and building attitude-similarity with her on the values she shares can be enough). If there is, and you call attention to it, she will melt. If there is not, though, and you use this one, it only raises the cognitive dissonance – as well as raising her resistance.

Here's one more:

HER: “Do you date a lot of girls?” [imagine she rides horses and paints landscapes]

YOU: “Only ones who ride horses and paint landscapes.”

Once more, you personalize the response to her, raising feelings of intimacy and similarity, and bolstering your attainability. She knows it’s a tease – it’s so specific to her that if those are really your dating criteria, you probably never date anyone at all! But we’re not going for ‘factual accuracy’ here. We’re going for create the right feelings… which is precisely what this response is designed to do (and will succeed at doing).

 

When to Challenge Back

Now have a look at our “only” teases that challenge the girl back:

HER: “Does that line actually work for you?”

YOU: “Only with girls who are cool. The lame ones it doesn’t work with.”

HER: “I’ll bet you buy drinks for other girls.” [trying to convince you to buy her a drink]

YOU: “Only ones I’ve already made out with.”

HER: “Do girls actually go for that?”

YOU: “Only the smart ones. The dumb ones get all weird and awkward.”

Each of these is a CHALLENGE. We challenge women in two (2) different ways in these:

• Screening challenge: we set the frame that only girls who are “cool” or “smart” go for what we’re doing. Girls who are the opposite of this – “lame” or “dumb” – do not. This puts pressure on herself to go along with what you are doing, lest she implicitly position herself as lame or dumb.

• Compliance challenge: we set the frame that we only do X for girls who do Y for us. In the example, we only buy drinks for girls we’ve made out with. This allows us to dodge a woman’s request without looking unreasonable; we’ll do it, but only if she meets the requirement! Either she complies and does something for us that advances the seduction, or she backs off, unwilling to go that far – just yet, anyway.

If she’s asking you to DO something (such as buy her a drink), you reply with a compliance challenge: you’ll jump through your hoop if she’ll jump through yours (just make sure you ask for enough compliance to make it worth it to you!).

If she’s not asking you to do anything, just acting skeptical about your ability with girls, you reply with a screening challenge that frames her as “not with it” if she doesn’t get with the program (i.e., fall into your frame).

 

When Do You Challenge vs. Personalize?

This is where calibration comes in. You must be able to tell the difference between girls who test because they lack similarity with you vs. girls who test because they want to see if you’ll comply with them.

The rule of thumb:

• Girls where similarity is the problem will test in ways that frame THEM as substitutable (“You say that to every girl” = “I’m just another girl to you”; “You always go this fast” = “I’m just another girl you’re going this fast with”).

• Girls where compliance is the problem will test in ways that frame YOU as ineffectual (“Does that line actually work?” = “I’m skeptical you get girls with that”; “I’ll bet you buy drinks for other girls” = “You comply for other women so you should for me too”).

While these two types of test might sound similar on the surface, they have very different psychological roots, and you must respond to them in very different ways.

Substitutable girls need similarity, attainability, comfort, personalization.

Girls pushing you to fall into their frame need challenges, hoops, compliance demands.

 

Wrap Up

Teasing’s a surprisingly nuanced field, eh?

This is why it takes finesse to get right. Girls can have similar-sounding tests or reactions that actually require different variations on how you tease/respond, based on what the psychological root is.

Get that right, and your teases are on-point and help further your seduction (often by quite a lot).

But get it wrong and they can backfire, wrecking similarity/attainability and moving you backwards in the seduction.

Anyway, that’s it for now!

Stay tuned for the rerelease of Lush Teases™, which is coming up either toward the end of this month or sometime in early June. In that, I give you all manner of different teases you can use with women… and teach you how to be sure you use the right tease, at the right time, with the right girl, in order to further your seductions properly.

Until then – keep those teases calibrated!

Chase