Only Superior Men Learn to Seduce

One of my biggest mental blocks with seduction and why I had trouble learning at first is I felt like a lesser man, an incompetent person, for having to learn it. Anything I didn’t grasp naturally I felt insufficient/lesser/incompetent at the fact that I had to actually learn it. What I’ve realized is that as human beings we are creatures that can only know how to do something by actively working at learning how to do it. We don’t just grasp things from the first.

I try not to beat our own drum too much because it comes off a bit boorish.

But as this Girls Chase student notes in his comment, there’s a mentality among men – a great MANY men – that learning to seduce means admitting to some kind of deficiency.

Because of this mentality (a very shortsighted mentality, counterproductive to any man’s goals), the vast majority of men remain ignorant of seduction and trapped in avoidable relationship quagmires and months- or years-long woman dry spells.

So let us set the false modesty aside, and state what every man wise in seduction knows:

Only superior men endeavor to learn and see through to success the art of seduction.

 

Seduction Is an Elite Man’s Game

Let’s look at the qualities of a man who decides to apply himself at learning seduction. He:

• Is self-aware enough to set aside ego and allow himself to learn social & seduction skills through practice and study, often under a teacher, mentor, or role model.

• Pushes past the taboo around deliberately cultivated social-romantic skills to study what others either dismiss as ‘ineffectual’ or else dub ‘manipulation’.

• Has the capacity to remain in control and delay gratification as he works on specific individual skills, even with gorgeous, sexy women always right in front of him tempting him to go ‘full simp’ at every moment.

• Possesses sufficient discipline and a long-enough time horizon that he is capable of engaging in a self-directed multi-year education aimed at giving him a rare ability that will benefit him for the entire remainder of his life.

Examine those four qualities. Those four qualities are the qualities of a SUPERIOR MAN. There is simply no other way to put it. Any man who dedicatedly pursues seduction is cut from a finer cloth. The average man cannot do these things, or if he tries cannot sustain them, and will never come close to an undertaking like this.

The Average Man:

• Is steeped in ego. He feels insulted anyone would dare question his prowess with women, and would feel humiliated to ever admit he could benefit from study, practice, and instruction with girls. So he remains stuck in place.

• Obeys cultural taboos. Society says seduction doesn’t work and is pathetically risible? He laughs alongside society at those deluded seducers. Society says seduction works TOO WELL and is evil manipulation? He spits and bristles alongside society at those conniving seducers. He can only ever follow where the herd leads.

• Has no capacity to delay gratification around women he is attracted to. Load him up with a set of goals and plop him in front of a beautiful woman and he’ll put her right up on the pedestal same as always and get right to chasing her. He goes nowhere with girls.

• Possesses insufficient discipline and a too-short time horizon to stick with a self-directed learning plan like seduction is. Heck, he couldn’t even teach himself a job skill without a university or trade school that enforced attendance on him. There’s no way he’s learning to talk to girls (which is a lot harder & scarier) on his own. He just keeps doing what he’s always done with girls.

No non-elite man will ever scratch at seduction greatness. He simply does not possess the wherewithal to get there.

Learning seduction is the superior man’s game.

 

Highly Skilled Losers

There’s a perception among some chunks of the population that men who excel with women are often (or even always) a variety of ‘highly skilled losers’.

Think of that guy you knew who had a crummy job, or maybe no job at all, a tiny place to live, yet was always sleeping with hot new girls. That guy was a loser in every measurable way – except that he banged a lot of choice tail.

Is THAT guy superior?

Well, in a way, he is!

Because now think about your average working stiff: this poor schlub works 50 hours a week at his soul-destroying job, browbeaten by HR and bureaucratic red tape until his balls recede up into his abdomen, collecting a paycheck that keeps him firmly in the middle class with hope of maybe someday marginally improving his socioeconomic position in old age if he’s lucky. On the weekends, his only time free from menial drudgery, he goes out to try his luck with girls – mostly to be shot down. Even as girls reject him, he has to watch them pair off with some sexy ‘loser’ who’s laughing, playing with girls, and looks like he’s having the time of his life.

Is the corporate wage slave who gets laid once a year superior to the barely-employed loser living his best life banging heaps of luscious babes? It’s an intriguing question!

Now, I have been around long enough to have witnessed the end games of a number of playboys. A guy having crazy seduction skills but not much else going for him is not guaranteed an impressive end to his story; nor is a guy lacking those skills guaranteed a depressing one.

There are playboys who end up old and alone, burned out on the game but unable to find or hold onto girls long-term. Likewise, there are plenty of Average Joes who marry women who are perfectly fine, start families with them, and are happy in the end. Perhaps these guys didn’t get to live it up with heaps of poonani in their youths, but they finished on the winner’s podium in the end. Fade to black.

Yet, when we talk about men who are learning seduction – I mean consciously, deliberately PURSUING it as a skill set they apply themselves at – these men are never the ‘loser type’ men.

Instead, they – or at least the ones who stick with it long enough to get good – are always men cut from a superior cloth. Different from the extroverted natural who happens into girl success early through chance + boldness, the long-term student of seduction is always a man of ability.

I have met many of both types of men (loser-like naturals and deliberately cultivated seducers). I have seen the differences between them. I can assure you: if a man approaches seduction in a deliberate way, sticks with it over the long haul, and gets GOOD, he is a SUPERIOR MAN!

 

Seduction as a Superiority Sieve

Many average guys discover seduction, think having lots of sex with hot babes sounds good, and decide they want to learn it. After their first few rejections, or a disappointing couple of months, or even a failure to ever make that first approach at all, they give up. Back to social circle.

Some other men discover seduction and have the discipline and resolve to stick with it… but sadly they’re poor learners and make little progress. Perhaps their social intuition is lacking; perhaps they’ve never mastered anything and don’t understand the process of mastery. Perhaps they’re too scattered to stick to any one method and become a patchwork of different, competing seduction schools that don’t quite work together. Perhaps they just have a major blind spot (or two) and ego or ignorance prevents them from spotting and correcting it.

Regardless, these men either don’t stick with it or don’t get great.

Learning to excel with women is one of the most difficult things a man can learn in life. It is more difficult than any career field or science. You can sit in a room alone and do math problems until you understand calculus (unless you just don’t have the intellect); but if you want to learn girls, you must be out, in the field, approaching women you do not know, overcoming all manner of fears and reservations, only to get very little reward for many of your efforts, as you encounter girls with boyfriends, husbands, or who are just not interested, not all of whom will be generous and polite.

Then, when you start to get results, temptation is everywhere. You finally got laid, after months of struggling? Make that girl your friend with benefits! Oh but now you’re getting laid regularly and your motivation to approach and that killer vibe you had before has fallen off. If you’re not careful, you end up falling into a relationship with a girl you never thought suited for something serious.

Fight past that trap and manage to start laying higher quality girls, and one day you achieve a breakthrough and get together with a girl more beautiful and amazing than any girl you’ve ever been with. She’s AMAZING! You can’t believe she’s with you! Make that girl your girlfriend and hang up the game!

What you don’t realize is she’s a ‘breakthrough girlfriend’ and would’ve been the first of many like her had you stuck with it… but because you didn’t, you won’t lock in the gains you made to achieve that breakthrough, and if you and her break up you’ll be starting back at square one.

Every step of the way to high levels of seduction skill there are filters that screen out most of the men trying to get past them. It is not just about intelligence and work ethic. It is also about self-awareness, self-control, self-discipline, and the ability to set emotion aside to do what is right for what you want to achieve.

I have never met a guy who had self-taught himself to be very successful with girls who was anything other than an impressive human being. Across the board such men are interesting, driven, perceptive folks, exhibiting an excellence inaccessible to ordinary drifting-through-life men.

Many of the high-skilled seducers I knew from my early days in seduction are now retired in their 40s or 50s with all the money they’ll ever need to live comfortably. Some of them have families. Some are lifelong bachelors by choice who enjoy adventuring around the world solo. None were wealthy when I met them, and all were working, some barely getting by. But because these men were SUPERIOR, not only did they become high-skilled seducers, they also at some point or another figured out ways to achieve enough financial freedom that they left the rat race and now do whatever they want with their time.

(technically, I could probably also retire at this point. But how boring would that be? I briefly tried the ‘lounging around in leisure and hedonism’ thing a while back and let me tell you – that just does not suit me. YMMV)

Learning seduction – assuming one sticks with it, and has the ‘basic equipment’ to become a success at it – is one of the surest tracks to joining the ranks of elite men there is.

Not only this, but it is a sieve for superiority, and a signifier of it.

 

Beating Men at What Matters

One of the greatest insults we have for men today is ‘cuck’.

That’s short for ‘cuckold’. It means a man whose woman gets fucked (and often impregnated) by another man.

As a seducer, you are the one who cucks.

You can be a moral seducer, of course (I recommend it). But no matter how moral you are, there are going to be heaps of men crying into their palms somewhere because you came along, shagged the girl they’d been crushing on forever or ‘working on’ for ages, then moved on.

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Every woman out there has dudes trying to get with her, crushing on her, in-love with her, simping on her over social media – all those dudes get cucked when you seduce her and bang her out.

Almost everything men do, somewhere in the back of their minds they are doing it for girls:

• Men slave away at their jobs to be ‘successful enough’ to hope to get girls

• Men buy expensive cars hoping women will see their pricey cars and be impressed

• Men learn to sing, play instruments, or do other arts hoping to woo girls

• Men work out in the gym for years envisioning adoring women once they get big

While all these men are dreaming of the pussy deluge they hope waits for them somewhere over the rainbow, you just waltz in, pick up a girl they WISH they could get, fuck her brains out, then either keep her for yourself or keep on going – it’s totally up to you.

All this stuff men is doing is part of male competition for women. And you beat ALL these guys.

They can go on and on about how really what they’re doing is better for society or whatnot.

Those spreadsheets they manage every day at the office contribute more to society than you.

Those boxes they pick at the warehouse so consumers can receive their endless baubles is better for society than you.

Those heavy chunks of metal they lift in pursuit of getting ripped is better for society than you are.

But is that stuff good for society?

And are you, the seducer, precluded from doing any of it?

Is there any reason you can’t mash keys on spreadsheets or pick boxes in a warehouse or lift pieces of iron in the gym? As a matter of fact, you probably do some of that stuff already (I’ve done all those things plenty!).

This is simply the loser’s cope, that he likes to tell himself, “Well, maybe the stuff I’m doing leads to me losing to the sexy seducer, but at least what I am doing is contributing to society. The only thing that guy ever does is grin at women and fuck them with his playboy dick!”

Fucking women isn’t how you get your daily bread.

Unless you’re a man-whore. In which case, hey, someone’s gotta take care of all those pent-up broads!

Seduction is something you do ASIDE FROM and IN ADDITION to whatever you do to earn a living.

And the best seducers – superior men that they are – very often end up being HIGHLY PRODUCTIVE members of society who leverage the social skills and learning processes they developed learning seduction to create businesses, products, or rapidly-promoted careers that earn in a decade or less what the men critiquing them as “not productive” fail to earn in careers of 50+ years.

Seducers do an end-run around ordinary men trying to win with women and with life the ‘slow way’ and ‘ineffective way’… and the only thing bitter men who abstain from seduction have left is cope.

 

I’m Not Dumping on the Masses

I just want to be clear:

I’m not dumping on the masses here.

If you, yourself, are an ordinary guy, I’m not dumping on you.

I have great compassion for all men (and women… all living things, in fact). Every guy is my brother.

What I am dumping on are these STUPID egoistic fears burned into many men’s minds (and proclaimed to high heaven by the inept and the envious) that men are admitting to inadequacy by learning seduction. It is just goofy to think that the only way to avoid ‘admitting inadequacy’ is to stick one’s head in the sand.

Admitting to inadequacy to oneself is GOOD:

I go through and regularly admit to myself everything I am inadequate in, including in areas where most folks consider me elite. Even in my strongest areas I can find shortcomings aplenty, and I make it a regular habit to identify them and look them square in the face.

This is the only way you get better. You don’t get better at things by hiding under a rock and pretending it’s all okay. All that is is fear and avoidance, not improvement.

Being able to step outside oneself, view one’s shortcomings, own up to them, then decide to do something about them to get what one wants, then approach it in an effective way, stick with it, and make it happen, is the mark of superiority.

Can you do this? Will you do it?

If so, you are a superior man.

There are other markers of a superior man. Seduction is not the only path there. There are men abysmal at handling women who nevertheless qualify as superior. Belisarius, for instance, one of the greatest and most humiliating cucks in history, was also among history’s greatest and most impressive fighters and generals. (that said, few men would disagree that Belisarius simply not being a cuck would have led to a less stained legacy for himself. Then again, maybe not! The wife who cucked him constantly also protected him at court. So maybe without being a cuck Belisarius never could have achieved greatness. All these things in life are complex)

Be not ashamed of learning seduction.

Don’t listen to the uninformed masses heaping scorn out of their own cognitive dissonance about how seduction “doesn’t work” or alternately is “evil manipulation” (it can’t possibly be both those things; and in fact is neither), or about how it is “destroying society.”

Every society since the beginning of civilization has had seducers; yet find me a single civilization in all of recorded history about which the historians have said “the whole thing was destroyed because of those bloody seducers!!!” You won’t find one. Seducers don’t even exist much in societies where the men have not collectively decided to liberate their women – it is the average man liberating his woman that leads to a surge in the seducer population.

If you’re considering learning seduction, know this:

You’re in excellent company.

Many of history’s greats – from Pablo Picasso to Albert Einstein to Benjamin Franklin to St. Augustine – were seducers. Superior men recognize that seduction is a master-able skill, that mastery over it will improve their lives, and that they can do it while still excelling in other areas and contributing to the world. A man must have a certain level of excellence to be able to set pride aside and examine problems a different way; a certain freedom to not go with the same flow as every other man.

Seduction is a field full of men of superior ability and character.

It is a field that hones a man’s superiority, too.

So: come on in, and make yourself into a better version of YOU.

Chase Amante