6% of women are nymphomaniacs. But how can you tell if she is one? By looking for these 10 signs she’s a nympho who loves to get down with guy after guy.Time for a fun guide.
If we define as “nymphomaniac” any girl who has (or will have in the future) 50 or more lifetime lovers, 6% of women qualify as nymphomaniacs. Heck, 2.5% of women will experience 100+ lovers over the course of their lifetimes – ultra-nymphos!
These women are out there – and some of the women you’ll encounter, some of the time, will be them. The question we’ll answer today is, “How do you know who’s who?”
“Wait, Chase,” I hear you ask, “why would I want to know if a girl’s a nymphomaniac?”
Two reasons:
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To spot girls who are going to be a totally great time in bed
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To avoid girls who are highly likely to cheat on you if you attempt monogamy with them
If either of those reasons (or both of them) has any appeal to you, then read on.
(if not, then I guess skip this article, and let it stay a mystery for you!)
As you read, keep in mind: just one or two of these signs, and she may or may not be a nympho. But the more of these signs you see, the more your brain should start blaring “nympho alert!”
Nymphomaniac Sign #1: She’s Very Confident
Extremely high confidence is a frequent nymphomania cue.Highly confident women tend to be more likely to be nymphomaniacs, in my experience.
Yes, you will get the depressed “her self-esteem is crap so she sleeps with absolutely everybody” nymphos too, but high self-confidence in women is a masculine trait. Women with higher testosterone levels have higher self-confidence levels, and high-T levels are tied to a host of partner-count-raising factors (as well as directly to higher partner counts).
Not all very confident women are nymphomaniacs, but they generally all sleep with more men than the average. In my experience, highly confident women are also a lot more likely to be out-and-out nymphos than women of lesser confidence levels are.
Nymphomaniac Sign #2: She’s Very Direct
Most women are ambiguous. Nymphos aren’t (and can’t afford to be!).You don’t reach 50+ cocks by beating around the bush.
Nymphos in my experience tend to be quite direct. They mean what they say and say what they mean, far more than ordinary women do. They’re much more alike men in their communication styles – a common theme we are going to see in this guide (i.e., more masculine behaviors as signs of probable nymphomania).
If she likes you, she will tell you she likes you.
She does not play games.
She does not do little flirty things.
She just lays it out.
There is far less guesswork required with a nympho than there is with any other kind of girl.
Nymphomaniac Sign #3: She’s Very Comfortable with Sexual Subjects
She shows none of the hesitancy you’re used to when you bring up sexual subjects.This study gives you some scientific grounding if you want it. They compared ordinary women (average partner count: 4) with nymphomaniacs (average partner count: 58).
What they found: on the Sociosexuality Orientation Inventory, or SOI (basically, how open a girl is to casual sex / how much she wants it / how much she enjoys it), nymphomaniacs score on aerage 184, with a range of 83 to 545(!). Meanwhile, ordinary girls averaged a score of 38, with a range of 18 to 85.
That is a 4.84x higher comfort level with casual sex + desire for it than the average woman has!
The wildest nympho in the study came in at over 14x more comfortable with / desirous of sex than a typical women! That’s crazy!
When you talk to nymphos, you will discover that sex is basically just something they really like talking about, and can talk about very comfortably and openly, like how you’d discuss your favorite hobby. It’s just a cool thing they love chatting about.
Compare that to ordinary women, who tend to be a bit more reserved, wonder why you’re asking about sex, fear you might judge them for anything they say, etc.
In this way, sexual conversation material (such as sex talk) is a good way to screen for nymphos: if she jumps right into it with zero resistance, no hedging, no circumspection, no feeling out where your head is at and why you’re talking about this or giving you any pushback, there’s a fair chance you are dealing with a nympho!
Nymphomaniac Sign #4: She’s Very Positive on Men
She thinks the world of men. Really.Nymphomaniacs are the most positive women you will ever meet when it comes to their opinions on men.
There is no suspicion of men, no distrust of men, no bitterness or jadedness toward men.
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Her behavior — not her admissions — is the clue.Nymphos like men because men are like them: they both just wanna get laid!
The normal male-female tension you find between the sexes in the mating dance is absent with nymphos. She’s not vetting you for the long-term when she meets you. There’s no need to boyfriend disqualify. Your and her interests are aligned.
While sexually inexperienced men often have a low regard of promiscuous women, viewing them as debauched and debased, it’s impossible not to like these girls once you have enough experience.
Sure, you may not want to pick a girl like this to be your wife; but we all like people who like us, and if you’re a man, nymphomaniacs like you!
Nymphomaniac Sign #5: She’s Far More Visual
“Are those… men I see over there? Wow, look at their muscles! That one’s really handsome! I love that one’s HAIR! And that one isn’t really handsome, but there is just something about him!”Another clear sign a woman is a nymphomaniac is how visual she is.
Nymphomaniacs, more so than any other type of girl, place a significant amount of importance on how physically attractive the men they get together with are.
You’ll find higher proportions of nymphos on dating apps, for the very obvious reason that dating apps are all about looks. They’re totally visual: everything there is pics, pics, and more pics! There’s no “how does this guy act around my friends”; there’s no “does he seem like he’s cool and not creepy”; there’s no “does he do anything that makes him stand out.” There is JUST “how good does he look to me.”
For your average woman, this is not nearly enough to evaluate a man on, which is why so few women use dating apps. But for nymphos, dating apps are PERFECT! A buffet of men, and Miss Nymphomaniac can pick the best-looking ones for quick, no-strings sex! Excellente!
In-person, you will notice nymphos pay you a lot of compliments based on whatever they like about your looks:
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“I really like this jacket! It looks so good!”
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“You’re very handsome, you know that?”
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“You have such an interesting nose.”
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“I love how bushy your eyebrows are.”
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“This facial hair is perfect on you.”
They’re very observant about men’s appearances, and know exactly what they like.
They are, after all, connoisseurs of men.
They have sampled widely, and have many prior experiences to compare and contrast each new man against!
(they also, in my experience, are “admirers of penises” and often like to get a good look at your snake – plenty of non-nymphos I’ve banged have never even seen my cock, only FELT it… by the time Mack Johnston comes out they’re already naked and so turned on their eyes are rolled up into their skulls. Not so with nymphos though – they wanna SEE the goods!)
Nymphomaniac Sign #6: She Has Crazy Sex Stories for Days
“That’s when we realized they knew we were up there having sex in the loft the WHOLE time… and we thought we were being QUIET!”If you get yourself into a sex story competition with a nymphomaniac, I hope you’ve got a full roster of raunchy tales to tell… otherwise this girl will run circles around you!
Because nymphos hook up so often, and often do so in exotic, exciting, risqué ways (they are high in sensation-seeking, after all), they have a lot of stories to tell, and they are happy to relate them.
It doesn’t take much to get a nympho regaling you with her zaniest sex stories. The slightest hint of curiosity on your part is often enough. Then you’ll be hearing about the time she got railed in the back of an ambulance, or the time she had sex in an airport bathroom with a guy she’d met in the terminal, or the time she hooked up with the roommate of the guy she’d gone home with from the bar after the one who pulled her couldn’t get it up then passed out.
The more wild, debauched tales like this a woman has, and the easier they roll off her tongue and the more pride she shows in sharing them, the more confident you can be that, “Yes, this girl is a nymphomaniac!”
Nymphomaniac Sign #7: She’s Differently Responsive to Your Arousal Moves
You put the moves on, and she takes it right in stride and puts her own moves on back.Nymphomaniacs are women, and women all respond to arousal attempts from men they like by, well, becoming aroused. Obviously.
However, in my experience nymphos do not respond quite the same way that regular girls do to your moves to arouse them.
When you start arousing regular girls, for instance, they:
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Act a bit wary at the start of it
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Gradually warm up to you
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Ultimately melt into you and turn quieter and more submissive
This is not what nymphomaniacs do at all.
Start putting the moves on a nympho, and she will:
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Immediately tune in, as she knows exactly what you’re doing
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Behave in an excited, playful way, often feeding you back some of your moves
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Either get more complimentary or start questioning your motives (“So what do you want to do here?”)
The difference in how she responds is a product of the increased confidence + directness and lowered femininity/ambiguity you see with these types of girls.
Again, it feels a little like escalating on a guy with tits. When you get that feeling, take it as a probable sign that she’s a nympho.
Nymphomaniac Sign #8: She Projects Sexual Qualities Onto You
“But you know all this already, right? I can tell!”As an intermediate pickup artist, I befriended an incredibly promiscuous nymphomaniac. This girl had admittedly slept with just about every single male friend she had – and she had a lot of male friends. Guys would come to visit her, crash at her place, and “of course we’d end up having sex,” she’d say.
She slept with a parade of guys from the office we worked at. She slept with guys she met at bars. She slept with guys she met at business conferences. She slept with guys she met at classes she attended. This girl’s life was a never-ending conveyor belt of dick. New dick, old dick, she just loved DICK!
I’d already been around some nymphos at this point but this girl was basically Nympho Prime to me then. She was good-looking, too. A good-looking, confident, and really fun nympho. But craziest of all to me was how she projected all these qualities about herself onto me.
She knew I was into picking up girls. Most women at that time (mid-2000 naughts) were very negative about pickup artistry. But my nympho friend thought it was so cool. At the time, I was getting laid somewhat regularly, but not nearly regularly enough, and I was still putting in a fair bit of work to do it. But my nympho friend talked to me like she just assumed I was fucking women constantly; she assumed off the bat I must be completely sexually open-minded (at the time, I was still dealing with some dissonance in that department); and basically just projected her experiences with men to what she assumed my life at the time must have been like with women.
(no matter how good you get, I don’t know it’s ever possible for a man to reach nymphomaniac-levels of pickup ease, except in perhaps a few very niche situations – like being the popular nightclub DJ choosing from among drunk groupies at an after-party)
I’ve since found with nymphos that this trend holds up: they basically assume you’re fucking new girls almost daily (lol… for the guys who are wondering: nobody actually does that, except in rare and FLEETING situations), that you are cool with EVERYTHING sexually (MFM threesome, anyone?), and also that nothing they tell you about their own sexual adventures will surprise you.
(nymphos will also try to get you into rather weird sexual situations, seemingly not realizing or caring they’re weird… e.g., the hot nympho I knew who tried to organize a threesome between her, me, and her hideously ugly fat female friend. There’s nothing quite like sitting in a hot tub with a very hot girl and a horridly hideous one both escalating on you simultaneously, let me tell you)
When you find yourself with a girl who is projecting absurd levels of sexual ease and nonchalance onto you, there’s a very good chance that she is a nymphomaniac (if she’s been regaling you with crazy sex stories herself, the chance goes up to damn near 100%!).
Nymphomaniac Sign #9: She’s Highly Decisive
She makes decisions quick, and usually STICKS to them!The average woman likes to wait to make up her mind until the very last minute:
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She isn’t sure she wants to go out with you until you ask her out
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She isn’t sure she’ll show up on the date with you until the day-of
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She isn’t sure she’ll go home with you until a short while before you invite her
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She isn’t sure she’ll go to bed with you until you get her panties off
Heck, even after she’s supposedly made up her mind, she may well change her mind!
Nymphomaniacs are not like this. They – again, more like the average man than the average woman – make their minds up quickly and don’t get pulled into nearly as much feminine waffling or second-guessing.
The reason why, from what I can tell, seems to be tied to nympho’s more visual focus. Ordinary women are evaluating your behavior. Behavior can change; it can be a front; you might be lying. When she’s evaluating that, she wants to continue evaluating it as long and as thoroughly as she can, all the way up to the limit (i.e., when you go inside her. Or beyond that, if for a relationship!).
But nymphos are more visual. If she likes your look, she likes you. Just like guys will get themselves a hot girl and at first (while trying to lay her) conclude everything about her is great, even if her personality is boring or even a bit annoying, nymphos do this same thing with men too. “That hot guy is really great! Sure, maybe he says some dumb stuff or whatever, but that’s just part of his charm!”
From having seen how these girls’ relationships play out, they, like many guys picking girls purely based on looks, eventually “wake up” after a few weeks to a month or two of banging someone and realize that as superficially attractive as this person is, all the other qualities suck; then they break up.
This seems to be part of why nymphos are constantly having so much relationship turnover: they decide too quickly that a guy is “just the guy for me” based on him being attractive to her (maybe he is good-looking, or maybe he is just her ‘type’). Then they barrel into a relationship with a man they have not properly vetted for relationship fit, based on only a few criteria (appearance, performance in bed, etc.).
If you observe a woman who seems to be unusually decisive, take note! There’s a good chance it’s a sign she’s a nymphomaniac.
Nymphomaniac Sign #10: She’s Very Comfortable in the Bedroom
An all-too-familiar scenario for her.Makes sense, right?
This isn’t her first rodeo.
More like #75.
Nymphos can still have a little girlish shyness when you get them into bed. I once had a wild debauched chick who’d been with heaps of men and never had a long-term relationship despite nearly two decades of dicks tell me sheepishly as I was undressing her that one of her breasts was larger than the other, to “prepare” me. I could barely even tell (also, her breasts were great).
(aside: are there guys who criticize women’s tits their first times in bed together? Another girl, this one with a mostly flat chest, and not a nympho, told me she went to bed with a guy who’d been courting her three months, and when her bra finally came off and he saw her flat chest he remarked, “Oh. That’s it?!” I do not get this male behavior. Seems needlessly hurtful and cruel, no?)
But in general, you are not going to get much last minute resistance, and likely none at all, from a nymphomaniac. Any you do get is going to be token LMR (“Are you sure we should be doing this?”) which you can either easily handle (“Oh I’m sure. You having doubts?” while you kiss her and turn her on) or just ignore and continue to escalate.
She’s not there to fall in love or find the guy she’ll spend the rest of her life with.
She’s there for dick, and dick alone.
Just Because She’s a Nympho Doesn’t Mean She’s Easy!
She fucks a lot. But it’s still not a given she’ll fuck tonight — or that she’ll fuck YOU! The GAME never goes away!I think it’s worth pointing out that just because a girl is a nymphomaniac, that does not mean you can give her a cute-and-sexy look and tell her, “You know you want me, baby,” and then she’s going to jump all over you.
Nymphos still have preferences and they certainly don’t want everyone. Even though they’re more focused on looks, they will sometimes hook up with ugly guys too if they find those guys sexy – but, once again, it is because they found those guys sexy – i.e., there are things the guys said or did or ways they presented themselves that turned them on.
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You, too, can learn to be sexy.Something I have seen from some less experienced guys, who are still a lot more outcome dependent, is them being very frustrated after meeting an obvious nymphomaniac but her not wanting to go home and fuck them. How can that be? they wonder. She fucks EVERYONE! It feels like an even bigger slap in the face than a rejection from a non-nympho!
A nymphomaniac living in a city, however, who puts herself out there relatively often, is still going to get a lot more men who “shoot their shot” with her than she will ever actually hook up with. I calculated it in another article (I forget which one now), but it’s something like even the most prolific nympho, if she’s somewhat active on the social scene, is probably only ever going to sleep with 1% of the men who approach her.
That means, all things being even, a 99 out of 100 chance of rejection!
Of course, not all things are even if you’re a Girls Chase reader.
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You are selecting your targets more carefully.
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You are compliance testing and sifting out time wasters efficiently.
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And your game and fundamentals are tight enough that the odds with any given girl are far more stacked in your favor.
Nevertheless, until you are at the upper echelons of skill, you are still going to meet a lot more nymphos than you are going to get together with.
So don’t take it personal if that wild nympho doesn’t make a beeline for your bed.
She may just need a bit more seduction – or perhaps she’s just not the nympho for you.
With nymphos being 6% of all women, you have no need to worry. There are plenty of nymphos in the sea!
Yours,
Chase Amante
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