(3) Journeyman

Hi everyone. Today we will get less theoretical and more into practical seduction techniques, as I believe it important to vary the style of my posts.

Today’s topic might seem fancy, but it will cover a problem that seducers of all levels face: that is, female mental state changes (or “mood changes” if you prefer) – a problem that frustrates many of us.

No matter where you are in terms of skill, you have almost definitely on numerous occasions met women who seemed really into you at first but then suddenly turned ice-cold. It’s not uncommon and it happens to all of us.

What shocks me however is how rarely this topic is discussed. So that is why I’ve decided to write a post breaking it down for you.

Our approach today is to first discuss why this happens and then, in the second part, to talk about a few solutions to the problem so you know what to do the next time a girl begins suddenly to turn cold for seemingly no reason.

Normally when you see an article title referring to having sex with lesbians, you’d probably assume that it was think an article geared toward women. But, in today’s case, you would be wrong. You would be very, very wrong.

One of my friends is a suave South American stud, and I remember a few years ago he would constantly – and proudly – reference his ability to have sex with lesbian women, even if they had never had sex with a guy before. Sometimes he’d say that he could even convert them.

But most of my friend group just laughed it off as idle talk. They said that the one lesbian (or at least what they thought was one) girl that he was able to hook up with had been a complete fluke. But I didn’t adopt this incredulous attitude. Not I, Colt Williams. I looked at this situation with a great deal of intrigue.

The man is a really good friend of mine, and I knew that not only had he hooked up with a couple of lesbians, but he was also dating a girl who had previously been a lesbian and had never even touched a man before. So I knew there had to be something to his claims; I knew there had to be some kind of method to the madness.

And then as I started taking a more concerted look around me, I noticed something very interesting. My friend wasn’t alone. I also thought of a couple of other acquaintances I had who were dating girls who used to be lesbians. And then to push things further, I thought of some of my girlfriends who were once entrenched lesbians but who now are dating guys (one of them just got married to a man, actually).

So toward the end of last year, I made a more concerted effort to try to unravel this mystery of lesbians. And did I succeed? Well, you’ll have to be the judge of that.

When and how should you show sexual intent? Though the question may seem innocent enough, it actually is at the very core of what distinguishes the various schools of thought in seduction.

Why is when and how you show sexual intent so fundamental?

Because it deals with how you get a girl perceiving you as a lover while not going so far that you activate her anti-slut defense beyond the point of no return.

We all know that we need to display sexual intent when we want to build a sexual relationship, but we also know that, upon meeting a girl, going in for a kiss (read: make-out) is rarely a good strategy.

Since humans are highly social animals, and since skill at navigating the social arena plays such a crucial role in the game of procreation, women have long since learned to screen men for their ability to get what they want with social grace. A man who can graciously communicate sexual intent is likely a man who can graciously get his way in other domains as well. And every woman wants as capable a man as she can get – no matter if he is to be a provider, friend, or lover to her.

We want to be careful here though, as it is quite easy – especially if you’ve been steadily working to improve yourself – to come across as too valuable in a non-sexual way, leading her to writing you off or trying to hook you into a provider-type relationship. But that qualm exceeds the focus of this post.

What we are focusing on today is the importance of finding a balance between showing too much sexual intent too soon, and, conversely, waiting too long (which, as we just pointed out, can be a one-way path to the friend zone or to her deciding to hold you to the more rigorous standards she has for providers).

We’ll be going a little meta as we take a cursory look at the different emphases on sexual intent that the main schools of seduction nowadays have. With this knowledge, you will gain a macro level understanding of three of the main strategies a guy can have for communicating his sexual intent, which means your process will be more flexible and you’ll have a wider perspective of what actually works... and what will work best for you.

So, that being said, let’s dive in.

Hi everyone. Hope you are all doing great. In today’s post I will be discussing how different types of society affect our sexual behavior.

We will start off talking about how social democratic/socialist societies do so, and then we’ll move on to analyze how sexual behavior is affected by conservative capitalist societies.

It’s worth pointing out that I am not vouching for any form of political organization over another; this post is totally neutral; we’ll be talking about both the pros and cons of each. Keep in mind that the topic is how these societies affect our sexual behavior. So anything else related to capitalism or socialism is irrelevant.

I hope this post can give you some ideas on how things are and help you better understand how society affects people’s sexual behavior.

Childhood stories and memories are some of the most ingrained, pleasing thoughts that a person’s mind can evoke in life. It is merely human nature to attempt to relive things from a distant past that were pleasurable or peaceful. Although we have but a vague recollection of these events at the surface, they’re rooted far into the depths of our unconscious.

It is for those reasons that spurring a woman to recall all of these old feelings and thoughts will arouse deep-seated emotions in her that will not only spin her off into fantasy land, but will also create a very strong connection between the two of you.

And yes, I am aware that when we talk about psychoanalytical things and relate them to attracting women many guys shake their heads in disbelief. But, before you cast this one off as mere “hocus pocus”, I recommend giving it a thorough read-through and letting it digest first.

There is truth in science, and why not learn a bit about the dynamics behind deep-diving a girl on her childhood experiences?

Chase’s amazing year-in-review really got me thinking about my own year. It was a fantastic year of growth, development, lessons… and women. I always find it to be a very interesting exercise to look at my year through the lens of women. “Which girl was I hanging out with this month? What challenges did we have? What adventures did we go on? What did I end up learning from the situation? What did I learn about myself?”

These are all valuable questions that seem to arise somewhat naturally when engaging in this exercise. So even if your year only saw two girls, and even if you may have done nothing but make out with them, still, think about how you changed and grew because of these situations.

Going into the year, I knew that one of my greatest challenges was dealing with a certain type of girl. I have a pretty strong personality; I like to make my presence known and I am not afraid to be loud and silly. So I tend to look for girls who are strong, independent, and quick-witted. That being said, I have learned that you can find these attributes in girls who are not necessarily the most extroverted.

So in thinking about how I could improve my seduction skills, I really wanted to challenge myself to see how I could be better equipped to deal with girls who possessed these attributes yet who just happen to be awkward.

I have never done well with dealing with awkward people; mirror neurons are some powerful things, and when you can clearly tell that someone is made somewhat (or fully) uncomfortable by one’s presence, no matter how socially adept you may be, it definitely starts to make you somewhat uncomfortable as well.

But some awkward girls are attractive, smart, and genuinely nice people. So I really asked myself over the first few months of last year: how can I overcome this challenge? How can I better connect with awkward girls who are not so socially savvy?

I asked many friends and colleagues about my challenge. And as I found myself in various social situations throughout 2014, I endeavored to push through my discomfort and actively engage with awkward girls as much as possible instead of excusing myself from the interaction as I had normally been accustomed to doing.

And the results were certainly interesting. So how do you deal with awkward girls? This is what I learned.

If a girl is an attention whore, it essentially means that you’re chasing her. Yet, chances are it’s not entirely your fault. She is probably making you chase her.

In this man’s humble opinion, the attention whore is one of the most socially adaptable and skillful people you will ever encounter.

She has a way of drawing you in and giving you just enough to keep you around, all while refusing you what you really want.

She has a way of making you invest in her life and even of extracting value from you, all while convincing you that you have a shot with her and that it is all for the best.

But at the end of the day, she has no actual interest in having your penis inside of her. She just wants another source of validation. I believe in my heart of hearts that all men know when a girl is just leading them on in order to inflate her ego and her sense of importance.

And yet men walk along, foolishly allowing this to happen. But every once in a while, one of those men has a rude awakening where he realizes that he has had the wool pulled over his eyes.

So today we are going to talk about how to spot an attention whore from a mile away.

These telltale signs are there in every single case. The trick lies in not only recognizing them, but in having the mental and spiritual fortitude to act upon your realization and avoid the trap.