Journeyman have been at it a while and have begun to develop major good habits and success streaks as practitioners of the social arts
Barriers in seduction get the other party helping to move things along. Soft barriers are a special variety: they’re easy to pass to raise her investment.A couple years ago we discussed the powerful tactic of barriers in detail.
An untamed heart is pivotal to true freedom. The untamed heart resists yielding to the ownership of others. Instead it forges ahead toward its own aims.In our previous installments in the “How Women Tame Men” series, we talked about different aspects of how women tame the men they’re with romantically, as well as man around them socially:
In Part 1, we discussed the use of approval and disapproval as key to the taming process
In Part 2, we talked about what makes a man ‘tameworthy’ (in the eyes of a woman)
In Part 3, I show you how to resist romantic taming, so you could maintain a free and attractive persona even within a committed relationship
In this, the final installment of the series, we look at having an untamed heart – at, in other words, being a man incapable of being saddled by anyone else, woman or otherwise; at least not forever.
In part 2 of this series on baits & subversion, we get into sex talk. Use these baits to get women ready to talk sex… then subvert their expectations as you go into it.Today I’ll discuss a simple sex talk transition that I use frequently.
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Many men, especially the seasoned guys on our forums, are into sex talk, but one problem they face is transitioning into the topic. So, today I will share another way to transition into sex talk.
I have already shared these techniques for transitioning into sex talk:
How to Bridge Your Conversations with Girls into Juicy Topics
How to Transition into Sex Talk with a Girl by Using Proxies
EXPLICIT CONTENT! How to Sexualize Conversations with Minimal Resistance
And I’ll have more to come.
Most gambits I have shared contain transition examples. This is a continuation of last week’s post about using baits and subverting expectations to hook her in, stimulate her and facilitate those transitions. The concepts are similar to those presented last week, although tweaked for sex talk transitions.
Using baits and subversions are among my favorite ways of transitioning into sex talk, along with using proxies.
Like last week, you can use these transitions anytime during the interaction. Whether a gambit is suited for early or late game does not depend on the transition, but rather the theme discussed (light vs. bold sex talk) as discussed in part two of my sex talk calibration posts.
PS: Most techniques below are suitable for transitioning into sex talk, but you may also use them as transitions for anything—telling a story to convey high value or discussing a subject that conveys a good frame. See my previous article for details.
DHV stories let you showcase attractive qualities. Yet you don’t want to boast. So what can you do? Nest your value.When you talk to somebody else, that person only knows two things about you:
The way you talk about yourself, the types of stories you tell, and your manner of telling them is all part of this, too. All these things both show and tell.
The name of the game in human social interaction is to convey valuable traits, but do so in an adroit way that others can recognize without it being in their faces. This amplifies the value you have on display, because it positions you as a socially savvy man. Social savvy is a key aspect of a man’s attractiveness; in fact, it is one of our four categories of attractive fundamentals.
So you want to tell people valuable things about yourself, but you don’t want to come right out and brag. How can you do it?
One way that we’ll talk about today is by nesting displays of higher value inside entertaining stories that on the surface appear to display lower value.
The explicitness of your sex talk is key. Too explicit, and some girls will be turned off. Not explicit enough, however, and some other girls won’t be interested.Hey all. Last week we covered sex talk calibration given different contexts. You should consider the contextual factors when talking to a girl about sex. Today I would like to discuss how to calibrate how explicit you should and can be when talking about sex.
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Today and next week, we will discuss transitioning into sex talk. As you know, sex talk helps with many areas:
It’s an essential dimension in sex talk calibration. Combining this post with part one will make you a more calibrated sex talker.
You just met this girl, but suddenly she’s all over you. Are you really THAT sexy? Don’t get excited yet: it’s only the freak test. Here’s how to handle it. Hey guys and welcome back.
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Today I will continue my series on tests. Previously, we discussed the common jealousy plot test (when girls chat or flirt with other men in front of you) and how to deal with it.
This post covers a different test linked to female attention-seeking behavior. It’s often not recognized as a test, so many fall into its trap. This test can lead to much frustration.
It’s what I call the “freak test.” It tests your reaction to overt sexual moves done by the girl.
It goes like this:
A man starts an interaction with a woman.
She immediately makes an overt sexual move (touches his balls, shows her tits, starts grinding on his dick, says something explicit).
The man mirrors her behavior and responds because he thinks it’s appropriate, and she wants it (and rightfully so, considering her behavior).
She turns cold, blocks his move, or leaves to talk with other men.
The man gets frustrated and tries to persist, only to hit a wall.
He did not pass the test. And we will discuss how to pass it today.
Sometimes you’ll approach girls, only to have them flirt with other guys and try to make you jealous. What do you do? Ignore it… or, pull out the BIG guns.Hey guys and welcome back.
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Last week we discussed handling congruence and compliance tests. We also covered “weird tests” when a girl puts you in tricky catch-22 situations. I went through the more common tests, although some tests are unique and require case studies like in this post.
Today I want to resume my discussion about tests. We will address a common but frustrating test called the jealousy plot test. This test occurs when the girl you are with talks to other guys in front of you, even when you have a good hook going.
I won’t waste time describing the situation. If you have been going out for a while, you likely have experienced it.
This situation is more common during night game and social circle gatherings.
The ball-in-her-court text can be very effective at getting flaky girls onto dates. It’s also easy to misuse, however… and even sabotage your attractiveness with.Recently on the forum we had a relatively new member claiming the ball-in-her-court text “doesn’t work” for him, and that women can “see through it” and it harms the man’s frame.
In case you’re unfamiliar with the ball-in-her-court text (which I’ll refer to as the BIHC text from here on out, to save me writing “ball-in-her-court text” fifty times), it’s this:
A text you send a woman after you have tried to get her out on dates repeatedly and repeatedly had her decline or flake on them. The text tells her (in an eloquent way) that you will chase her no more; it also says, however, that if she decides she’d like to get serious about going out sometime, to send you a message. After that, you simply forget all about her and do not contact her again ever unless/until you hear again from her.
As soon as I saw a guy saying women could “see through” the text I knew he must be using it wrong. There is no “seeing through it” to do (if used properly): you are explicitly telling a woman exactly what the situation is and exactly what to do!
It’s what makes the text so effective… in my experience it gets around a 50% text-back rate 2-8 weeks after you send it… I have heard from many of the other guys in our community who’ve used it their reply-back rate is similar.
Yet, newer guys often struggle with this message and, like that newer member on the forum, report that women simply vanish after they BIHC text them and do not return.
So let’s talk about the “who” and “when” of BIHC texting – because it’s clearly not for everyone, in every situation.
Girls you meet in different kinds of nightlife venues have tastes. Some like this type of guy… or that type of approach. The secret? Macro calibration. Hey guys. Welcome back.
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Last week I covered how to calibrate to high-end venues. I presented different parameters or variables you can adjust that help calibrate to maximize your results in high-end venues.
That post looked at the most high-end venues—the top tier. Most cities (unless it’s New York City or London) won’t have super high-end places. You may find higher-end places, but not the top tier. That’s okay because you won’t have to consider every variable. It will be more relaxed.
There’s no true dichotomous and categorical distinction between high-end and non-high-end venues. High-end venues can fall all over a broad spectrum at different places. I reviewed some of the most selective venues when writing my last post because it forced me to provide examples of extreme cases, so I could elaborate on all variables that may require calibration. You may not have to assess every factor. Your focus will depend on the venue, and you have to go many times to experiment and see which variables give you positive results. I cannot break down every venue on earth, but hopefully, my guide will help you adjust to higher-end venues.
Today, I’ll discuss other venues that are not selective, or meet markets, but are usually considered niche venues. It’s a broad category, so anything goes.
First, let’s look at some general info about the “anything in-between” category before focusing on niche venues.
When the situation isn’t perfect for a smooch, use the slow-build kiss. Seed the kiss, get her thinking about it, then –once you’ve prepared her for it – kiss her.Sometimes you find yourself in a situation – whether in public or alone – where you know you should kiss a girl, but the setup just isn’t right. Even if you know how to kiss a girl you just can’t pull it off properly.
You might be physically far away from her, with no smooth way to bridge the distance.
She might be putting up walls, one of those “she wants it but she’s afraid of it”-type scenarios.
You might have created a moment, only for her to pull away or otherwise disrupt it.
If you go charging in like a bull and just go for it, well… it might work.
It might also lead to her recoiling, and now you’ve got a lot more work to do to smooth things out to build back up to a kiss again – when instead you could’ve done it right from the get-go.
The way you kiss a girl right in imperfect situations like this isn’t barreling in.
Instead, it is by using the slow-build kiss – a kiss that primes her for what’s coming, building anticipation for the kiss, before your lips ever touch hers.
