(3) Journeyman

In contrast to what many will tell you, successful men often struggle with women… while prolific Casanovas lead messy, unsuccessful lives. Why is this so?

If you’ve spent any time in the manosphere, you’d be forgiven for thinking success in all the ways a Disney Prince must succeed at will bring you all the women you could ever want.

Just become financially successful, respected by your peers, and a man of upstanding quality, and your princess shall appear! The Disney castle will rise before you; songbirds will twitter beautiful melodies; and you will Live Happily Ever After.

But is this correct?

Is male success the key to limitless bounty with the fairer sex?

My experience and that of thousands of men I have talked to, myriad public figures, scientific papers, and the histories of dozens of cultures all seems to point to the same one answer:

“Not really, no.”

The far more troubling question – and the one we’ll examine today – is this:

Is too much success as a man actually counterproductive to romantic and sexual success?

A high-value man is not just a man who POSSESSES value – he is a man who GIVES value. Here’s how to become one, with a real life case study example.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today, I want to discuss a factor in social circles and night game. It’s a concept we’ve discussed before: giving value makes you high value. In other words, to become a high value man, you need to give, not take.

Givers are valued. It’s what makes them high value. It is as simple as that.

I will delve into details and provide some theoretical background for this concept. We’ll look at examples of how giving value got me at the top of Parisian nightlife. I will share some examples of how other high value men use these tricks, and hopefully, you will see how YOU can use this concept in field.

This concept has rarely been discussed practically in the past. Instead of discussing high value as a mindset or philosophy, we will talk about how it can be useful when you are out. And that is fine; it indeed is both. More importantly, high value is a social concept and a technique! And it is the latter I’ll emphasize in this post.

VAC and SAC are both powerful attraction models. Once you’re familiar with both, however, can you mix and match them for attracting girls – and if so, how?

A little while ago Alek Rolstad asked me to write on combining the VAC and SAC attraction models.

This article won’t be as useful to you if you’re not already familiar with both. However, I will give you summaries of each as refreshers, or if you’re new to them and want to try to follow along.

VAC and SAC are each powerful “attraction models” used to understand where in a courtship or seduction you stand with a woman, and what you must focus on with her next/most. Either model can be used with any method or system of seduction; because each is a model used for understanding and building attraction, they “bolt onto” whatever your seductive approach may be:

• Do you have a series of routines and gambits you use with the women you approach? Use an attraction model to gauge which gambit is going to work best to move things forward with her next. Or use it to diagnose why something that seems like it should work might not be working.

• Are you a free-flowing natural-game type whose routines are more habits than specific spiels? Use an attraction model to determine which way the “flow” of your seduction should go, or put a finger on why you’re encountering resistance (plus what to do to overcome it).

Attraction models essentially serve as guides and troubleshooters to allow you to create smoother seductions and resolve issues that appear within your seductions.

But if you’re familiar with both VAC and SAC, can you “bolt on” both? Should you just choose one? Do they conflict? How do these different attraction models intersect?

Want to know how to pick up a girl in an elevator? You’ve got to be fast… and you’ve got to be GOOD. That ride doesn’t last long. Make it count!

Do we really need an article on how to pick up girls in elevators?

Oh, you’d be surprised!

Want to make it even simpler to isolate a girl you’ve been chatting up? Here’s all you have to do: qualify her first, THEN isolate her.

Hey guys. Welcome back to my series on isolation.

You already know that isolation is crucial when meeting girls in groups, typically in night game settings. Isolation makes the interaction and seduction easier. It generates more intimacy, facilitates rapport, builds connection, and helps to escalate the vibe, reducing resistance from your girl. On top of this, it also reduces being cockblocked. Isolation is essential.

In my first post, we discussed the basics of isolation and its benefits, isolation factors, and using “isolation requests.” We also shared tips to increase your odds of succeeding, such as using seeding, plausible deniability, and reducing the pressure by letting her friends know where you are isolating your girl.

In my last post, the second post on isolation in this series, we went through social dynamics and how that plays into isolation: what makes it more difficult and easier, how to calibrate, and, more importantly, how to deal with challenging isolation situations.

Finally, we covered how important it is to win over the alpha girl when attempting to isolate. The alpha girl usually gets the final say on whether you get to isolate your girl (unless your target is the alpha girl). We suggested that it is wise to ask the alpha, in addition to your girl, whether you can isolate. We also discussed why doing this is often your best call, so if you are curious why, check my previous article.

Today, I want to share another technique that will increase your odds of isolating successfully: qualification. In addition to facilitating isolation, this technique provides many other benefits. I’ve mentioned these in my past posts on qualification, detailing how to qualify and why you should qualify. If you do not know how to qualify, consider this required reading for this post.

I will give a brief recap here, but that may not be enough if you are unfamiliar with the subject. You must familiarize yourself with this because it is a crucial and fundamental seduction technique.

Despite years in a happy, satisfying relationship, women sometimes start turning resentful and pulling away. What causes this – and can it be reversed?

Over on the forum, we have a member with a girlfriend of 6.5 years whose attraction is fading, and who’s begun to decline sex. She is also showing resentment toward him. She’s 34; he’s 40. He’s wondering how to get things back like they were before with her.

I’ve seen this scenario plenty over the years – and been through it myself. There’s a very simple reason girlfriends go sour after years of otherwise happy dating. Your great-grandfather would’ve understood it instantly the first time it happened to him, but times have changed and men don’t learn this stuff from elders anymore.

So let’s have a quick look at what a long-term romantic relationship is, and why women pull away and break up what were, until a point, satisfactory relationships.

When you want to get a girl alone with you but she’s with friends, use it to your advantage. With her friend’s approval, isolating a girl gets even easier…

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last time we discussed isolation basics: the art of getting her alone with you and away from her group of friends.

We covered why isolation is essential and went over basic techniques.

So why is it essential?

• You create more intimacy; it’s only you and her. You have a more connecting vibe.

• Fewer distractions as it is all about you and her. You can focus on her alone.

• You have less resistance when escalating with fewer people to see and judge her, helping her feel more at ease about letting go and escalating the vibe with you.

• Usually, you both move to a quieter area, facilitating verbal communication.

• Moving her around grants you bonus rapport points, as experiencing different spaces with someone makes them feel like they know you.

We discussed different settings where isolation occurs, ranging from natural isolation (when it happens accidentally) to actively isolating your girl with isolation requests (asking her to go somewhere with you). The ley for successfully isolating is how your girl feels about you (unless it is an accidental isolation).

Consider these factors before trying to isolate:

• How compliant she is toward you. (How attracted is she?)

• How comfortable she is around you.

• How much her friends like you, and how secure they are in letting you be around her.

We also covered techniques to increase your odds of successfully isolating, such as seeding, thread slicing, open loops, and plausible deniability.

Today we will dive deeper into actively isolating her with requests. We will focus on group dynamics and how that plays into isolation by making or breaking your isolation attempt. You will learn how to use social dynamics to increase your chances of successfully isolating even more.

The main goal is to understand how social dynamics affect isolation requests and how playing the social dynamics correctly will up your success rate.

And as you will see, it plays a huge role.