(3) Journeyman

Girls you meet in different kinds of nightlife venues have tastes. Some like this type of guy… or that type of approach. The secret? Macro calibration.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week I covered how to calibrate to high-end venues. I presented different parameters or variables you can adjust that help calibrate to maximize your results in high-end venues.

That post looked at the most high-end venues—the top tier. Most cities (unless it’s New York City or London) won’t have super high-end places. You may find higher-end places, but not the top tier. That’s okay because you won’t have to consider every variable. It will be more relaxed.

There’s no true dichotomous and categorical distinction between high-end and non-high-end venues. High-end venues can fall all over a broad spectrum at different places. I reviewed some of the most selective venues when writing my last post because it forced me to provide examples of extreme cases, so I could elaborate on all variables that may require calibration. You may not have to assess every factor. Your focus will depend on the venue, and you have to go many times to experiment and see which variables give you positive results. I cannot break down every venue on earth, but hopefully, my guide will help you adjust to higher-end venues.

Today, I’ll discuss other venues that are not selective, or meet markets, but are usually considered niche venues. It’s a broad category, so anything goes.

First, let’s look at some general info about the “anything in-between” category before focusing on niche venues.

When the situation isn’t perfect for a smooch, use the slow-build kiss. Seed the kiss, get her thinking about it, then –once you’ve prepared her for it – kiss her.

Sometimes you find yourself in a situation – whether in public or alone – where you know you should kiss a girl, but the setup just isn’t right. Even if you know how to kiss a girl you just can’t pull it off properly.

You might be physically far away from her, with no smooth way to bridge the distance.

She might be putting up walls, one of those “she wants it but she’s afraid of it”-type scenarios.

You might have created a moment, only for her to pull away or otherwise disrupt it.

If you go charging in like a bull and just go for it, well… it might work.

It might also lead to her recoiling, and now you’ve got a lot more work to do to smooth things out to build back up to a kiss again – when instead you could’ve done it right from the get-go.

The way you kiss a girl right in imperfect situations like this isn’t barreling in.

Instead, it is by using the slow-build kiss – a kiss that primes her for what’s coming, building anticipation for the kiss, before your lips ever touch hers.

Getting into selective nightlife venues is no easy task. Yet if understand the social dynamics of door entry, and getting in becomes more assured.

Hey guys.

A few weeks ago, we discussed the differences between high-end venues and meat markets and followed up with a post on how to pick up women in meat markets.

I intend to write a post, or rather, a cheat sheet on how to pick up women in high-end venues; however, I realize that I should cover some topics first:

• How to befriend the venue staff to gain benefits, access, and social value. This will be useful in meat markets but even more so in high-end venues where social status plays a prominent role.

• How to get into high-end venues. What is the point of writing a post on how to run these venues if you cannot get in?

I’ll cover the latter topic below.

As you will see, last week’s post about how to befriend the staff to your advantage will come in handy here.

Today we will focus on interacting with the bouncers and pickers and how to behave in the venue line.

Note that in some venues, the bouncers also act as pickers.

Survival of the fittest only goes so far in explaining our adaptations. The rest comes down to sexual selection – and the fitness indicators we use to convey our qualities.

Pop quiz: what do these six men have in common?

• A self-made multimillionaire
• A bulked up bodybuilder
• A renowned painter
• A respected philosopher
• A successful athlete
• A talented pick up artist

The answer will surprise you!

Before we get to that, we need to talk about evolution… the fascinating subject of today’s post.

Along the way, we’re going to explore a lot about the way male and female animals – including humans – advertise their fitness to mates, and exactly how these ‘fitness indicators’ work.

Some nightlife staff are more worth knowing than others. So who do you really need to know? The DJ? Bartender? Promoter? The right connections make nightlife much easier…

Hey guys and welcome back.

Last week, I discussed how to deal with meat markets, and the week before, I went over how non-selective meat markets compare to selective, higher-end venues.

It would have been natural to follow up on how to pick up in higher-end venues since this would be a good contrast to how it works in typical meat markets.

But today’s post is not about that for a couple of reasons:

• What is the point in discussing those venues if most of you are unable to get into them?

• Getting in, as well as “gaming” in those venues involves social circle game. You need to know some staff or key contacts to get in. Knowing these people will greatly assist you.

Therefore, I decided to write two posts before getting to my “how to pick up in high-end venues” guide. First, I’ll cover dealing with venue staff, and next, how to get into these selective places.

Today, let’s review how to deal with the venue’s staff. Whom should you befriend? How do you befriend them?

This post will not cover much revolutionary information, but it will contain many tips you can implement today.

The list below ranks venue staff from least important to most important.

Meet markets can seem like appealing places to head to to pick up girls. But how do you up your odds here without relying just on luck?

July was an amazing month in Paris. Tons of tourists merging with the Parisian local population generated an amazing nightlife.

After the COVID lockdowns, I am finally settled in this beautiful city and have access to great venues.

One is David Lynch’s club, Silencio, one of Europe’s, if not the world’s most exclusive and hard to get into places: amazing crowd, crazy hot girls, and good venue logistics. I’ve been there three times and pulled twice, which is a good score for any venue.

I frequent selective clubs, which usually have pickers selecting the crowd. I prefer these venues to the typical “meet markets” because they have a higher concentration of hot girls plus a good women-to-men ratio—very beneficial. They typically have better in-venue logistics than meet markets, which often consist of one big room, much noise, and chaos, although there are exceptions.

You’re hooking up with girls but it just feels so… empty. What’s the source of this hollowness? Have you outgrown hookups? Are women just too shallow? Actually… it’s something ELSE.

Once you’ve put the work in to climb from unsuccessful with women to more and more successful, a funny thing can happen.

It begins as elation at your success: you’re doing it! You’re picking up girls! You’re having one-night stands!

You feel pride, because you’ve finally made it. You’re living the lifestyle you saw on TV or in the movies and imagined yourself living, but that always used to seem so out-of-reach.

Then you pick up another girl. Then another.

Something starts to bother you. It’s that… you just don’t feel a connection to any of these girls.

They’re just strangers you talk to, say/do the right things with, then have meaningless sex you don’t even enjoy all that much with. Then they leave. Maybe you could see them again after… but you don’t much want to.

You start to feel sour about the whole thing. Perhaps you’re picking up the wrong girls. Perhaps picking up in general is not really the right fit for you. In the back of your head you realized you were hoping for magical connections and memorable experiences, but you’re just not getting that, and you wonder if maybe it’s even possible to get with women… maybe it isn’t.

What you’re experiencing is something we might call ‘hookup detachment’: you’re hooking up, but you just don’t feel connected to any of these girls.

So what do you do?