(2) Intermediate

More women today are lonely, isolated, and/or sexually awkward. They long to feel like strong and independent women — & good sex talk can GIVE them this.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

Last week, I discussed social change and how it affects game, particularly my favorite technique of sex talk, although you can use my observations to tweak other forms of game.

Today, the Western world is more sexually liberated, partly due to feminism and the LGBTQ+ movement (who may have moved from older ideals, turning to their own political ideology while maintaining the ideals of openness and tolerance). So, the old gambits that convey a sexually liberated and nonjudgmental attitude toward sex may be less efficient than before. These gambits may still work as the fear of slut-shaming is deeply ingrained in women and society, but the effects may be lower.

It’s true—unless you are dealing with a conservative girl or if she wants others to see her as one. If so, the good old stuff still works like a charm. It’s the same if you live in a more conservative country.

However, I have noticed that it is easier to get more explicit more quickly with today’s more liberal women. That doesn’t mean you should drop your calibration, though. Calibrating in real-time is what truly matters, but generally, you can get more explicit sooner. And the good old explicit sexual prizing gambits conveying that you are a good lover with plenty of sexual experience and knowledge—a man who can give her the sex she rarely gets and badly craves still works.

Due to the modern social climate, the primary issue younger girls face is a lack of sexual confidence and comfort. Gambits focusing on those work like a charm. It is like the new gold.

So, today, I’ll continue discussing social change, concentrating on how this affects modern world sex talk.

As we will see, recent social change has forged paths for new sex talk techniques. Today, we have themes that work better and new themes with great potential.

Women now are far less worried that men won’t accept their sexuality than they were 10 years ago. Yet what’s still key to them TODAY is sexual COMFORT.

Hey everyone. I hope you are all doing well.

Earlier this year, a forum thread by veteran seducer Skills discussed observations about social changes in 2023. He writes about this annually, summarizing social changes while explaining reasons and providing cues and inputs about calibrating to these changes.

In that post, he mentioned several topics, but one that caught my attention was using sex talk (what Skills refers to as second-generation verbals).

From Skill’s original post:

… Physical game and even to some extent dance floor game are 1000% back, More physicality, more people making out at clubs, more pulls when women [are] out... Physical game is back, last year 2021 coming back, 2022 almost 100% back, 2023 was 1000% back, the use of second gen was pretty much nonexistent last year for most people even in lay reports gone...same with dance floor game back…

It pleases me that physical and dance floor game are returning to pre-COVID levels. I used to be good at it, and I miss it. I have been using it here and there and noticed it is making a slight comeback. Other than occasionally, I don’t intend to return to that game style, but I am pleased to see that physical game is returning.

The second part of his comment may seem less hopeful. I know that Skills refers to sex talk when he mentions “second gen.” His observations are partly correct. I responded to that thread with a more sympathetic answer than what I am about to cover, and most agreed with me in the thread. This is not to say Skills was wrong, but that sex talk needs tweaking.

And that is what I will discuss today.

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As you move about your social life, you are bound to receive compliments. Compliments can be a funny thing: while they are nice to receive, we don’t always know how to receive them. Should we compliment back? Self-deprecate? Accept the compliment with a ‘thanks’?

Part of the confusion revolving around how to respond to a compliment is this: not all compliments are the same.

To respond appropriately to a compliment, first, we need to figure out what kind of compliment it is.

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Women have better sex with disagreeable, sexually uninhibited, conscientious men. Such men simply BEHAVE in ways that raise the pleasure for their partners.

In yet another blow for nice guys, a study reveals what we’ve all long known: women enjoy sex more with disagreeable bad boys.

In particular, the study found that women have the best sex with men who have a few key traits:

• Men who are more disagreeable (i.e., more prone to doing what they want).

• Men who are less sexually inhibited (i.e., more prone to getting wild in bed).

• Men who are more conscientious (i.e., more likely to do a good job in bed).

So, girls like sex better with dominant bad boys who are at ease with sex and take pride in giving women orgasms. No great surprises here!

The findings are straightforward – but let’s discuss them anyway just to clear up any confusion.

Instead of ask a girl out on a date, you can offer her one – as thanks. Frame your date as a sign of gratitude and change the frame on your dating.

What if there was a way to leverage the power of the social factor of reciprocity… and use it to actually get dates with more girls?

There is – we just need to use reciprocity the opposite way from how most men try using it with girls.

When your average man attempts to use reciprocity as a romantic tool, the way he does it is by attempting to ingratiate himself to women. His hope: if a woman feels grateful enough to him, that he has done so much for her and provided so much value to her life, she’ll finally agree to a date with him.

This is simple chasing of women, of course. It’s transparent; women see right through it; and studies show that women in general don’t feel too much need to comply more with men just because those men performed favors for them.

If we want to use reciprocity to get dates the seductive way, we can’t use the same (ineffective) approach to it normal men use.

We need to use it the seductive way.