(2) Intermediate

You’ve got a girl, but you don’t want to keep using condoms, and you don’t trust the pill. Use these 3 solutions to avoid an unplanned pregnancy with her.

Sooner or later you’re going to get into a long-term relationship, if you’re not in one right now.

When you do, you are going to run into the question of, “How do we shag a whole lot, without me always having to use rubbers, yet NOT get pregnancy scares?”

Because we can all agree: condoms suck. Nobody LIKES using condoms. It feels way better raw dogging a girl. It feels even better blasting a full load of ejaculate deep inside her at the end.

But if you’re not trying to knock her up right now, how do you avoid accidental pregnancies (or even those deliberate pregnancy traps sneaky gals will try to lock you in)?

There are various options for long-term pregnancy avoidance, but today I want to talk about the best, in my opinion, for our reading audience: sexy, powerful, self-made men.

As we shall see, the best contraceptives for sexy guys are very different from the best contraceptives for unsexy guys – interestingly enough.

If you open a girl in conversation, but her response is neutral or negative, what then? Follow these steps when you get less-than-stellar responses to your opens.

Hey all. I hope you are doing fine. Today I will resume where we left discussing opening and hooking. Last time I mentioned how some openers contain embedded hooks while others do not and reviewed factors defining whether your opener can lead to a potential hook and when you should focus on hook game.

Today I want to drill down further on opening and hooking. One of my experienced students pointed out that despite his level, there is no such thing as “talking too much about opening and hooking,” and I fully agree.

So, let’s discuss what to do when the hook is absent and the response is negative, neutral, or not as positive as you’d like after you deliver your opener.

The negative response sucks; usually, it’s a rejection, and there’s little confusion about what is happening.

Neutral vibes are confusing. Should you stay, or should you leave? The “not as positive as you’d like” response is likely the worst because you feel a sense of hope, yet the vibe is not positive enough to move, isolate, escalate the vibe, and push the interaction forward. It’s a common situation. You feel that things are working out, the girl seems positive, yet it seems like the interaction is going nowhere. Most men start believing that as long as they keep interacting, sooner rather than later, she will crack, and she just needs more time.

Not so. In those situations, it is better to make a move at the risk of losing the girl than be stuck in an interaction that goes nowhere. So, make that move!

I have more to say but thought it would be better to dedicate a post (next week) because this situation is one many men face, and it is not necessarily all about the hooking phase.

With that said, let’s concentrate on hooking and how to handle positive, neutral, and negative responses.

Starting a conversation with a girl gets easier when you can hook her right at the opener. Certain openers let you do this… as can sufficient attraction.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Today I’ll discuss a topic that is never over-discussed: hooking.

What is hooking? It is immersing the girl in the interaction. You start as a stranger approaching her and become a guy having a mutual exchange. I wouldn’t say it is “knowing” her, but you are moving closer to that point. You become a cool, interesting, and sexy guy who she is okay talking to, her peers are okay talking to, and who she pays attention to.

A successful hook gives you the feeling of being “in.”

I have written many posts about this subject. Some call it the “transition phase,” the phase after the opener when you move from breaking the ice to having a conversation. I prefer the word hooking.

There are several techniques to help you hook:

• Bait and subvert gambits
• Intrigue gambits
• Stories (interesting stories about you)
• Pacing (relaying info about her, women, or people’s realities)
• Catchy subjects (psychology, gossip, sociology, relationship talk)
• Teasing
• Assumptions (cold reads)
• Sex talk subjects (advanced)
• Certain group strategies

The list goes on. You have many options.

Sex talk isn’t the only way Alek Rolstad seduces girls. Discover his full repertoire for picking up women without using his famed weapon of mass seduction.

Hey guys. I hope you are all doing great.

I was chatting with Chase the other day, discussing future articles. I share article ideas with Chase (he is better suited to tackle some topics since they are within his field of expertise) and other topics I may have more to say about.

And this is great because I am often unaware of what subjects might be interesting, and others can point out areas to discuss that I might not think of.

Here’s what Chase suggested:

It might be interesting to see “Alek’s game if sex talk doesn't take.” If a girl is highly resistant or immune to sex talk, what do you do? Just bail? Run a different type of game? If sex talk doesn't work with her, does that mean she'll be closed to sex with you, or do you need to run things with her differently?

It’s a fascinating subject because, after all these years, people know me as “the sex talk guy,” and rightfully so. I do not mind being known as this guy.

Clearly, after 15 years in this game (this summer, it will be my tenth year at Girls Chase—I started writing after being active in this field for five years), I know a bit more than sex talk. Sure, I have perfected this technique since I am undoubtedly one of the inventors. I did not invent using sexual frames, though; many great seducers have inspired me. They’ve used techniques that helped me build my methods, so my repertoire is vast.

And, if I were to use sex talk in all my interactions and outings, I would be bored to death with seduction. I use sex talk less these days, to the detriment of my success, since I consider it a weapon of mass seduction, a super powerful tool with a high hit rate. In my eyes, it is still my best weapon. But I refrain from using it more often than not because, after all these years, I am a bit bored of it. I want seduction to feel fresh and exciting. The truth is, there is a lot of great and exciting material out there.

Some material is good, some amazing, and some as powerful as my own “sex talk,” even though it will always give me superior results because I’ve mastered sex talk at its highest level.

I like to focus on different material because, to my surprise, I can use other material in combination with sex talk. Imagine adding some push and pull—showing mixed signals between sex talk gambits! It can help you “set the scene” or create the ideal setting for a smooth sex talk game (isolation, a great hook, a good social frame, and high comfort levels).

Ironically, I have become increasingly curious about material other than my own after all these years. The irony lies that I should have been curious and open-minded during my early days, not now. I would have gained far more from it back then! But I was too obsessed with sexual frames then, and the desire to create my individual style, so that I would shed away tons of great material would have worked better in many settings than my sex talk, for example, in loud clubs.

From the two previous posts discussing my earlier and recent inspirations, you can likely tell I possess a massive repertoire. Sometimes I like to switch back and forth between various methods. Some are better suited for specific settings (loud clubs, small clubs, big clubs) and others for certain dynamics (all interactions are different, and some benefit more from different approaches).

Some nights, I attempted to get girls by using pure Mystery Method, demonstrating social value and following the M3 model. (If you are not familiar with the Mystery Method, familiarize yourself with it!) However, this was more for giggles, but I made it work. For fun, I have tried using the good old-school Speed Seduction style, also for giggles, and I made this work, too.

However, I use certain styles in combination with my typical sex talk style, and I will describe those below.

Not every girl you’ll meet is a lone wolf. Many come with female friends alongside them! How do you handle these friends so you still get your girl?

You’ve approached a girl solo, or perhaps with a wingman. Either way, the girl you want has a friend. Perhaps a couple of friends. The friends are girls too.

Should you game them?

Ignore them?

Just be polite with them?

How much should you touch them, talk to them, or potentially flirt with them?

The way you handle girls’ friends has ripple effects on your seduction of the girl herself, not to mention her friends’ willingness (or not) to let you ask her out or pull her.

When you talk to girls, talk about other girls. It lets you set sexual frames, communicate popularity with women, and inspire girls to chase you.

Here’s a “golden oldie” of seduction community wisdom:

When talking with girls, talk about other girls.

I first encountered this advice in the first seduction manual I ever read, Swinggcat’s book Real World Seduction. In it, Swinggcat recommended telling girls stories that had other girls in them.

It didn’t take long before I heard this same tactic from other seduction community legends. One advocated talking about “my friend blah blah” and then referring to your friend as “she” and “her” – and if a girl asks, “Is she your girlfriend?” you know you have her hooked.

Another talked about how telling stories about other girls you know or knew allowed women to feel more comfortable around you, showing them you’re not some guy women avoid, while allowing you to show the girls you’re talking to that you have girls just like them in your life already (excellent for attainability).

I don’t see this advice so much anymore, so I figured I’d do a little write up on it specifically, just to get it out there again.