(2) Intermediate

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5 Ways to Get OUT of Paying for Dates (Without Looking Cheap!) [FREE]

In this video by me (a follow-on to forum member Swati’s inaugural video, “$ when to pay $”), I show you just how to ESCAPE from paying for women on dates… without blowing the date by making yourself look like a cheapskate.

Women have better sex with disagreeable, sexually uninhibited, conscientious men. Such men simply BEHAVE in ways that raise the pleasure for their partners.

In yet another blow for nice guys, a study reveals what we’ve all long known: women enjoy sex more with disagreeable bad boys.

In particular, the study found that women have the best sex with men who have a few key traits:

• Men who are more disagreeable (i.e., more prone to doing what they want).

• Men who are less sexually inhibited (i.e., more prone to getting wild in bed).

• Men who are more conscientious (i.e., more likely to do a good job in bed).

So, girls like sex better with dominant bad boys who are at ease with sex and take pride in giving women orgasms. No great surprises here!

The findings are straightforward – but let’s discuss them anyway just to clear up any confusion.

Instead of ask a girl out on a date, you can offer her one – as thanks. Frame your date as a sign of gratitude and change the frame on your dating.

What if there was a way to leverage the power of the social factor of reciprocity… and use it to actually get dates with more girls?

There is – we just need to use reciprocity the opposite way from how most men try using it with girls.

When your average man attempts to use reciprocity as a romantic tool, the way he does it is by attempting to ingratiate himself to women. His hope: if a woman feels grateful enough to him, that he has done so much for her and provided so much value to her life, she’ll finally agree to a date with him.

This is simple chasing of women, of course. It’s transparent; women see right through it; and studies show that women in general don’t feel too much need to comply more with men just because those men performed favors for them.

If we want to use reciprocity to get dates the seductive way, we can’t use the same (ineffective) approach to it normal men use.

We need to use it the seductive way.

Girls on vacation can be some of the easiest girls to pick up. Of course, you must find them first… & know how to pick them up before they leave town!

It’s a little-discussed truth among cold approach practitioners: some of the easiest get-togethers you’ll get are girls you pick up on vacation.

Girls on vacation have a lot of things going for them as targets for your affections:

• They crave memorable experiences and stimulation.

• They know no one and are more open to new people.

• They are present: alert, tuned-in, and out of ‘autopilot’.

• Their schedules are typically wide open and available.

• Often they arrived fantasizing about a tryst with a local.

• They unworried about affects upon their reputations.

Compare this to a local girl who’s not on vacation: trapped in her routine, not seeking stimulation, much more closed to new acquaintances (she already has her local group of friends), non-present (running on autopilot), her day and week all planned out, fantasies pushed to the background, ever concerned about the reputation she maintains.

Picking up girls who are on vacation is basically switching your seductions over to easy mode. It’s why ‘pick up girls on vacation’ constitutes several of my recommendations in my guide to the top 7 ways to get laid and raise your notch count. There’s only one problem: how do you find those girls on vacation to pick up… and how to isolate them from the friends they’re vacationing with – then bed them before the vacation ends and they go home?

Sometimes girls just behave bad. From flaking on dates to stealing stuff or cheating on you… how best to respond to women committing immoral acts?

Commenting on my article about guys resenting women, Ano asked

Hey Chase,

like the article for perspective. Good stuff :)
The thing that gets to me and where I would be really interested in your take is when women actually act imorally, i.e. flaking 15 minutes before an agreed date or not turning up at all, cheating on you etc.
A perfectly Darwinian world doesn't respect the moral code of course, but of "good people" living in our society, you'd expect it. How is your view on when things like that happen, where the reason is the competition, but the women themselves still have responsibility morally?
Thanks so much

It’s an interesting question. Ano’s scenarios here involve a few different threads – morality, self-respect, boundaries. They also involve how you think about other people in general (both women and men), your levels of empathy, sympathy, and how accurate those senses are in you. Personal values on things like punctuality and sexual fidelity also play a big role.

Today, let’s talk about women behaving badly and doing immoral stuff (from being late to cheating on you), and how I recommend you think about such behaviors – and respond to them.

You can tell a story to amplify your charisma. Showcase charismatic qualities in your storytelling, and be amazed how people start treating you different.

In light of our New Year’s promotion of my charisma-generating course “Charisma in a Bottle” (and the new, limited release Sexual Charisma Manual that comes with it until January 7th), I wanted to share some pieces devoted to the theme of charisma.

For this Tactics Tuesdays, we’re going to discuss a simple type of charisma-building tactic that anyone can use, and that builds charisma even if a guy doesn’t have great charismatic fundamentals or advanced charisma game… yet.

I call it “Story-Based Charisma” and it revolves around telling stories that frame you in a charismatic light.

If you think that sounds like it couldn’t possibly work to generate charismatic attraction, you’d be very surprised.