(2) Intermediate

When a girl is laughing a lot but also blocking you from moving forward, what do you do? Simple enough: you tell her she’s blowing it – and WAKE her up!

Here’s a tidy little kit of banter lines you can use to enliven the dynamic with a girl.

Sometimes you’ll get a girl where there’s a good playful/flirtatious vibe with, who is also testing you a lot or being resistant to your moves. There are different reasons this may be:

• She likes you but is treating it too much like “a game.”

• She likes you but is self-conscious due to people around.

• She likes you but not enough to go past flirtation.

You can get stuck in a loop here, continuing the playful banter, going nowhere. But then you aren’t moving forward, the banter gets stale, and the girl gets bored and leaves.

You can eject and go talk to other girls. If you’re somewhere social or it’s social circle, perhaps you’ll run into this girl again. If you’re texting her or it’s online dating, maybe she’ll be easier to crack the next time you talk to her.

Or, perhaps if you eject now, that’ll be all she wrote – you won’t get another real shot with her again.

What you can do INSTEAD – to get yourself unstuck from that loop, flip the frame on her, and avoid having to hit ‘eject’ – is to tell the girl she’s blowing it with you, and put the pressure on HER to get things moving.

Female sexuality is different from male. While men want more partners, women want deeper (and quite often DIRTIER) experiences with those men they accept.

It couldn’t possibly be… nice girls are just nice, right? They couldn’t POSSIBLY be dirtier than men are!

We had a comment from a reader on my article about girls acting loose and slutty saying he thinks men are actually the dirtier, more sexual sex (after I stated the opposite).

There’s a big misconception here a lot of men have because they see “the male desire to have sex faster, with less information, with more partners, held to generally lower standards” and conflate that with ‘dirty sexual urges’.

But male sexuality is DIFFERENT from female sexuality, in some very KEY ways – and this is one of them.

When I say women are dirtier, naughtier, and more sexually deviant than men are, I am not talking about number of partners desired or lack of standards. Sure, if we talk about that, men in general are going to win out: dudes want to get it on with more partners on average than chicks do (though many exceptions abound for both sexes).

No, I am talking about something else.

Moving girls are everywhere. Most men will never try approaching them. Yet there are numerous ways to meet these girls – and open them successfully.

You’re walking down the street and you see a beautiful girl. Her hair, her clothes, her walk, her body – it’s all just amazing. However, she’s walking. You cannot think of a good way to meet her… and so, you let her walk by.

How many beautiful girls have you simply WALKED BY over the course of your life? How many of them could have become your lovers… girlfriends… the future mother of your children… if only you’d just said “Hello”?

In this article, I’ll lay out the dos, don’ts, and strategies to use when opening girls who are moving. First we’ll talk about some of the girls you’ll meet when you start opening girls who’re on the move – then after that, I’ll give you the nitty gritty on how to open a girl who’ve moving.

Let’s go.

The Purity Gambit introduces sexual topics in a way few women expect: by discussing purity. But we don’t mean chastity! We mean purity of another kind…

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

You may remember a recent post of mine about social observations and how the sexual market has changed. Everything changes, although rarely drastically; it changes enough that we can tweak our game while maintaining our framework. We usually don't need to make extreme changes, which is good.

I pointed to gambits focusing on lowering anti-slut defense (ASD), women's defense mechanism that allows them to reject or resist sexual advances to preserve their reputation, so others don't label them as sluts. These gambits often have fewer effects in more sexually liberated Western societies.

Those gambits still work, although less powerfully. Women still fear the slut label subconsciously, and society still has a somewhat sex-negative attitude toward sex, at least deep down. Today, it has a different form (radical feminism).

That said, the idea of being a sexually free woman correlates with more modern ideals of liberal feminism and being a strong, independent woman. Whether or not we agree with these ideals is up to each of us, but as discussed in my previous posts, we can use this to our advantage to create great gambits.

And this is true with today's gambit.

I wrote this gambit quickly as a forum post a while ago, but since it works remarkably well today, I decided to rewrite it, adding more details and tweaks to make it more powerful. I discuss more of the mechanisms below. You are welcome to read my forum post, which contains a discussion between me and several posters: Sex Talk: The Purity Gambit.

Girls nag guys. As soon as a girl sees a guy relaxing or otherwise ‘unoccupied’, the female restlessness and nagging begins. What can you do to minimize it?

If you have a woman, she’s going to nag you. No two ways about it.

Men, in general, agree. Like in this forum post:

It seems like women are hard coded to be restless and turn restless the man that has the misfortune of being in her proximity for too long.

I kid you not, I never had a woman at my house that allowed me to sit my ass on the sofa for more than a hour without demanding actions, time or assigning tasks.

The same moment your ass cheecks hit the pillow surely and quickly comes a "can you help me with..." or "let's go to ....", "are you really just gonna sit there and do nothing"?

Just like kids their brain cannot understand the concept of beind idle to rest and recover, they either sleep or they need non stop entertainment.

But what really makes them unbearable to me are the tasks they feel the need to assign wheter is to get an object in the room they can get themselves, close the curtain, throw away the trash on demand, check for something and so on.

Or this Reddit thread:

This behavior is annoying. It is annoying when men do it to women – I have done it deliberately to women, just to see how they react, and, yep, without exception, they also hate being nagged to do stuff. It is also annoying when women do it to men. Nevertheless, it is primarily women doing the nagging – and often it seems like they just cannot help themselves.

The poster in that first forum comment remarked that

the need for peace is probably the biggest drive not to engange in a serious relationship at least for my taste.

But must a man choose either a peaceful life OR a woman? Is “one or the other” the only way?

We’ve seen five new videos on GirlsChase.TV over the past couple weeks. In case you haven’t kept up on the content there, here’s what you may have missed – and may want to check out.

Pansexualism has become a trendy sexuality… and it makes for great sex talk fuel with girls. Use this gambit in your chats to get the juice flowing.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

In last week's post, I discussed socio-cultural changes in the West that affect the efficiency of sex talk. All my gambits still work, but sexual openness, non-judgementalism, and low-keyness gambits previously had a more significant effect than they do today. We still get positive results, but they are less impactful now. Women back then opened up and loved you for uttering those words. Why the change? Well, slut-shaming is less prevalent, and the culture of female empowerment allows women to be more social about their sexuality. This is not to say that women won't like you for using those gambits; they still have a potent affect-but it is not the magic trick it once was.

However, in some conservative countries with more conservative girls, gambits about sexual openness, lowkey-ness, and reframing sex as positive still work like a charm! So, those gambits have not hit their expiration date yet!

But some subjects simply work better now, like sexual avant-gardism and sexual comfort. The gambit that I am to go through covers the former. It's about having an edge, pushing the norms that help some women become immersed in what you have to say. This allows you to build rapport and get easy hooks. Even better, it opens the gate to juicier, more explicit subjects.