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How to Arouse a Woman

how to arouse a womanYou’ve approached a woman. You went up to her and joked around about her polka dot dress and vintage style. She laughed, and made further inquiry into who this intrepid gentlemen is. You begin to tell her about yourself and launch into a quality conversation.

You starting thinking to yourself: “Wow. This girl is really something.” She tells you an embarrassing story about how she peed her pants when she was a kid. This makes her seem so down to earth despite how beautiful you find her.

You two like the same music. You’ve traveled to some of the same places. You have similar life values. You think, “This is it. Finally, I’ve found a quality woman.”

You ask her out. “Hey, Julia, I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you here…”

She replies. “Yes! I would love to!”

You’re elated. You swap numbers with her as your heart is pounding. Then you say your goodbyes, ready to leap out of your body with joy.

“It was great meeting you. I look forward to our adventure Julia!”

She reciprocates your goodbye: “It was great meeting you too! I look forward to going out… as friends.”

You stop dead in your tracks. You double-take to make sure you heard her correctly. Friends? Did she just say friends? How is that possible?

How is that possible? You did everything right, right? Wrong. In this scenario, you successfully connected with her, but you failed to arouse her.

Connection is an important component of arousal, but it’s far from the whole story.

So if you’ve ever found yourself in this – or a similar – situation, today I’m going to break down everything involved in how to arouse a woman.

Colt WilliamsAbout the Author: Colt Williams

Raised in the American Midwest, Colt Williams made a name for himself in dating with a style based on soulful poetic seductions and playful dance floor antics. His style is all about inspiring girls and drawing them into one’s world. You can book phone coaching with him here, or get a copy of his guide to getting laid on Tinder, the product of months of study and experimentation by him on the medium.


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Anonymous's picture

I'd like to make a suggestion for future articles concentrating on overcoming the conditioning that society imparts on us. First, some background. I'm an Asian American male, with well over 30 years of negative media portrayal of Asian men imbued into my subconsciousness. It was not until the past 5 years that I actually started seeing Asian men portrayed in any other role but geeks, asexual, or martial artists. Even Asian American women shun us and reject us. How much rejection can a man take? How long before it breaks him? That's all it really takes...rejection and time.

What other people see on TV, stereotypes of other races, they take as proof. Perception is reality. I see the same thing on TV and also take it as proof. My reality is based on other people's perceptions. I think it would surprise you to know that most Asian American men are self-loathing and self-pitying. I see the same desperation, loneliness, and sadness behind my brethrens' eyes as I did mine.

I didn't "take" the red pill until several years ago, when I discovered this site and other sites like it.

I've overcome a lot of B.S. the world force feeds me. I stopped watching TV and reading the news, thought from time to time I still find myself indulging in sites where Asian American men wallow in self-pity and lament how much it sucks to be an Asian man in America, with all the negativity and zero positivity that comes with the territory. I know. I know. Stop feeding the negativity monster.

I also do dumb things, like selectively price myself out of the market. By this, I mean that I will use racism as an excuse on why I should not approach or even reciprocate when a woman other than Asian shows any interest in me. No way she could be interested because I'm Asian, I say to myself. As a result of this programming, I no doubt send signals that I am not interested or fail to follow up because I simply cannot believe that she could find me attractive.

So, my request to you is to release a series of articles that helps people like me overcome 30+ years of programming. I've heard of advice like "just don't believe in limiting beliefs" or "a stereotype is true only if you believe in it." But you have to also understand that change is extremely hard when I've been indoctrinated to think one thing for most of my life. When something new comes along, it does take a long time to switch viewpoints. It is even harder when I have an almost lack of experience in which to base my future victories.


Chaz's picture

Hello dude.

It's interesting to read what you say about Asian men. I am not Asian and I live in Mexico City. Most Asian people in this town are middle to upper class residents. And most if not all Asians in this fair city, ONLY date Asians. I am totally into Asian girls but I honestly celebrate this selective behavior they have adopted. I don't know why only Asians date Asians here, but it is like an unspoken law carved in stone. Furthermore, and I'm not being dramatic, like I said, I see this happening everyday, Asian women won't even look at any men that are not their kind!

Don't believe me? Come down here on vacation and you'll get your mind blown away. So whatever is going on wherever you're living, this might be the town for you.

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

I actually really enjoyed reading your comment. As a black man, I can relate to your struggle about overcoming these thoughts of "There's no way they could like me." I will definitely let Chase and the other authors know of your request.

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

I think your comments on relationships are good but only half the story. You emphasize what you can do for your woman, but I think that you still have to keep the chase framing--do things to get her to chase you, not the other way around. Even when you can't replace (easily) I think you still don't want to chase (all the time).

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

I do agree with you comment and it reminds of me that relationships are a never ending seduction process. Women have different needs and you do have to keep her invested in you. Chase won't a fantastic article back in the day dealing with this very issue.

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Take care,

Just Dave

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