(2) Intermediate

Humans have mating seasons – and if you catch a woman at the right (or wrong) time, it dramatically influences your romantic outcomes with her.

Today I’d like to shock you a bit and introduce you to a concept that I’ve been aware of for a good long while but that, in my experience, most men are completely unaware of.

It’s discussed in the scientific community, but not in these terms. In fact, the framing I’ll put on it today will be both startling and (I presume) enlightening.

For all the progress we’ve had in understanding man’s connection to animals since the time of Darwin, we still tend to think of humans as somehow ‘apart’ from other species. This includes how we think about mating seasons; i.e., that humans don’t have them. We just mate whenever.

As I will show you in this article, this is very wrong.

Human beings do have mating seasons, and as in other animals this is determined by female biology.

Dressing extremely well has major benefits for your success with women. It’s not just about attraction, either; it’s also about reputation and comfort, too.

Hey guys, welcome back.

A few years ago, I wrote a post on fashion. This post is incredibly popular, and people on the forums often ask me to write a follow-up.

I have the reputation of being one of the best-dressed guys in the community. One of my main hobbies, next to pickup and seduction, is fashion. It’s not about just buying clothes and looking great or trendy; I care about fashion as an expression and art form. I often went to clubs where influencers and people in the fashion industry go. I used to head to fashion weeks, fairs, and showrooms (by the way, it is a fantastic experience with plenty of free food and champagne; just saying!)

People have asked me over and over again to write fashion guides. This is not what I will do today. I believe fashion is an artistic field, and teaching it is challenging and not something I am qualified to do. I greatly respect fashion and see it as a distinct field, even its own discipline. I am just a hobby fashionista.

Fashion is art, and true fashion people are not the best at writing style guides. Real fashion people tend to be experimental. Asking them for advice might get you some outrageous items you may not feel comfortable wearing.

However, I have a few words to say about clothing and style relating to pickup. And this is what this post is about.

Which of the three types of hooks should you use with the girl you just met? It depends on the setting you meet her in – and a few other conditions.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

Last week, I discussed three types of hooking game: rapport-based, stimulation-based, and social-proof-based. Each provides different mechanisms to capture women’s attention and draw them into an interaction. You “hook them in.”

The first type, rapport-based, focuses on building a verbal connection. The goal is to make the girl feel connected to you. This can occur when you share common interests, she resonates with you, she feels you understand her on a deeper level (through pacing), or when she finds you intriguing.

The second type, the stimulation-based approach, involves stimulating her. You are a source of excitement that she finds enjoyable—being stimulating hooks. You approach the interaction with high energy, open with witty comments, use some banter or teasing, and funny games and gambits.

The third type is social-proof-based hooking. This is when you get the hook before you open by appearing sexy and attractive before approaching your designated girl. You do this through social proof, a social psychological mechanism when people value what others value. Others view you as attractive when they see you interacting with other women or even better when those other women seem interested in you.

These are three great approaches, but when should you use each? This is what I will address today.

Traveler, romantic, and prolific seducer Allen Iverson (not the basketball player) discusses his adventures and seductions. Here’s how he gets laid.

Welcome to this month’s Skilled Seducer award. In this interview, we talk with Allen Iverson (a pseudonym to protect his identity; he’s not actually the Hall of Fame basketball player), a long-time member of the Skilled Seducer Forum and a playboy who’s been on an absolute tear all year.

At the time we spoke (in late October) he’d already picked up and slept with 47 women throughout 2024 – and he still had more time left in the year.

How’s he pulling off his incredible lays?

What’re the secrets to his game?

Dive into this interview, and we’ll get to know his potent approach together.

When a woman hits you with a skeptical accusation, fire back with this clever response: the “others say” tease.

I wrote a quick post on X about these but I want to expand on the concept in a tactical article here.

The next time a woman accuses you of something, agree & amplify while passing your answer through other people’s mouths:

🙎🏼‍♀️ “You’re a sexist!”
👨🏻 “That’s what all the ladies tell me.”

🙎🏼‍♀️ “You don’t have any money.”
👨🏻 “That’s what they told me at bankruptcy court.”

🙎🏼‍♀️ “I’ll bet you have a 3” d!ck.”
👨🏻 “My doctor said I’m a medical anomaly.”

Not only is it funny, and not only does it give you that devil may care charm, it also confuses her because of the claim that it comes from someone else.

Confusion game = ultimate game to use on women who are acting uppity.

— Girls Chase 🏃‍♀️💨 (@GirlsChase) December 10, 2024

An “others say” tease (or a pass-through tease) is a tease uniquely suited for dealing with tests and criticism. It’s a very simple tactic that nevertheless wraps up multiple tech in its execution:

• Agree & amplify
• Pattern interrupts
• Social proof / preselection
• Confusion game

It’s an optimal tactic for women who are skeptical or hostile to you, though you can also use it with girls at any stage with any level of interest.

Let’s have a look at how it works.

When you’re out with girls, other men may try to steal them away. Your mission: to fend such men off without giving up power by looking jealous or needy.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

I intended to conclude my series of posts on giving a girl space and allowing her the opportunity to opt out last week, delving deeper into this concept. However, after finishing the article, I realized there is still more to discuss.

The overall idea is to refrain from acting possessive and locking the woman to you, leaving her few escape routes (through positioning or overt physical moves). It’s better to ensure that she has a way out. This is not because you want her to leave, quite the opposite. When a woman realizes she has a possible escape route, it generates comfort, which makes her more willing to stick around. It makes the interaction less risky for her due to her risk-averse nature (women tend to be more risk-averse than men). The bonus is that she will be more willing to jump into less certain and riskier situations, such as going home with you. This technique conveys attractiveness, non-neediness, and abundance: all attractive and desirable traits.

Last week, I discussed how this fits as a typical rule of pickup and seduction. If you look rationally at it, you intuitively feel the interaction is off and should favor following the rules. What if there is plenty of male competition, and she has attractive guys hitting on her, trying to snatch her out of your arms? Should you still act aloof? Should you make it easy for her to opt out, escape, and go to other men? You do not want that to happen. So, your instinctive urge is to become protective and possessive. You want to block those other men to keep them away. Yet, by doing so, you push her farther away from you by eliciting a desire for her to jump ship. She feels smothered, and you appear less attractive due to your neediness. So, you inadvertently give those men an edge.

So, you follow the rule, giving her space to leave. Often, she will stay. Perhaps it was a test, and you easily passed it, or you appear more attractive to her by acting less needy and especially less so than other guys.

Yet, there is no denying that there will be cases when this is insufficient to keep other men at a distance. Then, what do you do?

This is what I want to cover today.

Women will talk to you in polite or inquisitive but often boring ways. To make it flirtation, you must inject playfulness into your chat with a girl.

Commenting on my article about dumbing yourself down to sleep with smart girls quicker, Jason H asks:

Hi Chase,
Any advice on transitioning conversation to more teasing/flirting in certain scenario's to make the dynamic more fun/seductive
- When she is focused on connection, but you want to inject some more teasing/flirting
- When she is focused on catching up/factual information such as how is this going, how are things at Y etc or other impersonal topics
- In group scenario's where it's more difficult to do this and you want to tease or flirt with a certain girl

Basically asking about identifying cues and opportunities to inject a little more teasing & fun into conversations, or strategies to direct the conversation towards more fun in a socially skilled way.

Thanks!

Sure, let’s talk about this: how do you turn your conversations playful?

Essentially, when you’re dealing with girls who are trying to connect or extract facts out of you, meanwhile you are trying to make it a playful, flirtatious conversation, what you are dealing with is a frame battle. She wants to frame the conversation one way while you want to frame it another.

I want to touch on whether it’s necessary to seize control of the conversation this way – and what can happen if you do vs. if you don’t. Then we’ll talk making your conversations playful.