How to Confidently Fail

I was working with a client who is struggling with all the usual suspects:
I was working with a client who is struggling with all the usual suspects:
Hey guys and welcome back.
Last week I shared a case study where I detailed a night out all the way from my preparations to the moment I entered the venue to the point where I finally approached the girl of the night.
The seduction was detailed, and the night was full of surprises, challenges, and wildcards that I had to deal with. I also covered my mindset, strategic thinking and decision-making.
Most importantly, I detailed the techniques used, explained why I used them, how they work and how to proceed from there, as well as other analysis.
At 11,000 words the report got VERY long. It is probably the longest report I have ever written.
The one issue that I may see coming is that people read through this long article and think to themselves: “Oh my god – that is a lot of work” or “Oh, so that’s how you do it – it looks so complicated” and some may even think: “I could never pull this off,” or “I could never spend all my spare time working on pickup and seduction”.
And if anyone felt these things, then I sympathize. Because that night I met a girl I would consider my “personal 10” and felt like delivering 200% to secure the deal as close to 100% as possible. Additionally, she happened to be one of those Instagram or attention-seeking women, who tend to be a pain in the neck to deal with (and honestly not always worth it – they often have shallow personalities to boot).
What is more, I had to deal with plenty of logistical hurdles as well as wildcards, meaning ADDITIONAL compliance was necessary and reaching what I would consider “the golden hook” (i.e. being pulled to the bathroom) was something to opt for.
I also had low momentum due to being confined to my apartment during COVID-19 lockdown for a long time and being out of shape having gained a bit of weight during that time. For these reasons I did not have a natural seductive vibe working for me, nor its associated X-factor. Hence, I had to make up for it.
If I had been on fire, experiencing “flow state” and the “imposing, sexy presence” that comes from it, I would have maybe gotten more for free. And again, as I mentioned, we all experience ups and downs.
What I want to do now is share another, shorter report where things went smoother, faster, and were easier. Basically, I want to give you a report that is a bit different from the last one.
In this article, I’ll debunk a few misconceptions about dating apps and online game.
After that, I’ll give you some ways you can use today to quickly start getting better results with girls online.
Let’s start with those misconceptions.
Some guys in the pickup community steer clear of online dating apps.
The reasons largely boil down to:
#1. It doesn’t work/it’s a scam
#2. It works for some guys but won’t work for me because of (insert excuse)
#3. It’s too much work
#4. It’s “cheating”
However, I can tell you with confidence that these reasons are nonsense.
Let’s explore them one by one.
If you've ever hit a relationship stumbling block, you've likely fielded relationship demands from a woman.
A 'relationship demand' is what we call it when a woman tells you, "Here's how it's got to be," or, "This is what you must do to be with me."
She sets out a mandatory term for the continuation of the relationship... which puts you in a bit of a pickle (assuming you'd like that relationship to continue).
In the Western world, everyone likes to talk about equality and the unalloyed goodness of female empowerment and all that. Yet the reality is relationships are hierarchies. One person or other will be on top.
When a woman makes demands, and you concede to them, what happens to your position relative hers inside the hierarchy?
Well, your position goes down, while hers goes up.
She accrues more relational power, while you have less relational power.
For reasons we won't get into here, this is not a desirable outcome. (if you need to understand why letting a woman be the man in a relationship is bad, read this article)
However, when she hits you with a demand, it puts you in a tight spot:
Give into the demand, and yield relational power to her, or
Refuse the demand, and make her feel the relationship is hopeless
Today I'll share with you an incident of how I handled relationship demands from a woman, and detail for you why and how I handled them the way I did.
Back when I was hopeless with women, I wanted to claim this smoking hot barista as a trophy wife.
At only 25 years old, she had the confidence of a Somalian princess. She was well-traveled and far more experienced with men than I was with women.
Every day I’d make sure to buy my coffee from her. Over a few months of small talk, we became a bit familiar. She wasn’t a friend but she always smiled when she saw me.
I racked my brain for ways to impress her enough to make her horny for me. Finally, I had the biggest most brilliant idea:
I would show her how amazingly creative and witty I was.
Hey guys!
Today I’ll outline the four worst, two limbo, plus six best places to pick up girls.
This list is for the general reader, and the venues aren’t a specific level of difficulty.
Of course, if you’re already cut your teeth in one type of venue and have more experience there, your mileage may vary.
There's a tactic you can use to inject a lot of playfulness and looseness into your interactions with women.
It's a thing I call 'behavior mirroring'.
You've probably done this yourself from time to time. Usually if you've done it, you've done it to be playful, to break tension, or to point out something ridiculous a woman's doing.
All you're doing with it is mirroring for a woman - playfully - behavior that either she herself has displayed, or that women stereotypically display.
You can cover the whole gamut of extremes with this, too: from very subtle mirroring, to outlandish, over-the-top mirroring.
Let's have a look at how it works.
As I’m about to close my series on indirect game, I’ve decided to share a report to serve as an example of how I use this game style.
In the comments sections of my previous articles, readers told me I did not share any (or enough) examples of how to use indirect game. Frankly, they were not wrong to request this. After all, examples are good pedagogic tools.
Therefore, I decided to share a report that shows how I use indirect game. I usually don’t write lay reports since they take a lot of time to type (and I’m known to be overly detailed). That said, any good seducer will agree that writing reports about your nights out and reading others’ reports are some of the best tools a seducer can use to become good.
If you decide to read through this long post, I promise you that you will become a BETTER seducer. Not only will techniques be exemplified, but you will also learn how everything comes together. I’m trying to make this a hybrid between a report and a guide.
I’ve written other reports, most using some form of indirect game:
The first part of this report covers the preparations, the early time of the night, the “getting back into it” phase when you are dealing with bad state and momentum (as you will see, this night is a bit unique since I was rusty because of the COVID-19 lockdown).
However, if you prefer reading about the interaction with the girl I pulled (I will cover this in great detail with all the juicy information), then skip to part two, labeled “The Wizard Strikes Back.” I would still recommend reading the entire article.
Whether she's someone you're dating or just one you're talking to, you can go a little crazy when a girl pulls away.
In this guide I'll show you exactly how to deal with this situation, including:
How to understand why she pulls away
Ways to troubleshoot the root cause
A method to halt her pulling away
Steps to keep her around a long, long time
Let's begin.
Have you ever heard of the Madonna-whore complex?
When I was young, there was this special girl.
She played volleyball for a rival school’s team. When she’d come to play at my school, I’d watch her bounce and frolic and think: “If only she were my girl, I’d be the happiest guy in the world.”
I built her up in my imagination to be the perfect girlfriend, even though I’d never met her. She was my “one-itis.”
Fast forward a couple years. I entered high school, infiltrated her social circle, asked her out, and wow, she became my first girlfriend!
I spent a few months going to her house, making out on her couch, annoying her while she did her homework. I never slept with her because I “knew” she wasn’t ready (hah).
In retrospect, I was the one who wasn’t ready. I was young, needy, and insecure. So she dumped me.
I cried many boy tears. I left roses on her doorstep. I wrote her love letters. And then, a few days later, I saw her making out with the captain of the rugby team in front of my locker.
What? My angel must have been seduced by this evil bastard! He drugged her. He brainwashed her!
Many years later, I found her on Facebook. “You were my first girlfriend. I was crazy about you,” I said.
“Oh, I remember that. I was such a slut back then,” she replied.
And pop went my illusion of the perfect girl. By this point, I was an experienced man-whore. But I still had a Madonna-whore complex, and I saw her as a Madonna.