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Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

How to Deal With Your Physical Insecurities

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By: Darius Bright

A few friends and I were sitting at a table, careless fluff talk and barely appropriate jokes going all around, when someone made a joke that had everyone cracking up. Too bad I can’t recall the joke. But the point is that we were having a good time. After all, as most people, I love laughing and smiling (that goofy photo next to my name is there to prove it).

Then one of the friends commented – “Why do you cover your mouth with your hand when you’re laughing?”

“I do? Didn’t even notice it.”

I then got noticeably embarrassed and attempted to change the subject.

In truth, I was actually aware I was doing it and the fact that this friend, I’m sure without any bad intentions, drew attention to it made me both angry and uncomfortable.

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Here’s the deal: at the time I had properly crooked teeth, something I’d been very insecure about; and covering my mouth with my hand (or any other object I might be holding in my hands) was my way of masking this insecurity. Unfortunately, it wasn’t as nonchalant as I imagined and my friend’s comment made it painfully obvious.

And even though I didn’t want to admit it at the time, this seemingly insignificant insecurity was impacting my life in more ways than just trying to hold in a laugh or a smile before I can cover it up with an awkward gesture.

Indeed, in my mind I felt flawed; I imagined how life would be so much better if only I had a beautiful smile – I would instantly become so much more confident and surely all my female classmates would find me incredibly more attractive.

Also, if I saw a woman I liked and then it turned out that she had a great smile, in my mind this would instantly make her “out of my league” because there’s no way any woman with great teeth would find me attractive. Silly, I know.

How to Find and Pick Up MILFs

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By: Colt Williams

Has the modern mating game been making you weary? Are you tired of dealing with one flighty, stuck-up, flaky girl after another who wouldn’t know a strong man if he bit her on the neck?

Well then my friend, the MILF is the answer for you. You’re not going to deal with any of the nonsense that you find with younger girls when you learn how to start seducing their older counterparts. What’s so great about MILFs?

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  • They are more sophisticated. Even if a MILF is not the smartest person you have ever encountered, she will at the very least have more knowledge of the world than younger women. There is something to be said about a woman who has done some traveling (usually), changed career paths, experienced pain with family and friendships, and has come to understand the true nature of the world.

  • They are realists. The fact is that MILFs do not look at the world through rose colored glasses. They don’t have time to play games because they know how the world really is. They know that they are past their prime and will no longer have droves and droves of men chasing after them. They know that they have to worry about bills and putting food on the table and retirement. So they simply don’t have time to be playing around on their smartphones stringing guys along for their own entertainment. They just want a quality lover who will be on the same page.

  • They have emotional maturity. Most young girls will drive you crazy with how, well… crazy they can be. Never sure of what they want, how to communicate, or what direction they want to take their lives, young girls are always inviting drama into your life. On the other hand, older women are very clear and unapologetic with their desires and know how to communicate their emotional needs to men.

So how do you go about seducing MILFs? Let’s talk how:

Is Casual Sex Okay?

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By: Alek Rolstad

Is casual sex morally acceptable? Historically, people have viewed sex as a serious matter that should be restricted. And social conventions have typically told us to withhold sex and control our human lusts.

Most religions therefore consider promiscuity a sin; something immoral that was even punished by death in the Middle Ages. The sanctions for promiscuity have become way lighter since then, and in the modern day West, the sanctions have for the most part become only of a social matter: judging, exclusion, and shame.

Though I’ve covered it in some of my previous articles (like this one or this one), in a nutshell, female sexuality has been restricted in order to create order and avoid chaos. Remember, the majority of males out there compete over the provider role, and therefore are not very sexually attractive to women in comparison to the small minority of lovers – those men whom women find sexually attractive and who provide them sexual satisfaction.

Day Game 101: A New Way to Open

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By: Jeff Stanton

In the first part of this series, you learned why you should consider making day game a normal part of your routine and how to get started meeting women during the day by learning the fundamentals. To quickly recap what those are, your fundamentals are:

It’s extremely important that you master these, because everything you will learn throughout the rest of this series depends on you having a firm grasp of them. It may take a bit of time, but you will master them faster than you may think, and it’s certainly well worth the time and effort it takes.

Now we shall move on to the next part: walking up to a woman and getting to know her. This is often called “opening” women.

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What to Say to Her Next: Interaction Outline Pt. 4

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By: Mateo Navarrete

So far in this series, we have discussed a customizable conversation starter that we can implement right now as we focus on internalizing the attractive behaviors women desire. We have also explored the five fundamentals of conversation:

  1. Voice
  2. Awkward Tendencies
  3. Early Attractive Conversation
  4. Screening & Rewarding Effort
  5. Connection Building

In addition to conversation, we have learned three other ways to escalate an interaction: physically, logistically, and emotionally.

You have been learning all this so that you may become more effective at creating spontaneous conversation with a woman to whom you are attracted. Over the next several posts, we will dive deeper into the social value matrix to explore and get a better understanding of the method behind the madness of attraction and communication.

Social Value’s Role in a Good Seduction

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By: Alek Rolstad

If you’ve been following my posts, you know that I am from the sexual game school of thought, where the ideal way of seducing women is to make them perceive you as lover; as a man of sexual value; a man who they know can satisfy their sexual needs.

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In order to do so, it is key that you display sexual intent – which you do by, just for starters, escalating quickly, talking about sex, and using sexy eye contact. Unless you do so, you risk being perceived as a provider; a man whom women may find attractive, but not in a purely sexual way.

So, as you know, I have often vouched for being sexual as a way to attract women. Although there are no disagreements that communicating sexual intent works and is always necessary, even if you don’t play the “sexual game”, you will still have to escalate things sexually sooner or later anyway – the question then remains: what is the role of social value in seduction, if it has any at all?

Some of you may suspect that I believe social value plays no role in seduction, or worse, that it might get you perceived as a provider rather than a lover. However, this is not actually the case.

How to Have Sex with Lesbians (When You're a Guy)

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By: Colt Williams

Normally when you see an article title referring to having sex with lesbians, you’d probably assume that it was think an article geared toward women. But, in today’s case, you would be wrong. You would be very, very wrong.

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One of my friends is a suave South American stud, and I remember a few years ago he would constantly – and proudly – reference his ability to have sex with lesbian women, even if they had never had sex with a guy before. Sometimes he’d say that he could even convert them.

But most of my friend group just laughed it off as idle talk. They said that the one lesbian (or at least what they thought was one) girl that he was able to hook up with had been a complete fluke. But I didn’t adopt this incredulous attitude. Not I, Colt Williams. I looked at this situation with a great deal of intrigue.

The man is a really good friend of mine, and I knew that not only had he hooked up with a couple of lesbians, but he was also dating a girl who had previously been a lesbian and had never even touched a man before. So I knew there had to be something to his claims; I knew there had to be some kind of method to the madness.

And then as I started taking a more concerted look around me, I noticed something very interesting. My friend wasn’t alone. I also thought of a couple of other acquaintances I had who were dating girls who used to be lesbians. And then to push things further, I thought of some of my girlfriends who were once entrenched lesbians but who now are dating guys (one of them just got married to a man, actually).

So toward the end of last year, I made a more concerted effort to try to unravel this mystery of lesbians. And did I succeed? Well, you’ll have to be the judge of that.

Fundamentals of Basic Conversation II: Interaction Outline Pt. 3

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By: Mateo Navarrete

Previously, we covered common mistakes to avoid that have the potential to hinder our success.

We’ve talked about the importance of having a conversation outline as well as a customizable conversation starter you can implement today with the girls you are meeting.

In the last article we explored how our voice, awkward tendencies, and early attractive conversation affect our communication with women. In this post, more concrete examples of effective and ineffective behavior will be discussed, as we discover the final three fundamentals of conversation. Those are:

  • Screening
  • Rewarding effort
  • Connection building

However, before diving further into the nuances of conversation, let’s explore the why behind the what and the how of communication in regards to attraction so we can better understand what makes our behavior effective or ineffective.

3 Ways to Show Her Sexual Intent

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By: Alek Rolstad

When and how should you show sexual intent? Though the question may seem innocent enough, it actually is at the very core of what distinguishes the various schools of thought in seduction.

Why is when and how you show sexual intent so fundamental?

Because it deals with how you get a girl perceiving you as a lover while not going so far that you activate her anti-slut defense beyond the point of no return.

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We all know that we need to display sexual intent when we want to build a sexual relationship, but we also know that, upon meeting a girl, going in for a kiss (read: make-out) is rarely a good strategy.

Since humans are highly social animals, and since skill at navigating the social arena plays such a crucial role in the game of procreation, women have long since learned to screen men for their ability to get what they want with social grace. A man who can graciously communicate sexual intent is likely a man who can graciously get his way in other domains as well. And every woman wants as capable a man as she can get – no matter if he is to be a provider, friend, or lover to her.

We want to be careful here though, as it is quite easy – especially if you’ve been steadily working to improve yourself – to come across as too valuable in a non-sexual way, leading her to writing you off or trying to hook you into a provider-type relationship. But that qualm exceeds the focus of this post.

What we are focusing on today is the importance of finding a balance between showing too much sexual intent too soon, and, conversely, waiting too long (which, as we just pointed out, can be a one-way path to the friend zone or to her deciding to hold you to the more rigorous standards she has for providers).

We’ll be going a little meta as we take a cursory look at the different emphases on sexual intent that the main schools of seduction nowadays have. With this knowledge, you will gain a macro level understanding of three of the main strategies a guy can have for communicating his sexual intent, which means your process will be more flexible and you’ll have a wider perspective of what actually works... and what will work best for you.

So, that being said, let’s dive in.

We’re Hiring – Come Write for Girls Chase

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By: Chase Amante

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