Seduction

Whether it is better to actually seduce women with your words or just stay quiet and escalate physically is a commonly asked question. Different schools of thought will tell you different things and might even confuse some of you in the long run.

Some claim that it is better to use physical escalation – as in touching her and looking at her deep in the eyes and cutting the physical spaces between you and her. Others claim that is it the things you say that matters most; that you attract women verbally. It is also common to read about seduction systems that entail both verbal and physical game.

Personally, I have tried it out both ways and I find both equally good. At least that’s how I feel. They are both fun to pull off in practice in their own ways. One gives you an adrenaline kick (physical game), whereas the other gives you a feeling of creating deeper connections with girls (verbal game).

In this post, I will discuss the pros and cons of both ways so that you can make a more informed decision as to which one suits you better.

It is the goal and dream of young, middle-aged, and seasoned men everywhere. In fact, I am convinced that 90% of the time that males go out it is for this purpose: the one-night stand.

There are few things more satisfying than going out, meeting a new sexy girl, executing your game perfectly (or probably just good enough), and then taking her home for a one-night stand.

But on the flip side of this coin, it can be an extremely disappointing feeling to go out with the intention of getting a one-night stand and then, sadly, falling short. And droves of men unfortunately experience this frustration on a nightly basis.

Fact is, most guys have only the haziest of ideas about how to get a one-night stand.

There was a period of nearly 10 months where I slept with quite a few girls, and every single one was a one-night stand. During this period, I learned a thing or two about really fine-tuning my process to this end.

And now I’m pleased to share with you what I’ve learned about getting a one-night stand with sexy girls.

I hope you get a lot from this article, but the key take away should be this: in a one-night stand, your process and decision-making are just as important as your appearance and game. So keep that in mind.

In the last couple of posts, we have examined the series of events that had to happen both logistically and emotionally in order for an escalation to progress successfully from meet to mate.

We understand that logistical escalation refers to, from a simplified perspective, where to do something, while emotional escalation refers to when to do something.

This information is important to understand, as the majority of time spent during your learning curve when approaching and socializing will be learning when to do (or say) whatever it is you do (or say).

In other words, when you are in an interaction with a woman to whom you are attracted, you will learn, through trial by error, to recognize the signals that she is communicating to you (mostly non-verbally), as to when to ramp up, or slow down your escalation.

Women are all different, so when you are able to recognize the emotions a woman is experiencing, you will be able to connect with her quickly, effectively, and then build upon this connection to guide the interaction to the Optimal / Desired Reality.

A good way of looking at emotions is to view them as filters. These emotional filters are the keys to decoding her communication.

Previously, in “Escalation Series Pt. 1: The Logistical Timeline of Events”, we were able to breakdown and plot the series of logistical events that had to happen in order for the desired reality – consensual physical intimacy – to exist in an interaction that successfully progressed from meet to mate.

We also learned that, just as there were external (for example, logistical) elements that had to occur, there also were internal (read: emotional) elements that were needed in order for an interaction to successfully progress from the approach, throughout numerous moments of posting up and moving together, until eventually, and inevitably, leading to the desired reality of physically bonding together.

In part 2 of this series, to gain a better understanding of how to effectively escalate an interaction from meet to mate, we are going to take a closer look at this process by examining it through the lens of emotions!

Once again, as a bit of a disclaimer, understand that some of this information will seem very abstract, so I will attempt to give concrete examples whenever possible. At the same time, understand that as you gain more experience while internalizing these effective mindsets and behaviors, the information will become clearer and less abstract.

Let’s begin!

Has the modern mating game been making you weary? Are you tired of dealing with one flighty, stuck-up, flaky girl after another who wouldn’t know a strong man if he bit her on the neck?

Well then my friend, the MILF is the answer for you. You’re not going to deal with any of the nonsense that you find with younger girls when you learn how to start seducing their older counterparts. What’s so great about MILFs?

• They are more sophisticated. Even if a MILF is not the smartest person you have ever encountered, she will at the very least have more knowledge of the world than younger women. There is something to be said about a woman who has done some traveling (usually), changed career paths, experienced pain with family and friendships, and has come to understand the true nature of the world.

• They are realists. The fact is that MILFs do not look at the world through rose colored glasses. They don’t have time to play games because they know how the world really is. They know that they are past their prime and will no longer have droves and droves of men chasing after them. They know that they have to worry about bills and putting food on the table and retirement. So they simply don’t have time to be playing around on their smartphones stringing guys along for their own entertainment. They just want a quality lover who will be on the same page.

• They have emotional maturity. Most young girls will drive you crazy with how, well… crazy they can be. Never sure of what they want, how to communicate, or what direction they want to take their lives, young girls are always inviting drama into your life. On the other hand, older women are very clear and unapologetic with their desires and know how to communicate their emotional needs to men.

So how do you go about seducing MILFs? Let’s talk how:

So far in this series, we have discussed a customizable conversation starter that we can implement right now as we focus on internalizing the attractive behaviors women desire. We have also explored the five fundamentals of conversation:

1. Voice
2. Awkward Tendencies
3. Early Attractive Conversation
4. Screening & Rewarding Effort
5. Connection Building

In addition to conversation, we have learned three other ways to escalate an interaction: physically, logistically, and emotionally.

You have been learning all this so that you may become more effective at creating spontaneous conversation with a woman to whom you are attracted. Over the next several posts, we will dive deeper into the social value matrix to explore and get a better understanding of the method behind the madness of attraction and communication.

If you’ve been following my posts, you know that I am from the sexual game school of thought, where the ideal way of seducing women is to make them perceive you as lover; as a man of sexual value; a man who they know can satisfy their sexual needs.

In order to do so, it is key that you display sexual intent – which you do by, just for starters, escalating quickly, talking about sex, and using sexy eye contact. Unless you do so, you risk being perceived as a provider; a man whom women may find attractive, but not in a purely sexual way.

So, as you know, I have often vouched for being sexual as a way to attract women. Although there are no disagreements that communicating sexual intent works and is always necessary, even if you don’t play the “sexual game”, you will still have to escalate things sexually sooner or later anyway – the question then remains: what is the role of social value in seduction, if it has any at all?

Some of you may suspect that I believe social value plays no role in seduction, or worse, that it might get you perceived as a provider rather than a lover. However, this is not actually the case.