Seduction

Note from Chase: this is our second article from Jerome Wu, a friend of mine originally from China, who has been living in the United States (and sleeping with girls off of cold approach in nightclubs, the street, and the beach) for many years now. Three years ago, Jerome talked to us about Asian guys and white girls; today he’s here to talk about another sticking point for many men: being short. Here’s Jerome.

To be tall and handsome, is that really the splitting image of every woman’s true desire? Let’s look at what it’s like to be a short guy in the dating game, and some strategies we can use to alleviate whatever shortcomings might be associated with being a short seducer.

I measured myself the other day, and I found that technically I stand at 5 foot 5 ½ inches. Mr. Chase has mention in some articles on this site that I am near 5’3” to 5’5” – I am hurt, butthurt that is, by the inaccuracy... LOL.

I was supposed to write this article in 2014 – I’m kind of late! I didn’t understand the question Chase presented to me. I just didn’t think my height was an issue until I researched it. I also wrote an article on being Asian. Writing all these articles on being Asian, short, and introverted has made me somewhat insecure. I never realized this was such an issue until now. I guess I’m totally late again, or perhaps I simply forgot about this issue, or maybe I’ve just been too busy living my life...

Anyway, let’s begin.

I have never written an article like this before, so bear with me. It is going to be half Field Report from Tinder and half explanation. I will be quoting the conversation I had with “Sarah” in full, as well as detailing parts of her Tinder profile because the contrast you will soon see is what I truly wish to highlight today.

This article is aimed at the guys who are still learning the true nature of female humans, which is as simple as the true nature of all other female primates. This may be a bit of a red pill article for you – and I truly hope and intend that this is the case. I chose in the end not to sleep with the girl, for reasons you will see later, but that takes nothing away from the value of what follows.

I will post bits of the conversation in regular font, with my comments below in bold where necessary.

But first, the relevant parts of her Tinder profile:

“I am absolutely a hopeless romantic. I’m trying to find my future husband on tinder... I am a mother of an angel... I’m looking for my man, my lad, my soulmate, my best friend; nothing less than that, however, Jesus is my main man.”

She is, obviously, portraying herself as a good Christian girl who just wants to settle down with a good man. While it may be tempting to believe the things a woman says, usually it is a smokescreen meant to separate Providers from Lovers. That is a topic worth studying in itself; one that has been written about on this website before and is also a featured chapter in my book.

Welcome back to our series on dance floor seduction. Prior editions:

• Part 1: Dance Floor Foundations
• Part 2: Warming Up on the Dance Floor
• Part 3: Targeting on the Dance Floor
• Part 4: Dance Floor Opening
  

Previously, we discussed some theoretical elements of dance floor seduction. We also discussed how to get in mood, while focusing a lot on opening and selecting the right target.

Today we will start discussing the “attraction building phase”.

It is late at night, your hands wrap around the wheel, the car eases out onto an endless stretch of highway. The road hums beneath you. Your breath is slow... In... And out... Your eyes are clear and steady as things come and go. You tune out the need to "get where you are going" and you just drive.

Life in that moment is just a sequence of breaths and subtle adjustments, and you never feel out of place or "off the mark". Your mind extends out into the horizon, and you lie in wait, perfectly ready.

Sometimes when we talk about women we get too focused on what is supposed to be happening that we forget how good it feels to not have to do a thing and just remain on target.

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I’m excited to present our third Girls Chase Podcast with Varoon Raja, featuring GC author and discussion boards member Drexel Scott.

In this podcast, Drexel discusses the following topics:

Okay, so last time I introduced the topic of dance floor seduction, and I also shared some facts and cleared up some common myths surrounding the topic.

Today we will discuss the phase that takes place before you even open. Next time we will cover opening.

As we do not have the ability to use conversation much on the dance floor, we will simply not have the ability to do damage control in case we don’t get the desired response from a girl. Secondly, we will have a limited ability to convey our amazing personality. In other words, we will have fewer tools to help ensure a smooth approach.

So in a way, it becomes a numbers game – if you approach enough girls, you will most likely find a receptive one. However, in this post (in addition to learning how to approach properly on the dance floor, which we will cover next week) it is also key to spot the receptive girls on the dance floor – not every girl is going to be receptive, and many might simply be seeking attention.

But other factors also play in, most prominently: your vibe and your mood. From our last post, we mentioned that some basic seduction knowledge applies here – you will need your basics in check in order to successfully approach on the dance floor. Some of the basics that are key in dance floor seduction are:

• Your style (clothing, grooming, smell)

• Your body language (posture, how you walk, how you communicate with your body)

• Some basic pick-up skills and a bare minimum degree of confidence

I will not discuss these any further, as this series of posts will focus on dance floor game in particular. But if you need more information on any of those topics, you will find a lot of great in-depth posts about them on the site and also in Chase’s eBook.

However, your state of mind also plays a role.

Today, let's talk making progress with women, and the kinds of progressions you can go through: passive and active.

There is a difference between passive and active progression. Passive progression is predictable, boring, and obligatory (not fun); active progression feels as if it can go places and change.

It is this difference and the fact that women NEED a man who is always actively progressing (yes, always!) that is why we need to "escalate" to just keep up. In order to progress in a relationship you must perceive a woman's desires and lead the situation to get to those areas.

Typically the most obvious form of active progression or escalation is physical or sexual, but there is actually more to it than this if you are truly paying attention.

Escalation is not just about physical intimacy increasing over time; it actually can include approaching ANY desirable context for a woman that requires your effort or participation to achieve. Things like:

• Open dialogues on important topics
• Showing a greater tendency to forgive or accept behaviors
• Showing a greater ability to perceive her desires and goals
• More time and generous attention
• More interesting dynamics

It is not merely about sexuality but in fact it's about the need to contribute to achieve mutual goals that will not just magically happen on their own.