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Will People Recognize You are Out to Pick Up Girls?

Chase Amante's picture

recognize you pick up girlsIn the article on bids for connection, a commenter asked about the following fear about random people recognizing him as, essentially, 'that pickup artist guy', and creating trouble for him:

What's really missing is in your articles to cover - most men have rooted lifestyles, so whether they know it consciously or not they meet mostly the same people every day. We are aware that coworkers don't change daily, but other people - people who goes to the same shops, uses the same public services are pretty much the same people, and if you live in a 500,000-1,500,000 people city you think consciously that you always meet different people, but in most cases the people you see around are the same people you've seen two weeks or two days before and just don't care to remember them. I've experimented with it and seen that there are people I meet pretty much everyday or at least once in a week, because of daily schedule which is highly repetitive. I notice the effects of what they call this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birthday_problem which in a nutshell means that running into the same items (people, numbers whatever) is more likely than it may seem. If you have 10000 people using public services at the same time, and then you see ~20 all the time around you, it doesn't mean that you run into the same person only 0.5% of the time, it's much higher percent actually and it grows with every day you expose yourself to the world until you expose yourself to the same and same people again and again without consciously knowing it.

He goes on to discuss the fear of being called out by a "nagging old lady or angry psycho of some kind" who may say something mean, and notes that a "large clump of guys [may] never start the game because of emotionally feeling the high percentage of such shaming happening [i]s a big danger to their identities of "good guys" they work so hard to preserve."

It's a perfectly natural concern and, in fact, one I wondered about myself early on. It's one worth paying some attention to, in all honesty, and I'll tell you why and how to do that in this post as well.

However, the biggest lesson you'll see with this kind of thing is the same one this same commenter notes at the start of this same comment: "You've got hundreds of articles less or more discussing pretty much the same topic of "Just move your ass and do the thing, accept early failures and later get awesome results!""

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, I might as well save you 10 minutes if you don't feel like reading: the advice here is going to be exactly this: just move your ass and do the thing... and this fear magically vanishes. -Poof!-

Surprised? No? Well, let's look at why, at least.

Do You Want to be a PUA or a Seducer?

Chase Amante's picture

Note from Chase: this is our second article from John Turner, a member of our discussion forum. John’s first article was about “The Seduction Triangle”; in this article, he discusses the differences between men who approach doing better with women from a more broken perspective vs. men who approach it from a healthier one. Here’s John.


In recent years, it seems that the “PUA” lifestyle has gotten more and more attention in the media, and from what I’ve seen, it has been mostly negative.

This can seem confusing to beginners:

If learning pick up is going to make me a more attractive man and a better lover / boyfriend / husband, then shouldn’t girls encourage guys to learn this, and not be disgusted and irritated when the subject of pick up comes up?

Well, yes and no.

The Truth About Taking Drugs and Hooking Up with Women

William Gupta's picture

drugsI had snorted two grams of cocaine in thirty seconds. Twenty minutes later I collapsed in the middle of the theme park.

My body convulsed as first responders rushed me to the infirmary. My heart was beating over 170 beats a minute. I only weighed 107 pounds and I had not slept in over forty-eight hours.

All this just to impress a girl.

I have been sober for years now, but I have lots of experiences with both drugs and women.

I have seen many guys try various drugs to try and get with girls – from selling pot to meet girls, to taking Molly at a rave with hopes of meeting a girl at the end of the night.

So here is my tell-all about the world of drugs and women.

3 Ways to Train Up Social Aptitude

Chase Amante's picture

social aptitudeYou’re at a night school class you share with a pretty girl you’ve had your eye on. The semester’s only halfway through, yet you have a feeling this girl likes you, and you like her too. You’ve chatted a few times, and sometimes you sit near her or next to her, but not always.

One evening, your class lets out and she takes a long time to gather her belongings. Coincidentally (or not), two of you head out at the same time. You strike up a conversation with her on the way out, and she’s responsive, but the conversation quickly stalls out. She seems happy but nervous. You feel like she’s waiting for something. Then you think how awkward it would be if you asked her out and she said no, and now you’ve got to keep coming back to this class and it’d really suck if there was an awkward vibe between you and this girl you like.

So, you tell her well, anyway, you guess you’d better get going, and you peel off and head to your car. On the way home, you kick yourself for not asking her out.

There are some men out there this kind of thing never happens to – if they get a shot with a girl, they take it. They can’t even understand why this would even be a problem for guys.

For most guys though, this is something they’ve had happen once or twice (or thrice... or four times... or more times).

The difference between the man this doesn’t happen to, and the man it does, quite often, comes down to a difference in their general and specific social aptitudes.

Using Your Reputation to Sleep with Lots of Girls

Darius Bright's picture

I messed up…

In a social circle where the stakes were high I failed to be discreet. No, I didn’t go blab about what happened, but instead, due to too much alcohol consumed, I failed to isolate and we were noticed.

sexy reputation

But an interesting thing happened:

Despite a couple of women from that circle seeing us and this being the gossip of the year, my indiscretion didn’t reach the ears of parties that could’ve blown the whole situation out of proportion and make my life truly difficult.

Those smart ladies decided to make a better call than I did and keep my little secret. Would you like to guess why?

Well,

Keeping the social circle healthy in general was definitely one of them, but one crucial piece of the puzzle was that they, consciously or not, decided that they didn’t want me to be kicked out of it.

You see, until that moment, despite openly being a sexual man and with my image and actions clearly communicating that I prefer a promiscuous lifestyle, I still acted within my code of standards that I talked about in my last article and in general wasn’t a social risk.

On the contrary, a sexual, attractive man who is smart about the way he does his thing can actually be a very valuable asset in a social circle.

In other words, my reputation saved my ass in that situation.

With this article I’d like to help you understand the benefits of having the right reputation within a social circle and afterwards we’ll cover how to develop your reputation as a sexual man so it works for you, instead of against you.

How to Mix a Drink to Make Her Taste Buds Pop

Darius Bright's picture

As I was slicing the lime I could hear them going “Mmm…” in a satisfied, flirty manner and then get giddy between themselves. Were they checking my butt while I was preparing the drinks?

Probably.

But who can blame those pretty ladies – skinny jeans were working their magic and I’m fine with being objectified, at least in this manner.

But this article is not about skinny jeans.

mix a drink

You see, over the years I’ve experimented with and picked up quite a few hobbies that in one way or the other helped improve my romantic life. Learning about men’s style helped me transform my appearance, learning to dance (particularly afro-latin dances) helped with leading, touching, and making her wet on the dance floor...

And developing bartending skills not only made the line “come over to my place, you really need to try my legendary mojitos” that much more effective, but also somehow ended up improving my social life (don’t worry, I’ll explain later).

The Magic Word that Gets You More of What You Want

Drexel Scott's picture

Good day, gentlemen. Today, I’m here to tell you about something profoundly simple yet tortuously difficult for some. Let me ask you something… what if I told you there’s one particular word in the English language that will get you more of what you want than entire essays of other words?

That with this one magical word, you can assert your boundaries, display your standards, and become a stronger man all at the same time?

You would probably think that I’m crazy… and most likely also want to know more! First I will tell you the word, and then we will delve into its dynamics.

The Magic Word is…

NO.

no

The Genuine Man, Part 10: A King in Action

Hector Castillo's picture

Welcome to the final article in the Genuine Man series.

We’ve covered all the mindsets, techniques, and fundamentals of becoming a genuine man – or at least the overarching principles, which include:

Now I want to show you what that looks like in action, or at least begins to look like once you hit this level. I’ll present many examples of my current genuity and actions and compare them to my former jerk procedures.

The Genuine Man, Part 9: A Nice Jerk?

Hector Castillo's picture

Welcome back to the journey, broskis!

So after covering:

We tied all the lessons up and took a peek into the mind of a man who has reached an authentic strength that makes him a man who is in the top echelon of the world’s population – or at least will be soon.

genuine-acts

Now it’s time to understand why this man must have been born out of the pit of intensity, intimidation, and whimsical power.

The Genuine Man, Part 4: A Lover of People

Hector Castillo's picture

Welcome back, gentlemen.

In Part 1 of this series we explored the power of arrogance and how to get it.

Then in Part 2 we explored the inevitable consequences of exercising arrogance.

To recover from that prideful fall, we looked at how to cultivate humility in Part 3, a sheathe for our fearless determination and a crucial step in surpassing the “jerk”.

Genuine Man

Now we’re going to learn how to love people.