In a comment
on my article “In
Seduction, “You” Don’t Matter (But Her Emotions Do)”, a commenter
who dubs himself ‘Enlightened’ left the following remark:
“This article
seems to suggest that women care more about what you can do for them
and how those actions make them feel vs what they can do for you. It’s
very much important about what they deduce they can get if they stick
around with you. Is this correct? If so, how does this sentiment vary
by country and across the world? If this is correct, then why should
men pursue women at all when ultimately all he is to a woman is a
talking dildo?”
Now, in case you haven’t read this article or skimmed over the part
Enlightened is referring to, my point was twofold – that:
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When people meet someone new, they evaluate him on value and attainability – essentially, how
valuable does this new person appear to be, and how accessible
is that value of his?
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Once someone has spent a longer period of time with another
individual (say, perhaps, 80 to 100 hours?), he begins to form a real
attachment to this person, and begins to want the best for him, care
for him, and deeply understand and empathize with him – however, this
connection is only formed
with time; it is not instantaneous
Enlightened may have missed that latter part and only zeroed in on
the part that raised his ire, so he may not necessarily be guilty of
the following mindset. However, I have noticed there is a distinct
minority of men who stumble onto
this site (supposedly stumbling in here from places like Reddit, or
some manner of
MGTOW websites and forums) who think point #1 is totally unreasonable
in all circumstances –
at least, for other people.
They still judge others by the value they present to their lives,
and how attainable those others are. However, they believe they themselves should be exempted from
this.
That they are special, and entitled to special breaks from
the rules they expect of others.
Mindsets like this are a product
of a world replete with advertising and feel-good messages
designed to make you feel like you deserve honor, respect, and everything your heart
desires, merely for breathing. I rarely if ever encounter this
mentality outside the West. However, it’s ubiquitous among the more
radical elements of Western feminists, men’s rights advocates, and ‘men
going their own way’.
In this post, I challenge you to break free from slavery to the
mindset TV commercials, magazine ads, and now even much (most?) of the
Western education system do their darnedest to instill
in you, and to instead adopt the manliest, most liberating, most
self-reliant mindset there is on Planet Earth:
Nobody
owes you nothin’.