Relationship Models: Implicit vs Explicit, Single vs Multi-Partner

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Being humans, our relationship desires don’t always fit with the culturally-prescribed model. So let’s explore the alternatives, and what to expect with each.

Varoon Rajah

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A New York City native, Varoon’s studied under many of the seduction industry’s leading instructors. His specialty is direct day game, where he meets girls on the street, on the subway, and in coffee shops. Varoon is the host for the Girls Chase Podcast, available on iTunes or via SoundCloud.

Comments

Drama

Posted by Michael Chief on Tuesday, 25 September 2018

You're right that there can be a lot of drama within explicit non-monogamy or polyamory, but personally I've had more relationship drama within the other structures you mention...unless you count the drama I've had with women I only dated casually without commitment within this explicit non-mono structure.

In my second article on polyamory here, I talked about the kind of women who are a good fit for polyamory, and I talked about the women I made serious commitments with in my third article on polyamory. No drama there, but there was A LOT of drama with the women I talk about in my upcoming article later this week! So I guess I would have to agree with you on that point if we're talking about casual partners who are inherently monogamous and want to be Queens, but my experiences with my committed partners say otherwise.

I've found that the greatest benefit to explicit non-mono is that I'm experiencing the deepest, most intimate loving relationships with multiple women. I personally couldn't have this much intimacy if things weren't explicit.

Drama/Queens

Posted by Varoon Rajah on Tuesday, 25 September 2018

Hey Michael,

Thanks for your comment, it's a great discussion! Personally I have experienced the most drama in an explicit polyamory setup, but to each their own. On my end I'm considering all drama, not just women you've made your Queens (in this case it's the women you actually committed to in the explicit setup - in these environments drama almost always comes from something related to Queen Theory, so your experience actually fits my theory - once they are the Queen, there's more security and intimacy, and usually less drama.) So it's drama as a whole - Queens, when respected, do not really need to stir up drama.

A lot of women that I've dated who prefer the explicit model also have reported that they really enjoy the intimacy that this brings. I've had women leave me in the implicit model because they wanted more intimacy, and I didn't want to stir that pot with other girls. It still comes back to who is the Queen.

I'm honestly OK with any model, it just depends on what you want in your life - which is why I presented the positives and negatives of each system. Personally I would choose the explicit polyamory model myself if I had two serious girlfriends who were both ultra hot and high value, and bi-curious - that's a great setup for explicit polyamory - and I already knew I wouldn't replace them as Queens anytime in the near future.

In my experience though, a guy always has to respect Queen Theory, especially in the long term. This always comes up in relationships no matter what - even if a girl waits a year or so to really address it. That's especially true when you have 2+ women fighting for highest Queen status.