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The Phenomenal Seductive Power of Being Present

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Presence is a remarkable, awe-inspiring quality. And if you can learn to be present, you can use it to incredible effect with the opposite sex.

‘Presence’ is a difficult concept to write about, because it is so difficult to describe.

It’s an intangible, ephemeral thing.

You know when you are with someone who possesses it. You can feel the force of this person’s attention. It is like his eyes have tractor beams; his words carry magnets. You feel sucked in and humbled by this powerful, awesome individual.

What creates this effect? In part, it’s presence.

There’s a bit more to the overall effect an individual has on you than presence, of course. There’s also confidence, dominance, charisma, social rank, perceived value, and a whole host of other things. The word ‘presence’ often gets used as a catch-all term to mean “all these varied intangible elements on display, in force”, but we’re going to be a lot more specific today.

Today we’re only going to talk about the literal meaning of the word ‘presence’: actually being completely present with another person, right there, in the moment.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



stefxxxyyy's picture

Osho talks about these: being in the present:

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Nice video. Good lesson from Osho.

Yes, the "you are always present, whether you realize it or not" message is an important one.

Very, very good for stress management too.

Once you realize all the things you're worried about are in the past, or have not happened, and are not happening now, you're liberated. It also becomes much easier to take action now that will alter the future path you are on, as you are no longer paralyzed by worry and fear.


Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

Congrats for your sales on One Date!
Hope it broke some records!
And thank you for this article, very concise and spot on!

Re: Handing girls in class

I did a presentation for my class and since then, I've noticed warm receptions from the girls.
I'm not sure if I should be offended. After all, I dress well (try) and I do proper grooming. I am still the same high status person, but it took a freakin' presentation for them to realize my value (or attainability thanks to my story)? Wtf!

Side question: How do I attract them on first sight as opposed to needing to do presentations?
There's a wrench somewhere and I'm gonna find it, but need your help.
I digress.

So now I'm stuck with a dilemma

Girls are receptive now...but
1. Attraction expires
2. Dilemma of Who do I go for? and if I talk to one and leave with one after class, other girls will see..
And I want to go see what every interested girl's story is..

3. Once you go for one and chat them up, you cannot really switch to the next the next class or the one you engaged the week before will feel peeved.

So if you were to say, try to meet them all (hey opportunities), how would you do this juggle?

Note: They're classmates but the girls aren't necessarily close to other girls.
And class ends next month.

Re: You had an email or article...
That said something on the lines of "If you walk with your head stuck up, then only girls who also have their heads stuck up will be available to you, because other girls will find you unattainable and unrelateable.

I cannot find this again, but my question is,
Our sexy walk, I thought we are to have head up high as we walk...
I thought this is standard stuff.

But to say head up high will cause me to lose girls, how would I change to be more attainable to majority of girls (instead of just the head up high ones) and still look high status in my walk?

Or everything actually. Any rule of thumb to fix my attainable to tailor to vast majority of girls and still be high status? (Yes, I am struggling with attainability...)


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Yes, that will happen. Commanding the attention of the group can catapult a man head and shoulders above his peers... it's a potentially (depending how you do) far bigger social signal than, say, nice clothes or good hair or a cool walk.

Attraction at first sight is 100% fundamentals, plus anything else environmental you can do (social proof, preselection, posting up somewhere conspicuous, etc.). Remember that it is part your presentation, but also part just getting noticed and getting the girl to actually consider you and snap out of auto-pilot (when she's on auto-pilot, you're just a background part of her environment).

As for classroom dynamics, that's not a situation I have much expertise in. But I can tell you from other situations where women compete over you, this is my standard operating procedure.

I don't remember the head comment. Might have been talking about head up too high. Your chin should be parallel to the ground. Higher than this and you look cartoonishly arrogant (which... may still be appealing to some girls that like that, though).

Or everything actually. Any rule of thumb to fix my attainable to tailor to vast majority of girls and still be high status? (Yes, I am struggling with attainability...)

Nothing you haven't heard from me before:

Remember the three parts of attainability:

  1. Is this for real?
  2. Does he respect me as a friend?
  3. Can a girl like me get a guy like him?

The better able you are to get girls answering "yes" to all those questions, the more attainable you'll be.


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