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How to Demand Respect from Others, Pt 1: The Self Is Everything

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Hector Castillo's picture

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If you want respect, you must be able to demand respect. The first part of this, however, is to realize you will never destroy your ego – so you might as well work with it.

There is an undercurrent of pseudo-philosophical thinking in the manosphere and the seduction community that needs to be revealed for what it is.

I have also been guilty of allowing this false thinking. This is as much a self-correction as it is a monumental criticism that strikes at the heart of many a grandmaster’s conclusion.

I call it the Egolessness Fallacy.

It is the fallacious thinking that having no ego is the best way to succeed with women.

The thinking goes as such: “Without an ego, where is thy sting, rejection?” There is no one there to be rejected.

This is *very* close to truth, but that which is closest to truth but not truth is the most devious lie.

I reckon this is how the falsity was woven.

If you go far enough in any skill, you will learn how to learn. You will learn how you learn, which means you’ll come to know how emotions affect you, stick with you, and how your thinking works.

The journey of seduction is perhaps one of the most direct paths to learning oneself, save for meditation, since you are the subject who is both acting and being evaluated. In any sport, you are the one carrying the ball or kicking the ball, yes, but the end goal is something impersonal. The other team or your team gets scored on. You are somewhat detached from the loss or victory (though it doesn’t always feel that way, of course).

With game, however, the woman has to accept you for there to be victory.

Furthermore, victory is mutual. You get pussy and she gets cock. You both win.

This means you are not so focused on the other person losing as you are with a traditional sport; you’re instead focused on two paradoxical outcomes.

You need her to want to submit to you.

However, the paradox is revealed when you consider that a woman does not submit to her equal or subordinate. It doesn’t make sense. She wants to submit, but she doesn’t win by submitting to a man who can’t make her submit.

One could be equitable and argue you need to be more dominant than her, but in practicality, this is going to look and feel like you are greater than her. Philosophize all you want, you must be her superior if you want to have sex fast.

You > her.

Don’t see the paradox yet? Alright, here it is.

Comments

stefxxxyyy's picture

hello hector: very small typo here "Whatever the functional cause, it works. People who are respected are usually respected back." you mean people who are respectfull?

BT Harrison's picture

You're right! Typo corrected.

Andreas Anderson's picture

Very good article, Hector. The thing is not to kill the ego - a healthy and happy ego is a good thing - but to keep the ego under control of reason, or logos. An out-of-control ego is a disaster for everyone, leading to misery for everyone all around. An easily wounded ego seeks revenge or dares not expose itself to danger, i.e., rejection. An ego under control will say, 'OK, she won't go out with me/ rejected me / broke up with me because of a, b, c, deal with it, improve and move merrily on." I am robust enough to deal with rejection therefore more willing to try and more confident in my attempts thereby increasing the chances for success and for happiness all around, which is the whole purpose of the exercise. Simple, straight and practical, and if that doesn't work, move on: she'll respect you for it and come after you. And if not, c'est la vie. Good article. Well written. Congratulations. Plato had a beautiful vision of the tripartite soul: appetite, spirit and reason; apetite and spirit are the driving forces but if reason loses control, it all crashes and burns.

Anonymous's picture

Hey Hector.
Really enjoy your work. I've been grappling with inner game issues for a long time. Attraction is not an issue - I've even had a couple of porn star looking stranger chicks chase me in the last little while (which I'm still trying to work through my psyche - I mean really - wtf. er no...of course they're chasing me). BUT it has kept falling apart after brief conversing. I get self confidence was a piece of the puzzle but not the whole picture. And while lately I've been on the road your mapping here.. your dissertation on respect I think is a huge puzzle piece that I needed made conscious. So to you kind sir I say pls keep up the good work.
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