You can be attractive to girls before you even open your mouth.
You do this with presence: the hypnotic, mesmerizing masculine quality.
Hey guys. Today I will discuss a vital topic, rarely discussed – namely, presence.
Most guys are so focused on what to do in an interaction with women they forget the stuff before the interaction. This forgetfulness is understandable... After all, it is hard to focus on too many things when you are new. The conversation itself seems so immediate it can be hard to focus on anything else. And yet, the phase that precedes the interaction can play a tremendous role.
I will not discuss screening in this post, even though the screening phase is part of this crucial pre-interaction stage. If you are interested in screen and approach-invitation triggering, do not worry, there are more than enough posts covering the subject:
- Book Excerpts: What to Screen Women For (screening)
- What Should Your Standards Be When Picking Up Women? (screening)
- Tactics Tuesdays: Screening Girls for Same Day Lays (screening)
- Which Women Want Sex? Here's How to Tell (screening)
- How Screening Game (Sniper Game) Compares to Traditional Game (screening)
- What's the Best Way to Pick Up Girls? Get the Ones Looking for You (screening)
- 7 Approach Invitations You’ll Get from Girls (approach invitations)
- Tactics Tuesdays: Attention Grabs (to Elicit Approach Invitations) (approach invitations)
What we will focus on here is how one can be attractive from a distance – without even opening your mouth – before even approaching a girl. And even though we kind of touched upon that in my previous article, let’s dig a bit further into actual tips and tricks you can apply today. However, my previous post does serve as a great foundation for this one (so if you have not read it, check it out: “Warm Up with Physical Momentum and Get Laid Easier”).
Let us start with a fundamental topic before we get into the juicy stuff.
Comments
Lean into stuff
Hey Alek,
Superb post! That was amazingly refreshing. Loved it! On leaning into stuff, I really want to try it out. I guess that is one of many reasons James Dean was so damn cool; He just leaned into stuff every time.
Bond.
Bond
Thank you.
I am glad you liked it and yes James Dean was cool for that exact reason.
BTW the trick with the eyebrow and lip was based on Marilyn Monroe!
-Alek
"Dress like a sexy man would"
"Dress like a sexy man would"
Wow, super helpful!
Jess
Thanks!
Alek
This article is indeed a
This article is indeed a great refresher on the fundamentals of kinetics and posture, however with a title which starts with "11 Tips" I was somewhat expecting to have the tips numbered... there seems to be far more than 11 tips here so the title is definitely selling the article short.
Titling
ER-
I take the blame for that. We titled Alek's article "11 tips" based on the 6 under "being relaxed" and 5 under "sexy moves". There's a lot more content though and it's not numbered per se as a series of tips.
Apologies if slightly misleading. We'll be careful to number things in numbered articles better next time.
Chase
Fantastic stuff.
Alek,
I absolutely love new body language tips that can be used right away and trigger desired reactions.
For the eye brow and lip thing, I'm having some trouble pulling it out. Do you have any picture of that sexy face move?
Also, when and in which contexts to use it?
Finally, why does it work like charm?
Agent
Agent
Hi sorry for the late reply.
Here is a pic of what I meant!
http://0.tqn.com/d/history1900s/1/0/C/H/1/marilynmonroe1.jpg
Why does it work? well first of all the eye contact communicates sexual intent while at the same time a relaxed presence - both attractive. The neck slightly up signalizes confidence - sexy too. And the lips signalizes a "readiness" to kiss - which is also hot.
All in all it communicates a confident, relaxed sexual presence - the Holy Trinity of sexyness!
-Alek
Edit: More examples: http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2015/10/01/16/2CF48A6800000578-3256437-im...
http://eskipaper.com/images/marilyn-monroe-wallpaper-4.jpg
http://orig06.deviantart.net/fe58/f/2013/147/2/6/pencil_portrait_of_mary...
Parted lips.
Alek,
Thanks for the reply and the pics. One question: Marilyn has her lips parted in all pics. I find it hard to put out my lips like I'm going to kiss while having them parted. Is having parted lips mandatory to pull of the look?
Agent.
Agent
You are welcome.
No it is not mandatory to part your lips. Fact is I don't do it myself.
-Alek
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