Let’s face it, the best part about seduction, and I would guess the
main reason why we are all here, is not approaching countless women in
bars and streets, nor is it spending hours texting women you haven’t
met.
It’s not getting numbers, Facebook contacts, or even make-outs.
It’s about what happens next: sex;
intimacy; connection.
And even if you’re a player-grandiose and take pride in the notches
you are racking up every weekend, chances are, eventually you will find
a
woman (or women), whom you enjoy having sex with and spending time with
so much that you would love to do so again and again with her – of
course,
without sacrificing the freedom and pleasure of sleeping with other
women and sexual variety in general.
Having such women, such an unwritten arrangement in life, has always
been the end goal for me and I’m happy to say that, with occasional
slip-ups and ups and downs, this has been the case for a few years now.
Before we get into the details, I’d like to explain how I will be
using the term “casual relationship”,
because terms like
friends-with-benefits (FwB),
fuck buddies (FB), open relationships
(OR), multi-long term relationships (mLTRs) have their own
connotations. If you prefer to call what I’m about to describe any of
the latter, that’s fine – no point in fussing over terminology.
But for me, when I talk about casual relationships, I mean a
relationship where
you are with someone you care deeply about (you could even say love, if
you want to be a little dramatic) but with whom you’re not exclusive
and there’s no expectation for that in the future. Your relationship
revolves mostly around sex but is not restricted to it. You are able to
talk about and share mostly anything without any drama whatsoever.
Neither of you put any expectations on the other with a single
exception – having a tremendous time every time you’re together. Please
don’t get hung up on the word “casual”, it doesn’t make it any less
important than “serious”, it’s instead mainly to convey the relaxed
boundaries involved.
If that sounds like something you want in your life, please read on.
