(2) Intermediate

In every genre of music, concerts typically play a big role in fan enjoyment. All music lovers dream of seeing their favorite superstars live. I’ve been to dozens of concerts and at them I have picked up several women.

There are similarities between gaming at a concert and gaming at a night club. However, the concert is still its own unique scenario.

There are a few challenges you will experience when gaming women at concerts. The first major challenge will be dealing with a girl’s friends. No girl goes to concerts alone. Her friends might try to cockblock you. Lean to handle them through the article on Handling Her Friends.

The other challenges you are bound to encounter are the loud music that will hinder your communication and packed crowds that will make it otherwise difficult to move through and reach your targets. I will explain how to deal with all of these obstacles in this article.

It’s Thursday afternoon, you planned on hitting the streets (or was it bars?) to chat up some girls, but as the day is coming to a close and you feel the daily stresses are taking their toll on you, you find yourself thinking how maybe today is not the best day to do it, after all:

• “I had a stressful day.”

• “I need to wake up early tomorrow.”

• “I don’t feel like my best self, and surely it won’t be as effective…”

You even start bargaining with yourself:

“Hey, you know what, I better hit the gym after work, eat a healthy meal – I’ve been meaning to improve my physique for some time now. Here’s my chance.”

Or

“I could stay at work for a little while longer and cover some of tomorrow’s tasks. This way tomorrow I’ll have an easier day and feel so much more energetic to go out and meet women.”

Then it hits you…

“Yes! Tomorrow I will feel so much more like it, I will have a good night’s sleep, wake up earlier, get myself ready and sexy, and I’ll even talk to twice as many women for skipping today. Yes, tomorrow!”

So you go home. You didn’t stay at work to finish tomorrow’s tasks nor did you hit the gym on your way back. Instead of a healthy meal you grabbed an XL combo meal at a fast food joint and stayed up late watching re-runs of “The Office”.

And yet for some reason you kind of feel good about yourself. After all, tomorrow you will make it all worth it!

Part of a seducer’s job is educating other seducers on the logistical requirements and challenges of a turf he is very familiar with. Today, that will be my job. As you well know, I am from Kenya, one of Africa’s elite nations that attracts thousands of foreign visitors every month.

Decade after decade, Africa has been with strange stereotypes of guys in traditional attire, hungry kids, lions everywhere, and no skyscrapers. All these are nothing but gross exaggerations. A lot of visitors actually get surprised when they get here.

Think of Africa as a good student. Great Western cultures, inventions, and mannerisms are replicated here. The continent as a whole is by no doubt a trusted tourist destination of the world. Apart from the thriving wildlife, searing weather, and super cool vacation spots, there’s a favorable business climate too. And to top it all off, the women are super attractive.

On the heels of Alek’s recent post on fractionation, I want to talk about a fun little technique that uses fractionating your medium of correspondence to get somewhere with girls who aren’t responding well.

This technique is, simply, switching back and forth between texting and calling.

Now, if you’ve done things right from the beginning with a girl, you won’t usually need to use this – a great first impression, framing for the date before you get the number, then solid text game to set things up; that’s usually going to do everything you need it to do.

Usually if you need this technique it’s because you’ve done something wrong:

• You made a weak first impression
• You didn’t make it clear you wanted a date with her
• Your texting was weak and/or unfocused
  

However, you can still have things unravel sometimes even if you were ‘perfect’; this is if, say, you do it all right, but the day she gets your “hey, let’s get things scheduled” text is a really bad day for her and she puts it off, anchoring negative emotions to texts from you / texts about dates from you in the process. Sometimes a girl can get it in her head that ‘XYZ thing is hard’ (like figuring out where on her schedule you fit), for reasons she isn’t aware of (anchoring), and an otherwise promising connection suddenly goes cold.

For any such situation, you have one neat tool in your toolbox – just vary the means of correspondence, between texts and phone calls (note: email / instant message is basically the same thing as texting, so doesn’t work to vary things enough – we’re talking ‘text-based’ vs. ‘voice-based’ here).

Is your ex-girlfriend’s best friend off limits?

It depends on the situation that has called for your pursuit. Making her your new catch requires some fine tuning, and if you are going to go after her, your venture needs to be completely justified. There are three situations where one might feel justified to go after the bestie:

I’m not going to beat around the bush, I’m a funny guy. I do stand-up comedy for fun. I’m the guy who leaves his friends and family in stitches. Being funny has both helped and hurt me with women. Humor helped me because I win over her friends with ease, I have some great openers, and I can use it to diffuse awkward situations.

But that same humor has led to me receiving more tests, not being taken seriously, being the entertainer and not the lover, and on more than a few occasions it has bought me a one-way ticket to the friend zone.

What I have come to realize about using humor with women is that you need to know when and how to use it to get her to go home with you. So here is my breakdown of how to be a funny guy that still gets laid.

I was doing some work at my favorite coffee shop when I saw an attractive girl sit down wearing a t-shirt with a university crest.

Pointing at her t-shirt I asked, “What school did you go to?”

She said, “Harvard Business School.”

I smiled to myself. “Did you have to choose between HBS and the GSB?”

She smiled. “Yes.”

I said, “What made you say no to Stanford?”

She replied, “The fact that it would have been more difficult to say no to Harvard.”

I invited her over to sit with me. I said the right things and we set up a date on the spot. On my way home I thought about how far I had come in my seduction journey. There was a time when hearing “Harvard Business School” would have intimidated me, but over the years I have learned a system for better relating with professional women. Knowing what to say to make them feel comfortable and makes you keep a good mindset so you don’t feel intimidated.

After dating doctors, lawyers, consultants, and investment bankers, I have noticed that even though their careers may look very different, their personalities are actually quite similar.