(2) Intermediate

In my previous post, we learned the importance of having something ready to say when we see a woman to whom we are attracted, so we began building a conversation outline beginning with our initial component of a customizable conversation starter that we can adapt to fit any situation!

Now that we have something to say, at least upon first approaching a woman, we are free to focus on our fundamentals more effectively. There’s a great intro article to fundamentals you can check out here, and Chase has several amazing articles about how to work on your style (including everything from grooming, facial hair, clothing and accessories, your physique, even information about how your scent relates to attraction), as well as your eye contact and your voice.

Today we dive deeper down the rabbit hole as we focus on making the abstract more concrete by learning the fundamental behaviors that can make all the difference in the world in your interactions with the opposite sex!

Today’s the last day of the launch of my complete “get laid on Tinder” system; tonight at midnight, the price goes up forever. To top off this even with a bang, I’ve put together a detailed look at Tinder – and why, despite some new up-and-comers in the dating app space, Tinder remains the crown jewel of all dating apps.

Long ago, when a man wanted to meet a woman he was interested in – one who was not only fun and interesting, but also very attractive – he has just had to rely on luck or subject himself to the frenzied and unreliable environments of bars and clubs.

And then, at the beginning of the turn-of-the-century, some smart people who wanted to take advantage of the Internet age created online dating websites. They wanted to use the potential that the Internet had of connecting people locally, statewide, nationally, and globally, and apply that potential to a romantic context. They wanted to be able to bring people together and be a conduit, a spark of people falling in love with mates who they would have never otherwise been exposed to.

But online dating added setbacks: it was stigmatized; most sites were poorly designed; and after a while, the hot girls found that there were just far too many droves of thirsty, desperate men trying to get any kind of female contact or acknowledgment that they possibly could – which often manifested itself in a deluge of dick pics. And because of this unpleasant realization, they began to vacate the online dating scene and leave it for girls who were truly desperate.

And then… in the late 2000s… there came the app revolution.

Suddenly you could do everything on your phone. You could check email, play music, and even handle your finances. So it was inevitable that, just like with the outset of the Internet age, someone would take advantage of this revolution in order to bring people together romantically. A few apps tried, but none saw true success until the advent of Tinder in 2012.

Tinder came and swept through the app world. It really put dating apps on the map.

What really got people was its effectiveness and simplicity. You simply look at someone’s photo, see how close you are, and then either swipe yes or no. And if you match, you could message them and potentially meet up.

And the best part was: it was completely anonymous. No one knew that you were on the app. Even people who came across your profile could only see it momentarily unless they matched with you. And if they did not, then you would disappear into oblivion and they would probably forget you soon enough.

The icing on the cake: you could use the app from anywhere.

Like most things, in the beginning even Tinder was considered a bit fringe. It was considered – much like its online dating counterparts – for people who were weird or lonely or socially inept or otherwise outside of the norm of society. But slowly… and surely… it became more widespread.

Then in 2013, it started spreading like wildfire. Suddenly, everyone was on it: that girl from work, girls from the university campuses, girls from bars. Finally, something had managed to compel and keep hot, normal, socially adept girls in the online realm.

Now, the app is as ubiquitous as Google maps. Everyone has Tinder. But the best part about it is that it is not online dating. People are not on it to find their soul mate. They are on this king of dating apps for one reason and one reason only: and that is to get laid.

No pretense. No misunderstanding. Even for the women who pretend to be motivated by other reasons, this underlying truth still rings loud and clear.

One of the most important journeys of the more experienced seducer is reaching the point where he embraces true compassion for women.

This is different from the emotion less experienced men feel, where they want to suck up a girl into their world and take care of her and provide for her, and it’s different from the emotion you feel as a more seasoned seducer, when you want to provide her with leg-tremblingly incredible sexual experiences.

It means to be able to do those things when appropriate but also recognize when NOT to do them.

A less dogmatic and more intuitive understanding of what her life is like as a woman requires the ability to differentiate between doting on a woman, and helping her be independently happy; to stop overruling her own thoughts and desires simply to fulfill yours; to stop being inflexible with your frame, even when you might actually be wrong. Truly compassionate men pay attention to these details, and they don’t push them off to the side for an easier journey.

Learning to mind this balance – being the powerful, effective man who is able to bring the things and women he wants into his life, to provide incredible experiences to the people around him, and to command and demand attention, while at the same time being mindful of the power you wield and developing the ability to wield it responsibly and judiciously – is one of the greatest lessons for the advanced student of the social arts.

Today I will be introducing you to four rules that will help you identify the fine line between real compassion in seduction and pretense.

Hi there, how is everybody doing? Today I will write my last post on logistics for a while. Previous posts in this series can be found here:

• Preparing for a Night That Ends in Sex
• How to Take Her Home and Extract Her Back to Your Place
• Going to Her Place: Tools to Get You More “Yes”es
• How to Use After-Parties to Get Laid
  

Although I find the topic of logistics very interesting and useful, I feel that it is now time to change it up and discuss something else. I will round it off by continuing on from last week, where we discussed how you could screen for good after-parties and get laid at them. Today we will discuss how to host an after-party (and one that gets you laid, at that).

Different “attraction building” techniques – i.e., techniques for making women attracted to you at after-parties – will not be the topic of this post because the techniques for making women attracted to you are the same for most situations. So most of the techniques taught by me or anyone else on this website can be used.

Yes, there are certain “special” techniques you can use at after-parties such as funny group games and so on, but I have decided to make this post only about logistics, as this is where after-parties differ from other types of game.

Trust me when I say this: logistics are often more important than building attraction.

If you have your basics in check, it is almost guaranteed you will get laid with the strategy I am about to give you.

It is recommended, though not required, to read my previous post on after-parties. Some of the points listed there can be useful when applying the system I am about to share. It might also be wise to check out my other posts on logistics as well.

Now, let us begin with some basics.

In my experience, the power to command the attention of all eyes in a room is more a learnable skill than a natural talent.

And in reality, you can effectively internalize any skill and turn it into a “natural” habit. So the argument that “either you’ve got it, or you don’t” is simply inaccurate.

Just to be clear: if you don’t have it (yet), you can still get it (soon).

However, commanding the attention of everyone in the room is outside the scope of this article, and although that skill would indeed be helpful, in this situation we will focus on how to gain the attention of one person in particular: that beautiful woman who has enamored you, and, for whatever reason, is not returning your gaze.

To deal with this situation of how we look at women and get them to look back, we break it down into two parts:

• Pre-Interaction Communication
• (During the) Interaction Communication

Let’s start by taking a closer look at what we can do before this situation even occurs.

Due to all the great feedback I have received in my previous posts on logistics, I decided to keep writing about the topic. It was requested that I write a post on after-parties, so that is what we will be discussing today.

For all of you who haven’t checked out my previous threads on logistics, you should do so:

• Preparing for a Night That Ends in Sex
• How to Take Her Home and Extract Her Back to Your Place
• Going to Her Place: Tools to Get You More “Yes”es
  

Logistics, although not always the most interesting topic in seduction, is one of the key basics most men struggle with. Many men know a lot about seduction yet don’t get any results (that is, they don’t have sex with women) and in many cases, this is due to their lack of logistical knowledge and control.

Put it this way: you can easily get laid if you are not attractive when you have good logistics, while it is hard to get laid if your logistics suck.

Today, we will be discussing after-parties. And as promised, this post is not about hosting after-parties in a “college” context, but in all types of scenarios. This post will give you a few key pointers on how to host an after-party, but the main topic of this post is how to get laid at after-parties.

For those of you searching for a comprehensive guide on how to host after-parties, be patient, as it is the topic of my next post.

Note from Chase: This article from Mateo is on a different subject than my “4 Kinds of Girls” article. While that one from me was focused on personality dimensions, this article on types from Mateo is focused on availability and interest levels. Here’s Mateo...

“Creep-Shame Culture” taught us to understand that since we are attempting to improve our communication with women, as well as better a woman’s life, in spite of the inevitable mistakes we will make, we still hold the moral high-ground. This means that we actually are “in the right” when we approach women to whom we are attracted – as long as we take responsibility for our actions (and don’t intentionally attempt to emotionally harm anyone – to state the obvious).

When we hold the moral-high ground – in other words, when we believe that we are “in the right” – we release ourselves from feeling particular negative emotions that would otherwise hinder our behavior.

For example, if we feel like we are “in the wrong”, then we are more likely to allow the negative emotions we experience stop us from approaching or escalating an interaction with a woman to whom we are attracted.

So how can we direct our moral compass to give us that extra boost we may need to successfully guide our interactions with the opposite sex to the most effective destination possible?