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Don't Ask Women Stupid, Needy Questions

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stupid questionsThere are these stupid, clueless, needy questions men ask women. Perhaps you've asked some yourself. Yet these questions are pure sabotage for your seductions.

This is really more for new guys than anyone else.

Though I have still sometimes seen intermediate guys making these mistakes too.

In school, you probably learned "There are no stupid questions."

Well, that might be true in school. However, in dating, it is not. Because when it comes to women, there are absolutely a lot of very stupid questions that you should not ask.

We're not talking about questions like "How old are you?" or "How many guys have you been with?" that various stern women claim men should "never ask a lady!" or that "don't matter!" on various feminist-leaning blogs or news sites around the web. Those questions are actually perfectly fine; I suggest you ask both regularly (the second works better after sex, though).

However, there exists a certain class of question that, when you ask from it, conveys a degree of neediness, uncertainty, and lack of leadership that repels women like oil does water.

These questions are the ones we can, for our purposes, safely dub stupid questions.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Train's picture

Must be a good sign that I physically cringed at some of these questions, hahaha. Almost like a simp detector test, aha.

1984's picture

same here. I cringed so hard that I almost had facial crams.

Robin blue's picture

Hi Chase. I have been struggling with auto rejection for quite some time now. I am naturally a cold person and find it difficult to be interested in people, even the ones i like. It seems i come across as a dick without even meaning to. If there was award for most missunderstood person, I will probably win it. I have read your articles on auto rejection many times.

Currently a girl at work i really liked very much. She was giving me many iois too. I asked her out, she was excited at it but said no giving some logistical excuse. Seems like she wanted me to be more persistent but i gave up after that. She is in classic auto rejection and hurt now, i have seen this too many times and it’s always hurtful to see.

Regarding the article above the things you listed from a-d is it fine to do when girl is in auto rejection? That is to come across as more eager or like you like her too much. Really my question is how to turn auto rejection around without coming across as needy, weak and pathetic. She is really closed off now. I plan to tell her friend that your friend is angry with me and i like your friend. This has worked in the past for me. Your help will be appreciated.

Lastly, do you offer any calls or online coaching, specifically addressing this problem? I will be interested in that. Thank you.

Bob3434322's picture

“Do you think you'd ever go out with a guy like me?”
is very similar to
"What do you think of me so far? (amplify what she likes) And is that good?"

“What kind of guy are you looking to date?”
is similar to
"What do you find sexiest in a guy?"

"What's your favorite sex position?"
is similar to
"What makes sex satisfying to you?"

All things which have been recommended on this site in the past.
Might be worth to point out.

Ben's picture

I don't think i've ever asked women any of these questions,but I may have asked why haven't we gone out yet to a girl I knew who thought I was cute just because I felt like throwing it out there and I wasn't that into her so I wasn't worried about the effects afterwards haha.
How do you deal with women who are reluctant to answer any questions that probe into who she is,her lifestyle,and her past? Or if they ask you why you want to know or why are you asking that question and you just state that you're curious,but she still doesn't feel like answering. Because it's very common for women to not want to answer specific questions from a guy if she barely knows him or is neutral towards him. This site encourages you to do things fast like building a connection,getting a woman home and then sleeping with her during windows,but how do you handle a woman who doesn't want to answer questions that help you find out about her? Does this indicate anything about her character or her experience levels with dating or does it mean you haven't built enough trust and comfort with her? But how would you do that if you are both just meeting on a first date? To build a trust level with girls from social circle can take me months to years.

Neal's picture

Hey Chase, should a guy break off texting a girl, if she replies late?

I.e., you text her in the morning, and she replies at night. And when you take her at night, she replies 1.5 or 2.5 days later in the morning.

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