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How Too Much High Value Can Trigger Female State Control

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In our series on Female State Control (FSC), we’ve learned how high value and social frame can bypass FSC, but can too much of it actually work against you?

Hey, guys. Today I will continue my discussion on social frame and female state control (FSC). However, I will take a different angle. We will discuss some other reasons why FSC is socially useful.

We’ve discussed FSC and social frame a lot lately, but if you are new to this, check out the previous articles.

In a nutshell, FSC is the phenomenon that happens when women control their state while feeling stimulated or aroused and do not feel ready to allow themselves to be captivated by an attractive guy. If you’ve encountered a situation where everything seems to be going well, the vibe is good, and things are escalating fast... then out of the blue, the girl:

  • Disappears
  • Wants to go dance
  • Turns cold
  • Acts weird in general

...or any other action that communicates that she is actively trying to de-escalate the vibe. That's FSC.

It happens because she feels things are going too fast, she is losing control, or she is getting stimulated by a guy who she does not feel “allowed” to hook up with. By “allowed” we refer to social frame as defining whether a woman feels allowed on a social level to hook up with a guy. If you have a strong social frame, it will help overcome a lack of her feeling allowed to get carried away by you. It also makes it easier for her to backward-rationalize her attraction for you socially.

Today, let’s discuss other social reasons why women control their state when they are around you. We’ll focus on the social aspects like in my previous posts on social frame, but the reasons covered here are not due to a lack of social frame but something else, or the opposite. You might have too good of a social frame. Okay, this may seem counterintuitive, but everything in pickup can be a double-edged sword.

I will also try to suggest solutions for each of the causes.

Let’s get to it.

Comments

Stef fffggg's picture

... Women rarely have limits on the number of providers they want their live...
Small typo: (in) their live
Also glamor = glamour?
Nice realization ASD being a specific case of FSC

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Alek Rolstad's picture

Hi

Thanks for letting us now. I emailed the editor about this.

And regarding ASD - I prefer to talk about them as two separate subject, since ASD is such a big field that it needs to be studied (and in field: handled) as an individual thing because of its impact.

Best,

Alek

Rem's picture

Guys, my sincere compliments for all the content on this website. Through the past few years I have always enjoyed reading your to the point articles when life made me curious or love made me sad and never have I read any of the vague new age blah blah on how things should just feel such and such and then cupid will come and hand you happiness on a silver platter, nor the scruffy second hand car salesmen concepts that so many of the poor PUA's tend to litter the web with. Class.

Now, recently I have been running into the situation where girls (this is a fine field study consisting of quite the sample, and not just by me) give me their numbers, go on a date with me (or two), love it to bits and then text me a few days later 'I have been thinking... etc etc.' Where etc etc usually consists of them stating they loved spending time or a night (yes, that kind of night) with me, yet they have come to the conclusion they don't have the time for it, or they feel they need to work on themselves first. This even includes girls that pushed hard for a next meet-up themselves during what turned out to be our last date, and girls that left with a cock-drunk grin caused by multiple orgasms on their face after I told them I really needed to get some stuff done the next day. It is almost as if they forgot in a few days how they felt, what they desired and that they were on to something at least reasonably good here.

I do no such thing as excessive texting in the mean time - although I tried texting more AND less - and on top of that they are really certain of their sudden turnaround as I have been unable to get any of them to change their minds. This is something I do manage from time to time - and not in the least thanks to the aforementioned excellent content. 

A friend of mine has the same issue and we have come to the conclusion that this happens in particular with young women that are at the end of getting their Master's degree, or in the first few years of their career, meaning their argument most certainly holds some truth as those are stressful times. They are pleasantly - or at least they tell us so - surprised by our social and professional qualities and aren't afraid of telling us these things or compliment us on basically everything we could be reasonably complimented on. Yet the obligations to society seem to outweigh the ones to their hearts and carnal desires despite.

I have asked friends, especially lady friends, and only one of them has come up with an answer that exceeded the new age, cupid will come, blah blah kind of wisdom and that one boiled it down to fear. Browsing through your website the closest thing to what I think this could be though, is the article above, however this mainly covers club game as opposed to the serendipity style I usually follow. Yet I still think this could be a branch of the state control you are describing above, possibly combined with fear of ending up developing too much feelings and being heart broken - not everybody believes in kintsugi, apparently...

Now I do feel these are lost causes and beyond salvaging in the end, but the sad thing is the girls that do this also are the nicer and more interesting ones. I partly blame society that puts so much pressure on these wonderful young and gifted women and partly myself (my friend does the same) since I really don't now how to take even the slightest bit of control in these kinds of situations. The girl is out of sight, sends me a long and actually warm text, often even with an apology, and if I riposte by saying that I do not agree, she obviously feels things and that one shouldn't dare scorn Aphrodite as no good will come of it for sure, she agrees with everything yet stands her ground. All that's left to do then is: OK. Bye.

What am I missing here? Is this issue solvable or just a fact of life that one gets when reaching a certain 'level' of value in life? I'm puzzled, half amused and a tiny bit frustrated, but I hope your combined insights and experience might get 'us' another great insight. 

Apologies for the archaically long comment, but thanks for reading it anyway.

 

Cheers! Rem

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