The reasons a guy can’t get laid may be simple, but more often it’s not so intuitive. Here are the usual suspects, some of which you may have never considered.
“Why Can’t I Get Laid?”
After many years of teaching pickup, I can narrow down the reasons why so many guys can’t get laid.
This article may help you self-diagnose some of your inner and outer game issues if you’re stuck in a vicious cycle of no sex. These tips will help you break free and score some lovin’ again – or for the first time.
So here are the top 10 factors I see in guys who just can’t get laid.
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As for number 7, most of us are too old for that
After 21 or 22, you get too old to hang around frats and for most of us out of college, that is not even much of an option. I'd like to know what other social circle type of situations to look into and types of friends to get so getting laid becomes easier. Any suggestions for older guys after the age of 25 in terms of finding friends to have the social circle advantage with?
#6.
The problem with #6 is, it's not about whether the guy drinks or not, but the girl. Does anyone on either side adovocat guys being "more drunk" than the girl? How bout getting girls to be more drunk than the guy.
I guess a #11 would be "cuz they can't or don't dance."
Sexual Shame
Hi,
you wrote "I was surprised how many men were ashamed of their sexuality." I wonder why do you wonder. The question for me is how can someone not to have sexual shame? What is more interesting that although this is a big topic which deserves series of articles, there are almost no articles about it on GC. There are many great detailed articles about huge amount of topics, but not about this sexual (and emotional) shame. There are articles about how to sexually liberate women, but not about how to sexually liberate yourself. I believe this is a big problem for many men, whatever the reason might be (conservative family background, religion, emotional traumas or feminist campaign against sexual violence). Perhaps an idea to consider. I believe I am not the only man who would appreciate it.
Thanks, Anonym
On sexual shame
Interesting question!
I can't speak for every man, but I, as a man soon to turn 26, can't remember I ever had shame about my sexuality. People tried to shame me for being a nerd or too good in school or too outspoken. People have shamed me for multiple reasons, but to this date, I know I have done the right thing all along by not caring. I care more about what is important for me rather than the people around me. Who cares what society says? Who cares what your jealous peers say? Or your parents? They care about THEIR status quo, not yours... When you stand up for yourself and become the person you want to be for your sake, and not for the sake of others, that's when you don't feel shame about anything really.
Ask yourself this: If I can't own myself, how can I ever own anything about myself, such as my sexuality, emotions and life?
I think this topic would make a great article btw
Shame
Yes it is a big topic. I noticed after many years of teaching that so many men are "shy" about their sexuality. I'll look more into it.
Friends
It depends on what your hobbies are.
I play in bands. But, I'm a musician. You could join a sport's team, like co ed soccer. Maybe? I don't really do anything now but travel so I'm always alone unless I'm at a hostel.
Can’t Get Laid
You are forgetting the most important factor in why guys can’t get laid; pheromones. And there is nothing one can do about it. Women are attracted to pheromones and if you have weak or offensive pheromones you will never attract bed mates.
Some men have great pheromones and attract every woman and others, like me, repel women. Not much I can do about it. Actually, nothing I can do about it. It is what it is.
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