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Hey fellas, just a quick recap before we begin here:
In Part 1 of the series we explored all of the reasons why men get married.
Then in Part 2 we discussed what most men’s expectations for marriage are like, and why they most of the time are not very feasible.
Part 3 brought to us a laundry list of things that ruin marriages.
We then discovered what happens when your expectations of marriage fall short, and when and if damage control is needed in Part 4.
Most recently, in Part 5, we examined the divorce process and how to navigate it properly. Now it is finally time to figure out what the heck to do after it all shakes out.
So, welcome to the Grand Finale.
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J.J. Jones, thank you. This
J.J. Jones, thank you.
This article, in particular, was very helpful to me. I appreciate the supportive and positive style of your writing.
Just last month my divorce was finalized after 2 years of separation. I have had success in some areas and much turmoil in others. One thing that I definitely need to work on is letting go of the bitterness and bad feelings. Thank you for reminding me of that necessity.
RE: J.J. Jones, thank you. This
Hero,
Thanks a bunch, man! I really enjoyed writing this series of articles, as it is something that I feel very strongly about. I hope that not only telling guys about my mess of a marriage & divorce, but also giving them advice on how to handle all of the various things that come up throughout a marriage and subsequent divorce, helps them become better men and can treat their wives better, have better marriages, and when things don't work out, bounce back stronger than ever before.
Bitterness is definitely the worst thing you can feel when it comes to women and relationships. If you're unable to trust and understand women, you're not going to be able to connect with them, and thus have a very hard time sleeping with them, and ultimately forming a bond and subsequent relationship with them. It's the first thing you need to do: remove the bitterness and negative feelings.
Best of luck to you, and again, I appreciate the kind words!
J.J.
J.J., your series on marriage
J.J., your series on marriage just nailed it. It made crystal clear why it is such a bad idea to act on infatuation (aka "love") before ruthlessly screening the girl to see if she fits into a long term relationship, and the heavy price we pay for the mistake of a failed marriage.
Do you think that the biggest sign of potential trouble with a girl is her not assuming responsibility? Like you said, divorce turns into a legal battle if the woman don't want to reach a deal. If she isn't grounded enough to have her own opinions (thus being more balanced), she can easily be swayed by her friends, parents and, specially, lawyers, to think that everything is your fault, that she is a poor victim and that she deserves to wreck your life.
And, besides thugs, the only thing that can really fuck you up is the State. Put the legal system to mess with private issues and some people can easily end up scarred for life.
RE: J.J., your series on marriage
Hey Anon,
Thank you, thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed the series, and I'm also glad to get a few comments on here saying so! It means a lot.
And yeah, I definitely think a girl not assuming some of the responsibility for the failure of the relationship is one of the foremost causes of divorces that turn from a mutual parting of ways, that although exhausting and nerve-racking, is just what needs to be done and both parties make efforts to be fair into an all out war between two people where they fight and claw for every last scrap of money or possession that can be had, just out of pure anger and hatred.
But men do this too, so it is hard to just point the finger at women and say they're the reason for it. You can't. But we also have to keep in mind that we're teaching men, so the examples given are females for that reason alone.
So this is something I'd tell guys to be weary off as well. Assume some responsibility, and see things from both sides fairly. And if she's not doing the same, then you're probably going to be in for a dog fight when you go to get the divorce done.
It's just one of those things that you can't really fix, either. You can reason with her as much as you want, but if she's dead set on her approach then there's not much you can do other than go hire the best lawyer you can get and let him do the dirty work of litigating things that the two of you cannot come to even terms on by yourselves.
It's just another one of the very unfortunate truths that lie in divorce.
J.J.
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