Take More Action

Great article Chase! I was just thinking there should be an article on how not to be lazy haha you just gotta get out there and do stuff you're proud of,the earlier the better! Thanks Chase.

Now I've had a problem for a while and I wonder if everybody goes through it. You see, my sex life use to be amazing! I was confident and could pull girls with ease....but there was an episode with a girl recently where I could not get it up and things have changed drastically. I'm not as confident anymore, I'm always in my head thinking tonight may not be a good night because my dick ain't hard enough! I've had sex again, and everything works fine.....It's just ever since that episode I'm not who I use to be. Please help, thanks Chase I'd greatly appreciate it.

I was picking up these thoughts on doing while out tonight. I found I was doing the opposite though, might be because of the projects I have been working on lately that have kept me indoors Nd not socializing much.

Anyway, thanks for consulting thé spirits of thé times to pick my brain and pen it as an article Chase. ;)

I've also found it useful in those periods of inaction to sit down and plan out what I need and want to get down. The more I've decided to do something by writin it down ahead of time the more easy I find it to just get up and do it. On the other hand if I'm not clear on what I'm doing I spend ALOT more time in inaction then I should.

An extremely motivating article. Thanks chase, really helpful.

What an amazing article and so terrible to read.
Why? Because it fleshes out the fact that so many men choose to be weak figures in pretty much everything.
It's girls who are silly and cute, but men are competing with girls at this department so much that they are outplaying chicks at it with flying colors.

Does it really take years to realize that things we do directly influences our quality of life?
Do we really need to rebel against this truth of life? I guess yeah... It's evolutionary mechanism of "looking for better paths than known now".

Well, but in reality...
If you don't close things when you should close them, things close you. And that's it.
We never have too much time, because life is not that long if you just take a glimpse at 5 years before now and how quickly they went.

I know, I know, we all have the desire of making our lives to matter (maybe all those who didn't want this simply got demotivated to the level they simply were outpaced by those who wanted).
But nowadays we are addicted to putting our lives into the hands of destiny, other people pretty much anything, that ensures, that we don't have to feel responsible for outcomes, because it's likely we will fail (at least while starting it's 95% endeavors you'll be poor at). But guess what - by avoiding to strive for success you are already failing. Why not to try to succeed then?
I've played this game of "should I take action?" on both sides, but it always sucked when I didn't take action. If you just take action for a while you start feeling that it's kinda worth it. Thought out and focused action taking is the best experience anyone can get in their entire lives.

You may say you lack motivation, but then at your job you're doing things you're being told even when you don't feel like it. You're making someones dream come true, because you "should not" work on yours? Because you're not fucking talented (what?!!!)... Why the hell you feed your brain with this crap?
You're doing various stuff at your job, but when you need a girl for yourself you don't even go out dating, you don't even work on your looks or move any other "reasons" (excuses in fact) out of your way. If others can, why can't you?

But maybe others are there to bring you down? No, fucking NO. They are just doing their stuff just like you do, maybe sometimes they help you, maybe sometimes they compete with you, but nothing personal. Ever.

Heck, I don't want to go through every possible excuse anyone can come with, because sea of excuses is inexhaustible.
If you really need girls, you will find the way to chat them up in a month (week, day or hour).
If you don't you won't in million years. Actually until biology kicks in.
That's how it goes and as much as antelope doesn't like to be eaten by tiger, you may not like to have your dreams fucked, when you could have had it all (and more). It maybe unfair, but you can still make your life meaningful anyway.

I hope at least one person on Earth will take action after your article, because it's the thing you don't know is amazing and the most promising tool of getting anything until you try it enough. It's like the tastiest candy in the world, which is given to you only when you eat hundred of bitter ones.
Everyone is there to decide on their own what path of least resistance to have mapped in their brains, but still your article is just a brick of piece to the side of "take action, dude" which may be crucial for someone if we look at it statistically :)

You may call all those go-getters "silly and cute", all people are - chasing emotions dreams, things and stuff. But at least while you're feeling hopeless they are feeling excited. It all comes to what you identify yourself with - with go-getters or losers -- this is where your energy, thoughts, focus goes and this is the direction where you push your life to.

There's no better time than now, at least to schedule it in.

Just make a deal with yourself never to let yourself to tell what you want in words (at least before taking action). Tell it in action.
If you want that girl to be kissed by you - try to make it happen (again and again, maybe with another girl) -- you see it's harder than speaking, but it's the only way you actually get results, because fucking your mind with "I will do it, anyway" malarkey never helps you in long term. It's just temporary emotional pleaser just like all that "Just be yourself" crap which is detrimental in long term.

And you knew it all already, didn't you?

Dear Chase,

Hi, I like to apologize for posting this here as I know these are annoying but I don't care because this is important to me. I want to thank you for illuminating some the mysterious psychological dynamics between guys and girls within game. I have learned a lot and am always happy to relate what I read to what I see happening in front of me in the field.

Anyways I posted a question a few months ago and it was the only question I've ever seen where you weren't able to answer it. I think I was "John" or "Tom", regardless I have a similar question again. This time however it isn't just a hypothetical, it's fucking real and I am ecstatic about it.

I have an intimate one on one session for a nice length of time coming up before July with an up and coming singer. She's not super famous she came up out of YouTube but famous enough that her manager is Justin Bieber's and Ariana Grande's. She's done shows all over US, Canada, and UK, I'm just telling you this so you have an idea (caliber of her fame) of what I'm working with.

She's single and I am a strong candidate to be a great fit and mesh well with her personality. Even though you don't know me or her, I ask that you just take my word for it.

The goal is to use the time spent with her to get her comfortable, familiar, and interested in me enough so that she'd be willing to go on a date (after being exhausted having been on tour for a month) while she is still in the city after her concert or the next morning for lunch or whatever before she leaves (if she's even staying until lunch the day after her concert). And then at least kiss her or something to make her think of me when she goes back home enough so that she'd want to see me again. It's not really important to me to sleep with her right away if that happens, bonus, if not that's fine BUT I have to do something that's serious enough to make it not seem like a transient little adventure with a guy in a far away city (She's not the person to do flings either) so It has to be decently hard hitting and steering VERY CLEAR of the friend zone. However I would take being friends with her over nothing.

My fundamentals are solid, I have excellent style, strong posture and poise, good walk and voice manipulation. I am a strong conversationalist but my game is just fair, a beginner but not a novice. My biggest problems are being friend zoned, and lots of difficulty being sexual ex. turning girls on through touching etc....

1. How do you make a lasting impact with a girl? Especially to a girl who has likely met many other attractive guys where her "dating pool" is at a much higher level.

2. In your opinion how would you separate yourself from being seen as a "fan"? Because I want her to see me as an equal someone she could date.

3. What should I prioritize in what I say, my gaming tactics, etc... to best utilize the short time (15-30 mins) I have interacting with her alone to achieve the "desired" outcome?

4. How to decrease the pressure and anxiety?

Tips, advice, how you'd approach it, anything is appreciated as this could be really awesome for me. I can let you know more about her if you need info for a specific single case targeted approach. If you can give me a hand Chase, this is my last question for you that I will ever post. As a genuine demonstration of my gratitude if some part of achieving what I want with this girl is successful thanks to you I will make a large donation to your website (note: not a bribe).

Thanks again Chase and the team, looking forward to hearing back!

Cheers

Hi,
I want to pick up one point, that always bothers me: The friend zone
You wrote: "My biggest problems are being friend zoned.............."
My question is: WHY????
Depending on how you describe "friend zone" (for me it is a give and!!!!!!! take and I have this in mind for what I am saying now:) what is wrong with that? If it doesn't work out with beeing the lover, why not friend zone? My thoughts: She probably knows and gets to know a lot of people so do you if you are her friend. There will be also a lot of girls among these people. (You got the idea :-) ) ? If your fundamentals are so good as you describe it here (I act on this assumption) it should be possible for you to get to know a lot of girls. (I know.... this girl is special, this girl is the only one..... blah blah and that's ok......) But there are a lot of articles here that describe how to handle this (You need more girls, Don't chase women, an article about preselection, halo effect.... and so on). I almost don't dare to say it here, but I really would take into consideration to be on target for friendzone with such a girl..... :-)

Loved the self realized irony in the beginning Chase,

If I had no idea about gaming, and if I wanted to get good with girls, I would probably search online or ask people. Following from this, I would get the typical mainstream dating advice which as we all know is worthless. Not only is it difficult to discover (relatively) hidden gems like GC here, the average person and the media go out of their way to undermine it. An exception to my amateur efforts would be asking people who are actually good with girls in the first place, which I'll go over below.

Applying this to the business or entrepreneurship side of self-growth: if I were to search for generic information, I would get the run-of-the-mill advice. Speaking to and hanging out with people who are already successful in this regard is likely to be helpful. But I like to think that at least I'm aware of the existence of radical, relatively unknown schools of thought that approach things in a different way. Luck does not play a role if you've been reading and applying GC for over a year, at least not the luck we generally know of. I imagine this is similar if you're building your business. (you may need "luck" to be the next Zuckerberg, but how about the unknown hordes of people that are worth multiple millions of dollars)

Honestly I don't know if or when, I would have come across GC if I were to rewind time and go to a parallel universe. (I have to agree that an argument could be made that if I had enough grit, I would learn things from purely first-person experience and still succeed with girls in the end. I remember you mentioning this before, and it makes sense.)

So my question is, how did you begin to guide your process on your business (or on the financial side of self-growth)?

Thanks for your efforts,
lingua

A few questions: for posture, you have many time said you keep a straight back at pretty much all times. I am wondering if this is like, military straight, or just a comfortable up and down, because sometimes you see male models or whatnot with somewhat slumped back shoulders, even through it is due to having large muscles. Their lower back is mostly straight, but whenever you have said to have a straight back and a hook pulling your sternum up, I just imagine it being over-done. I'm always trying to get my fundamentals to be better and more automatic!
The other question is about the size of a city, and what size is big enough to do cold-approaching in.

I've been a reader on and off for a year but started reading everything I can on this site in the last few days. After I read this article I went out last night with my bros and put my skills to use. I was calm and relaxed but decisive and forward with much better than usual success I usually have anxiety and then hesitate and then I'm fucked, very much appreciated the article.

Great article on the motivation and taking action stuff.

Just nitpicking: nuts are seeds, and seeds are extremely hard to digest, contain anti-nutrients and toxic stuff to protect the plant-baby, also they are high in insaturated fats which can be obesogenic (torpor inducing in mammals) and pro-inflammatory.
I don't consider nuts a healthy food at all, be carefull with nutritional science heavy on epidemiology.