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Chase’s
amazing year-in-review really got me
thinking about my own year. It was a fantastic year of growth,
development, lessons… and women. I always find it to be a very
interesting exercise to look at my year through the lens of women.
“Which girl was I hanging out with this month? What challenges did we
have? What adventures did we go on? What did I end up learning from the
situation? What did I learn about myself?”
These are all valuable questions that seem to arise somewhat naturally when engaging in this exercise. So even if your year only saw two girls, and even if you may have done nothing but make out with them, still, think about how you changed and grew because of these situations.
Going into the year, I knew that one of my greatest challenges was dealing with a certain type of girl. I have a pretty strong personality; I like to make my presence known and I am not afraid to be loud and silly. So I tend to look for girls who are strong, independent, and quick-witted. That being said, I have learned that you can find these attributes in girls who are not necessarily the most extroverted.
So in thinking about how I could improve my seduction skills, I
really wanted to challenge myself to see how I could be better equipped
to deal with girls who possessed
these attributes yet who just happen to be awkward.
I have never done well with dealing with awkward people; mirror neurons are some powerful things, and when you can clearly tell that someone is made somewhat (or fully) uncomfortable by one’s presence, no matter how socially adept you may be, it definitely starts to make you somewhat uncomfortable as well.
But some awkward girls are attractive, smart, and genuinely nice people. So I really asked myself over the first few months of last year: how can I overcome this challenge? How can I better connect with awkward girls who are not so socially savvy?
I asked many friends and colleagues about my challenge. And as I found myself in various social situations throughout 2014, I endeavored to push through my discomfort and actively engage with awkward girls as much as possible instead of excusing myself from the interaction as I had normally been accustomed to doing.
And the results were certainly interesting. So how do you deal with awkward girls? This is what I learned.
Comments
Specializing is smart
It's always a nagging feeling to know that you left something on the table that you could have gotten (e.g. an awkward girl, or some other kind of girl). Sometimes the mystery (e.g. what we might find in an awkward girl) is what drives us forward.
But with age (and experience) comes wisdom.
Whenever the energy that must be expended to attain the goal is not commensurate with the returns on your investment, you will eventually reject having to expend so much energy. And the thing with seduction is that after meeting and seducing amazing people, working to keep less than stellar people iin your life loses much of its appeal. And those that are still wrapped up in their specialness or an entitlement mentality (in my view) become repugnant to be around.
And Chase kinda touched on this concept of specializing in his asshole article, when he said that assholes are far less attached to being liked by everyone... they know whom they want to like them, know whom they have to be to be liked by those people, and anyone who doesn't respond to whom they already are can go pound sand. In other words, specialize and ignore most others. This is definitely not politically correct advice, probably not something you should say on the nightly news, but is still valuable nonetheless.
Enjoy!!
Forget the Haters
Hey Anon,
That always is the best part about being an asshole, you save so much time by not taking certain people seriously. There's no real point of talking and interacting with people whom dont like you. Its always beneficial to avoid dead ends and time wasters. This is why assholes so very rarely get led on. They normally end up getting what they want. If they dont get it something from a certain someone, they'll look elsewhere. As you said though experience comes with time. Most of this youll see and discover in your interactions with people.
Take care,
Just Dave
Excellent work
This is one of your better posts, Colt. At least in my opinion. It's funny, awkward girls have given me the most stress of any that I've been with. This article really put into perspective my experiences with them. My initial response to this type of woman was just to push things forward aggressively, sort of hail mary it because I recognized that broads who can't converse intelligibly just are not my thing. It blew up in my face and left a bad taste. Then I encountered it again later and was so preoccupied with navigating the social retardation it was straight up exhausting. Exhausting to a detrimental degree. Both girls were cute and very inexperienced with men, but honestly I've dealt with that combo before and it went swimmingly.
This article let me get some closure on those events that have been floating around the back of my mind. Maybe a little self serving framing on my part, but who gives a shit. You've had a very positive impact on my life with this. Thanks and all the best.
How did you really feel?
Seems like that awkward girl went out with you mainly for the attention.
Maybe she had a boyfriend or husband or something else going on.
But my main question to you is have you ever hooked up with a girl, and then she becomes aloof/non-committal afterward? If so, how did you REALLY feel when you realized that she wasn't all that interested, especially after all that effort you expended...for little in the way of returns? Especially since you're a man that has taken many women to bed, and your game is tighter than most guys, and you provide women with lots of value. Yet one of these American girls still disposed of you like you're just a commodity. Just another guy.
Does that upset you? Or are you indifferent? It would annoy me to say the least.
Don't Take it Personally
Hey 340Breeze,
Sometimes things just dont work out, the main thing is to move on. When you're interacting and sleeping with a variety of women. You learn the advantages of constantly talking to women and adding them to your circle. This way your abundance mentality always stay high. When things dont work out, its okay because you have more girls to take to. When you dont have girls youre constantly talking to you, you develop a scarcity mentality. This why its easy not to take things personally from women, when you talk to so many pf them.
Take care,
Just Dave
Great breakdown colt!
Great breakdown colt!
Colt, In reading the close,
Colt,
In reading the close, you talk about kissing the awkward girl but did you get laid? If you did manage to score, what degree of LMR did you encounter with the awkward type and are there any tips on escalation that you would advise specifically for this niche.
Will
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