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Understanding Women: It's Not as Hard as You Think

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understanding womenWomen do some strange, confusing things.

Things like getting rude and angry with men who are treating them as well as they possibly can. Things like telling a man they're not wearing any underwear... and then walking away when he gets too excited. Things like saying "no" when they mean "yes," and "yes" when they mean "no."

So you'll be forgiven for thinking it must be impossible understanding women.

And to top it all off, most women don't even understand themselves. They can explain some of the simpler things they do, but if you start asking them why they (or other women) do the more complicated things they do, you get answers that are full of holes. They sound good on an pure emotional level, but take a moment to analyze the logic and you'll realize it doesn't hold water.

Women really honestly don't know why they do what they do. So how could you possibly know? But, in fact, learning to understand women actually isn't an impossible task. It's a lot easier than you might think, in fact... so long as you understand a few little things, first.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Edward's picture

Another good post and well broken down. 1 of the best Blogs for dating advice.

Drew's picture

"Rejection for women is worse. Much worse.
When your role in the dating game is to be pursued -- you are the object of desire -- and then you pursue instead, and get rejected -- wow. Ouch. The object of desire being told she isn't desired"

My god, Chase you are so on the ball, I cant believe it!
Just that paragraph has opened my eyes to understanding womens thought process. It seems so simple reading it, I wonder how it wasn't obvious all along. It was a very intelligent thing to figure out, and reading this whole article has probably changed my life in one way or another. Thank you so much Sir :)

Chase Amante's picture

Hey, don't mention it, Drew. It's amazing how much taking a moment to see things from the woman's perspective can change your understanding, no?

Seems like a small detail, but it ends up making a very real, and large, impact in how women and men interact. Crazy stuff, psychology.


dave's picture

Thanks for the sensible exchange with Drew! For those of us who will NEVER approach a female ( if they are all into this conversation and testing
and what not ,then THEY can show the interest and approach us) , understanding that it is better to be alone than be treated like that, or, that when the women get older, they are out of time for these wonderful games.
With fewer and fewer men approaching these days, maybe the trend is changing.

Anonymous's picture

many of us men will certainly not approach women because of the way they treat men very badly, and being rejected as well. it would be very nice if women can approach us men for a change.

Anonymous's picture

I think what you lacked in this article is the importance of just initiating.
This to me is the most important yet daunting task. Also, a few techniques; know when to leave (just for a little bit) and when to return. This shows you are not to desperate as this is unattractive as one does not truly want what is just given to them.
An important point also is to get women talking about themselves, they love to talk. Just ask questions, this adds an air of mystery to you and allows you to have to say very little.
Ps. Alcohol helps. Not too much, just enough to loosen up.

Matt's picture

Is listening to what women say as important as some make it out to be? I always have listened and will continue to listen to women, but I was wondering if there were keys parts that women are looking for to know if a guy is listening. I have heard from some people to just listen for the main idea and others say that it is only the details that matter.
I don't know if you still read these posts, but if you could get back to me that's great, and if not then don't worry about it. Thanks!

lucifer7's picture

I love this article because 99.8% of the dating advices in the "PUA" community is about being the bad boy whom doesn't put the girl on the pedestal.

Very very few seem to remember that also cherishing and making women feel special and unique is a great way to make them swoon.

I think that's one of the difference between a "PUA" and a "lover of women": the latter knows that naturally.

I didn't know Casanova, but I feel pretty sure that as much as I didn't put girls on pedestal, he also knew how to make them feel great and special.

Anonymous's picture

I totally disagree with this, since after all, women get approached all day, every day. They get told how beautiful they are a hundred times a day. She also notices that all eyes are on her all the time. If a woman gets rejected, she's got a line of prospects right behind him.

We're lucky if women stay single for even a week against their own will, not to mention how easy it is for them to blow us off for an already planned date, either by giving some lame excuse or ignoring us altogether.

Anonymous's picture

I think you'r greatly underestimating how sensitive women actually are. Even if there are a million suitors in line, if a woman is rejected she will feel the impact of it on a deep emotional level. If women even get the slightest hint of rejection, their mood will completely shift. If you combine the way women are objectified in society with the hormone imbalances that cause women to experience mood swings, you get a very sensitive (Like all women are) lady.

Julie Smith's picture

Seems like you pay all your attention to the top 1% of women beauty-wise. Typical.


- an average female who tries to look her best.

Anonymous's picture

Although, not all of it is exactly like this, I really enjoyed reading this article, and it still has plenty to offer (these articles are like religion, pull the good from each one and make your own). I'd also like to respond to the post above.

"I totally disagree with this, since after all, women get approached all day, every day. They get told how beautiful they are a hundred times a day. She also notices that all eyes are on her all the time. If a woman gets rejected, she's got a line of prospects right behind him.

We're lucky if women stay single for even a week against their own will, not to mention how easy it is for them to blow us off for an already planned date, either by giving some lame excuse or ignoring us altogether."

I agree with part of what you're saying, but not all. You make it sound like women (fair looking to drop dead gorgeous) have a line of men at all times just chomping at the bit for a chance. I don't agree with this- it might sometimes be true, but not always. I've know several women that were very pleasing to the eye (some my personal friends, and others friends ex's) that had a very hard time getting anyone to approach them and simply strike up a conversation, or even ask them out on a date. This fault lies in the hands of the man. I'm even starting to believe more and more that the prettier a woman is, the less she's been hit on (in a lot of cases, not all).. That's my 2 cents- take from it what you will...

Tajul 's picture

Its a matter of great interest dt every women in this consider themselves different, unique, special & mysterious being,regardless of their beauty. This is true dt women always get surrounded by applausers. Thn, how would u deal her? Whats ur difference dt makes her interested on u? I have observed dt very little portion of people have dealt d women this way..tell her dt she is unique & mysterious. They love to hear this. This article also reveals the truth dt make d women feel special, always deal her like u r dealing a very special person & listen with great care what she says...let her talk cause women like to talk & love who are good listeners. Thanx d author for this article.

Godsninja's picture

"Women want to be cherished and treated as special and unique (and yes, as desirable sexual creatures you'd like nothing more than to ravage... but only because they're so special and unique)."

What do you mean "ravage" ?????? *super confused by this sentence*

Isis Matilda  COLLINGWOOD's picture

My comment is about Women from another Woman's perspective. I have met over the course of my adult life some very friendly nice women who have been a real asset to my life. On the other hand I have met some really nasty back biting women who have caused me grief with their behaviour. Why some women are so nasty in some instances to others I am yet to fathom out. Cattiness amongst some females I can honestly say I have never really found it with men. But of course you have to look from another angle many women can be kind and friendly and bond well with other women. At the end of the day you cannot tar everyone with the same brush so to speak. I have moved on from the others who have given me grief and found women I can have a rapport with hopefully.

Anonymous's picture

I'm pretty I wrote this because all this crap is basically the story of my life. I have also thought about this same topic multiple times and have come up with the same answers.

Anonymous's picture

I'm a woman and I approve of this message. Good job. You understand women more than they understand themselves.

Anonymous's picture

Man, I just read this shit, and wow is it insightful. I actually felt as though I learned something that I will be able to make sense of and apply when "out in the field." I just cannot stress how well written, logical, and articulate this article is. Damn good job...

harrist's picture

this articles really good ,very informative! I never thought women think that far! what if, we men leave them when they get pregnant! this is true! I mean they have high risk, if baby father leave them! I can't imagine what they feel if that really happen! so right now, I think every women have right to test me :) lol

Cat's picture

Why else do women (and men):

Spend so much time at the gym
Work so hard to distinguish themselves in their educations and careers
Travel to where they travel to, or change countries
Maintain the social circles they do, or join new ones
Spend so much time looking good
Care so much about their reputation

In a word....
Self-actualisation.....it's not about mating it's about evolving!

F's picture

You're not special or unique, Men are not and neither are women. Women mentally mature to the age of 8-12 then it stops and the emotional roller coaster dictates where they go and women oblige completely. The only thing women really care about is what other people think of them, am I too fat? am I wearing enough makeup so that people cant see what I really look like and how bad my skin is? etc etc that could go on forever. Women are inherently WEAK especially emotionally, the only tools they have at their disposal are manipulation in every form and women are masters of this, more and more men have stopped caring entirely. I love it when I hear "where have all the good men gone!?!" we are hiding from YOU!

L's picture

Many woman actually wear make up because they enjoy it, sometimes woman actually do things for themselves (oh my god how dare they) Woman also wear makeup because people like you make them feel insecure. Yes boys go through some bullying, but girls have it sooo much worse. Back off.

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