Is your opening in a rut (or you aren’t opening many girls at all right now)? Try one of these exercises to get yourself opening again, and “freshen up” your approaching.Every guy could be a little better at opening girls.
Further, anytime you've stumbled across a new opener, you've probably gone on a bit of tear, haven't you?
How do you approach a girl whose head is big over all the compliments she’s been fending off? By disqualifying her looks… and getting her to tell you what else she has going on instead.Today we're going to talk about an old Mystery technique from back in the day.
Perhaps we should call it "Throwbacks Tuesdays" instead of "Tactics Tuesdays"!
The technique in question is the looks-disqualifying screen. You use it on hot girls who know they're hot in situations where men fawn over their looks. The point: remove a woman's sense of looks-based self-importance and cause her to qualify herself to you on qualities of hers not so readily on display.
The standard line for this is, "You're cute, but what else you do you have going on for you?" said in a way as if you're a bit bored with the fact that she "is cute" and are half-interested to know if there's anything more to her than appearance.
This tactic is deadly in certain situations. It's very well optimized for scenarios where women have big heads (and thus, high walls) due to confidence in their appearances.
That said, in other situations, it's unnecessary, and possibly tone-deaf, so let's look at when to use it before we dive into the details on how to apply it.
Do a few things right before you approach a new girl, and you raise the odds your approach succeeds. Spot invitations, create invitations, screen, build micro-momentum, and more.Contents
Hey guys and welcome back!
Last week I gave you my step-by-step guide on how to get back in shape, game-wise, and you learned how to get out of bad momentum.
This post links to last week’s topic. We will provide a checklist of tips and tricks to improve your opening game, focusing on pre-opening. Next week, we will cover opening.
Why does this subject link to last week’s post? The part of your game that takes the “biggest hit” when facing low momentum is your opening and hook game. (I am considering making a checklist of tips and tricks for good hook game as well). Opening hook game is the most vibe-dependent. The energy you communicate is paramount during the opening and hook.
Once you’ve passed the hook phase, it’s more about what you say and how you respond to her hoops and overall strategic calls. You’ll feel more comfortable interacting with the girl when you move past the opening and hook phase. So, despite your lower momentum, you will feel a better overall flow in the interaction.
This is not to say that you won’t feel rusty in other parts of your game. Your weaker awareness may impair your strategic choices because you have less playing room. It’s due to lower compliance from girls because of your low momentum (which affects your presence and vibe).
Now, you may be on high momentum and rocking it and just want to recap or improve your pre-opening skills. Then this post is for you.
Good pre-opening is crucial. It has direct and impactful spill-over effects on your opening game. We can’t discuss tight opening game without discussing pre-opening — you can skip it, but moving forward will be harder, on a psychological and practical level.
Maybe you are a beginner or an intermediate guy who happens to have opening as one of your sticking points. This post is also for you.
Most advice here is primarily for night game settings and bars. However, you can apply some concepts to day game with a few tweaks.
Let’s jump right in!
When a woman gets on a high horse, here’s an easy way to interrupt the pattern she’s in: point out to her that she’s missing something.Pattern interrupts are useful tools.
They break people out of autopilot, snap them to attention, and force them to actually consider what you're saying. Without this, people may remain tuned out, reacting rather than considering, and it can be very hard to get them to do anything other than follow along with their preprogrammed behavior.
Lately I find myself using a "missing pieces" pattern interrupt increasingly often.
It's useful when dealing with opinionated people, people with their minds made up, or people attempting to lecture you about something.
In fact, the more certain someone is in his frame, the more the "missing pieces" argument interrupts his pattern.
It's therefore an almost unique tool in that the stronger the frame control of the individual you use it on, the better it is at disrupting his frame.
How's it work? Let me show you...
In this video, two guys go head-to-head for a cute, horny club girl. One of them wins, and presumably gets the lay, while the other of them (painfully) loses:
This video's titled as "guy gets his girl friend stolen in under 3 minutes" but the girl's clearly not his girlfriend. I'll tell you what the apparent dynamic actually is below. Also, while the video only takes three minutes, the process itself clearly took longer than that. Again, I'll tell you roughly how long it likely took below.
However, to introduce this piece, let me say I've been in very similar situations myself a number of times over the years. Both several times on the losing end as a beginner, and then more times on the winning end once I earned my chops.
In this article, we'll examine the tactics used by both seducers in the above video.
We'll also talk about when they can work and when they won't (plus why the blond white guy beat the Asian guy).
Nightlife has opened up many places again, now that COVID restrictions have lifted. How has women’s nightlife behavior changed – and how’s it remained the same?Hey guys!
Today’s post is sociological. I’ll share my latest nightlife observations post-COVID-reopening. As I write this in August 2021, many have been desocialized from measures adopted due to the great COVID-19 pandemic.
If you live somewhere where things are not reopening yet, this post will still be useful since it can give you some idea of what to expect when reopening happens.
There are a variety of tools you can use to set sexual frames. But they aren’t all best used at all the same times in a seduction. Here’s which to use and when.On one of my articles, Finegirl asks:
Chase could you deepen alek's article on sexual frames where he talks about the chase frame and the inefficiency of direct, etc? It would be nice. Clarify these things and bring more examples of great techniques
Yeah sure. Let me take you through what Alek is talking about and give you a bit of my own take.
Alek gives a great run-down on the various ways sexual frames may set (either you set them or she does).
He doesn't go in-depth into any of these, as that was not the point of the piece. Most of them we cover elsewhere.
However, per Finegirl's request, I'll cover the key tactics and how they're best used in my opinion a bit more in-depth here.
Women will resist your pickup attempts for different reasons. One is to avoid looking easy (anti-slut defense)… but another is because you don’t seem like the “right” guy.Hey guys! Welcome back.
Today I will discuss two different forms of resistance you get from women: anti-slut defense (ASD) and female state control (FSC). I’ll differentiate between both and discuss their connection to frame-related issues while providing suggestions for dealing with each.
I have mentioned both forms of resistance at length in the past and dedicated a long series to female state control. It is a fairly new concept I came up with a few years ago, which generated a paradigm shift in the seduction community’s conception of female resistance.
Anti-slut defense, on the other hand, is an older concept, if still key. Many seducers have also discussed it at length.
I don’t believe that a comparison or differentiation between the two concepts has ever been attempted, with clear indicators allowing us to distinguish them. Understanding each form of resistance and telling them apart is crucial if you want to use the correct remedy efficiently. I propose to do this today.
First, let’s recap both types of resistance.
You can’t always avoid a frame war. If you find yourself in one, you’re going to use one of these tactics to come out the winner.Hey guys and welcome back!
In my last two posts, we discussed frame wars. The first explained what frame wars are (they happen quite frequently, especially in night game). The second post outlined some preventive measures to help you avoid frame war agony since prevention is the best cure.
Frame wars occur when a girl tries to wrestle the meta-frame away from you and switch things from her chasing you back to you chasing her. Whoever holds the frame is considered the prize.
She may try to steal the frame because:
Society has programmed her to believe she is the prize
When men chase, her ego is satisfied
It makes her look good socially and bad if she chases you
But it can also be due to her simply wanting you badly, and the best way to get you (and rightfully so) is to make you chase.
The problem is that the moment you start chasing, you fall into her frame, which means that she will be in charge of the interaction. This goes against her idea of you as a dominant man, which she finds attractive. It also means she will be framed as higher value than you. It is problematic since women tend to fall for higher-value males. Also, you will satisfy her ego, and when she is satisfied, she will have nothing left to gain from you and will be able to comfortably move on, so you will lose her.
In my last post, I suggested that you avoid overusing meta-framing techniques such as:
Push/pull (showing mixed signals)
Disqualifiers (disqualifying her to make her chase)
Jealousy plots (making her jealous)
All are rapport-breaking techniques. What is wrong with rapport-breaking techniques? They push you away from each other when you should be moving closer. The tension caused by meta-framing techniques should be treated merely as a “necessary evil” to boost compliance. The caveat being that it is a double-edged sword, so if overused, it can cause unwanted effects such as auto-rejection or, worse — frame wars.
Rapport-breaking techniques may make her feel undervalued, tooled, and powerless. They represent ego hits, offending her conception of herself as the prize. If pushed to the brink, she may respond by declaring a frame war.
So avoiding the overuse (not use) of meta-framing techniques is a great way to dodge frame wars.
Yet, sometimes frame wars are unavoidable. That’s just the way it is. Maybe you miscalibrated and overused meta-framing techniques when they weren’t warranted. Perhaps that’s the way she is, or something in the context of the interaction triggered it accidentally.
What do you do if you sense a frame war coming? That’s what this post will answer.
Women notice men singing/talking to themselves. You can use this as an effective ‘attention grab’ (i.e., way to get women signaling you) to make approaching a little easier.Quick tactical tip today.
Sometimes I like to sing or talk quietly to myself as I walk down the sidewalk.
Or as I'm sitting somewhere in a café or bar or park or wherever else I might be.
