Pickup

I was doing some work at my favorite coffee shop when I saw an attractive girl sit down wearing a t-shirt with a university crest.

Pointing at her t-shirt I asked, “What school did you go to?”

She said, “Harvard Business School.”

I smiled to myself. “Did you have to choose between HBS and the GSB?”

She smiled. “Yes.”

I said, “What made you say no to Stanford?”

She replied, “The fact that it would have been more difficult to say no to Harvard.”

I invited her over to sit with me. I said the right things and we set up a date on the spot. On my way home I thought about how far I had come in my seduction journey. There was a time when hearing “Harvard Business School” would have intimidated me, but over the years I have learned a system for better relating with professional women. Knowing what to say to make them feel comfortable and makes you keep a good mindset so you don’t feel intimidated.

After dating doctors, lawyers, consultants, and investment bankers, I have noticed that even though their careers may look very different, their personalities are actually quite similar.

Welcome back. Today I will continue where I last ended it. Just to recap my previous post where I discussed going out and meeting women when you social momentum was low (or “negative” – as in “not feeling like it”), I discussed a few things and I used one of my nights out in Bulgaria where I went out even though I had caught a serious throat infection (I was on strong antibiotics) and also had a lack of sleep in addition to being tired from travelling.

This post is from the same night and is a continuation of that night out. In my previous post I covered the few event that took place before what I am about to cover in this post. I went out and talked to 2 groups of girls, but the emphasis of the previous post was on how I dealt with my bad mood.

This post covers the event of my third approach of the night. I will cover the interaction step by step. I will add as many details as possible and share my personal notes on the interaction and explain everything I do: why I do what I do and why and how it works. In addition to that, I will share many different techniques; so this post will work partly as a lay report and partly as a guide – a hybrid.

This post will give you an idea on how a seduction works – how it all works together. The main theme of the post will be around “leading” – i.e., leading the interaction from you being just a stranger in her eyes into you being her lover for the night. I will use the actual story of the report to exemplify my points.

Take a big breath...

Because this post is long, full of content, and VERY action packed...

In addition to the main theme “leading”, here are some other topics covered in this post:

• Opening
• Isolation
• Hooking (hooking her into the interaction)
• Sexual prizing (the concept)
• Sex talk (applied sexual prizing)
• Escalation (mostly verbal escalation, but also some physical escalation)
• Extraction (getting her back to you place)

Let’s get right into it...

As I’m packing my things for a four-day music festival, I remember all the crazy stuff from the past events – pure, unadulterated fun. Well, at least the parts I can remember. For some reason, many of us have no trouble letting go and having fun during vacations, music festivals, or camping trips, but fail to do the same when we’re at a local bar, looking to meet someone new.

And this is what this article is going to be about – having fun. Essentially, I’ll try to convince you in about 2000 words to do something that comes natural to every child, and something that should be completely obvious to every adult.

Yet for too many this simple act doesn’t come naturally – we’re too invested in forcing a particular outcome and planning every single step, as if we can prepare for dynamic social interactions in the same way we prepare for a weekend road trip.

And while we’re sitting there, pondering what line to use as an opener to get that girl into bed (yeah, as if it works that way) or mindlessly grind approaches telling the same damn lines and analyzing the night’s results (wait, was it 33 or 34 approaches?) life is happening in the background.

With the corner of your eye you catch a glimpse of a random group of people laughing and telling jokes over drinks. You think that they sound fun, but there’s no time for fun – you’re here to get women.

Unsurprisingly, for many guys, seduction and meeting women becomes a chore; something that they need to dedicate blocks of time to every week and just work through like a bad case of paperwork.

I've talked a lot on Girls Chase about having foundations, thinking things through, and addressing your ego, and now that I have done that it is time to talk about the real issues men face when trying to learn how to meet girls clubbing.

In my experience, most guys that are going out to clubs trying to figure girls out are en masse coming at the whole issue from the wrong angle. I can't pinpoint or classify the error of the approach precisely, but it always ends the same way - guys taking everything very seriously and getting very stern and upset about the wrong things.

I get why guys going out at night end up frustrated and saddened by the experience, and I would completely feel the same way if I was back in that grind again myself.

However, the big problem here is that guys are aiming for "big wins", and not being patient and accepting enough about "a good process" and improvements coming from within.

Some of the most beneficial things you can do for yourself are the most simple and basic:

• Drink lots of water

• Get plenty of sleep

• Be physically active

• Spend time with friends and family

Yet of these activities, one stands out above the rest as particularly valuable for picking up women: going for walks.

When looking back at all my experience with girls, there are a couple of events that still haunt me. Not because I got rejected, not because I bombed out, but because I was so close and failed.

The failure wasn’t due to there being poor logistics, nor was it a rogue friend that pulled her away. These failures were the result of me not standing up at the right moment and being a dominant man. I either pushed off the responsibility on one of my wingmen or the girl. Well, in life and in game, no one is going to do the work for you. This is why I have adopted the mantra “If they won’t, I will.”

This post is going to be set up a little different from my other posts. I am going to bring up two instances where I failed to stand up and take responsibility. I hope the lessons from my nightmares can help your dreams come true.

Hey everyone. Having finished up my long and detailed picking up women on the dance floor guide, I've decided to write about something else.

I recently finished my degree, giving me a lot more time to head out. Lately, I've been going out every weekend. I also travelled to Spain and Bulgaria.

In Bulgaria I met Chase. It has been a while since I have seen him. Chase hasn't changed much, apart from growing his hair - which looked great on him. We had a blast in Bulgaria - Chase is still an interesting character and it's always a pleasure to hang out with him. The discussions we had in Bulgaria were as interesting as when I met him years ago in China.

My idea is to write a series of posts inspired by my recent nights out; covering my observations and the lessons I have learned on the way. I will not cover every event - some are less interesting - for example the nights where I accidently bumped into a super horny girl who ended up back at my place within minutes are not that interesting.

I will also share some detailed reports as well (next week!) where you will see what I do step-by-step in-field, with my own personal notes. This way you will:

• Get a feel on how things work together - most posts here at GC covers a narrow topic, but putting it all together is an art in itself.

• Get an idea of how things are applied in real life.

• Understand how I think in-field - my mindsets, beliefs, and reasoning.

• Steal some cool lines - I will share some nuggets.

• Learn a few cool tricks and tactics.

• See how I handle different REAL life situations that occur.

Each post will have one main topic, but we will also discuss some other smaller observations that are of interest.