(2) Intermediate

So far in this series, we have discussed a customizable conversation starter that we can implement right now as we focus on internalizing the attractive behaviors women desire. We have also explored the five fundamentals of conversation:

1. Voice
2. Awkward Tendencies
3. Early Attractive Conversation
4. Screening & Rewarding Effort
5. Connection Building

In addition to conversation, we have learned three other ways to escalate an interaction: physically, logistically, and emotionally.

You have been learning all this so that you may become more effective at creating spontaneous conversation with a woman to whom you are attracted. Over the next several posts, we will dive deeper into the social value matrix to explore and get a better understanding of the method behind the madness of attraction and communication.

If you’ve been following my posts, you know that I am from the sexual game school of thought, where the ideal way of seducing women is to make them perceive you as lover; as a man of sexual value; a man who they know can satisfy their sexual needs.

In order to do so, it is key that you display sexual intent – which you do by, just for starters, escalating quickly, talking about sex, and using sexy eye contact. Unless you do so, you risk being perceived as a provider; a man whom women may find attractive, but not in a purely sexual way.

So, as you know, I have often vouched for being sexual as a way to attract women. Although there are no disagreements that communicating sexual intent works and is always necessary, even if you don’t play the “sexual game”, you will still have to escalate things sexually sooner or later anyway – the question then remains: what is the role of social value in seduction, if it has any at all?

Some of you may suspect that I believe social value plays no role in seduction, or worse, that it might get you perceived as a provider rather than a lover. However, this is not actually the case.

In the last couple of posts:

1. The “I’m Glad I’m Not the Only One Who…” Conversation Starter

2. The Fundamentals of a Great Approach: Interaction Outline Pt. 1

... We learned a customizable conversation starter (post #1) that allowed us to focus on the fundamentals of physical, logistical, and emotional escalation (post #2).

Before continuing forward with the creation of our conversational outline, today we are going to focus on: the fundamentals of basic conversation.

In my previous post, we learned the importance of having something ready to say when we see a woman to whom we are attracted, so we began building a conversation outline beginning with our initial component of a customizable conversation starter that we can adapt to fit any situation!

Now that we have something to say, at least upon first approaching a woman, we are free to focus on our fundamentals more effectively. There’s a great intro article to fundamentals you can check out here, and Chase has several amazing articles about how to work on your style (including everything from grooming, facial hair, clothing and accessories, your physique, even information about how your scent relates to attraction), as well as your eye contact and your voice.

Today we dive deeper down the rabbit hole as we focus on making the abstract more concrete by learning the fundamental behaviors that can make all the difference in the world in your interactions with the opposite sex!

Today’s the last day of the launch of my complete “get laid on Tinder” system; tonight at midnight, the price goes up forever. To top off this even with a bang, I’ve put together a detailed look at Tinder – and why, despite some new up-and-comers in the dating app space, Tinder remains the crown jewel of all dating apps.

Long ago, when a man wanted to meet a woman he was interested in – one who was not only fun and interesting, but also very attractive – he has just had to rely on luck or subject himself to the frenzied and unreliable environments of bars and clubs.

And then, at the beginning of the turn-of-the-century, some smart people who wanted to take advantage of the Internet age created online dating websites. They wanted to use the potential that the Internet had of connecting people locally, statewide, nationally, and globally, and apply that potential to a romantic context. They wanted to be able to bring people together and be a conduit, a spark of people falling in love with mates who they would have never otherwise been exposed to.

But online dating added setbacks: it was stigmatized; most sites were poorly designed; and after a while, the hot girls found that there were just far too many droves of thirsty, desperate men trying to get any kind of female contact or acknowledgment that they possibly could – which often manifested itself in a deluge of dick pics. And because of this unpleasant realization, they began to vacate the online dating scene and leave it for girls who were truly desperate.

And then… in the late 2000s… there came the app revolution.

Suddenly you could do everything on your phone. You could check email, play music, and even handle your finances. So it was inevitable that, just like with the outset of the Internet age, someone would take advantage of this revolution in order to bring people together romantically. A few apps tried, but none saw true success until the advent of Tinder in 2012.

Tinder came and swept through the app world. It really put dating apps on the map.

What really got people was its effectiveness and simplicity. You simply look at someone’s photo, see how close you are, and then either swipe yes or no. And if you match, you could message them and potentially meet up.

And the best part was: it was completely anonymous. No one knew that you were on the app. Even people who came across your profile could only see it momentarily unless they matched with you. And if they did not, then you would disappear into oblivion and they would probably forget you soon enough.

The icing on the cake: you could use the app from anywhere.

Like most things, in the beginning even Tinder was considered a bit fringe. It was considered – much like its online dating counterparts – for people who were weird or lonely or socially inept or otherwise outside of the norm of society. But slowly… and surely… it became more widespread.

Then in 2013, it started spreading like wildfire. Suddenly, everyone was on it: that girl from work, girls from the university campuses, girls from bars. Finally, something had managed to compel and keep hot, normal, socially adept girls in the online realm.

Now, the app is as ubiquitous as Google maps. Everyone has Tinder. But the best part about it is that it is not online dating. People are not on it to find their soul mate. They are on this king of dating apps for one reason and one reason only: and that is to get laid.

No pretense. No misunderstanding. Even for the women who pretend to be motivated by other reasons, this underlying truth still rings loud and clear.

One of the most important journeys of the more experienced seducer is reaching the point where he embraces true compassion for women.

This is different from the emotion less experienced men feel, where they want to suck up a girl into their world and take care of her and provide for her, and it’s different from the emotion you feel as a more seasoned seducer, when you want to provide her with leg-tremblingly incredible sexual experiences.

It means to be able to do those things when appropriate but also recognize when NOT to do them.

A less dogmatic and more intuitive understanding of what her life is like as a woman requires the ability to differentiate between doting on a woman, and helping her be independently happy; to stop overruling her own thoughts and desires simply to fulfill yours; to stop being inflexible with your frame, even when you might actually be wrong. Truly compassionate men pay attention to these details, and they don’t push them off to the side for an easier journey.

Learning to mind this balance – being the powerful, effective man who is able to bring the things and women he wants into his life, to provide incredible experiences to the people around him, and to command and demand attention, while at the same time being mindful of the power you wield and developing the ability to wield it responsibly and judiciously – is one of the greatest lessons for the advanced student of the social arts.

Today I will be introducing you to four rules that will help you identify the fine line between real compassion in seduction and pretense.

Hi there, how is everybody doing? Today I will write my last post on logistics for a while. Previous posts in this series can be found here:

• Preparing for a Night That Ends in Sex
• How to Take Her Home and Extract Her Back to Your Place
• Going to Her Place: Tools to Get You More “Yes”es
• How to Use After-Parties to Get Laid
  

Although I find the topic of logistics very interesting and useful, I feel that it is now time to change it up and discuss something else. I will round it off by continuing on from last week, where we discussed how you could screen for good after-parties and get laid at them. Today we will discuss how to host an after-party (and one that gets you laid, at that).

Different “attraction building” techniques – i.e., techniques for making women attracted to you at after-parties – will not be the topic of this post because the techniques for making women attracted to you are the same for most situations. So most of the techniques taught by me or anyone else on this website can be used.

Yes, there are certain “special” techniques you can use at after-parties such as funny group games and so on, but I have decided to make this post only about logistics, as this is where after-parties differ from other types of game.

Trust me when I say this: logistics are often more important than building attraction.

If you have your basics in check, it is almost guaranteed you will get laid with the strategy I am about to give you.

It is recommended, though not required, to read my previous post on after-parties. Some of the points listed there can be useful when applying the system I am about to share. It might also be wise to check out my other posts on logistics as well.

Now, let us begin with some basics.