Intermediates can get dates and are beginning to have some level of social success
Men who don’t do well with women think worse of women. And men who think worse of women do worse with women. How do you escape this cycle and get results? By learning to really LIKE women.Over the years, I’ve seen a lot of guys struggling with bitterness and alienation toward women trying to cold approach, only to fail.
This failure confirms and deepens their bitterness and alienation toward women. It’s sad.
How do you meet women in noisy venues? Step 1: avoid the noisiest venues, if at all possible. Step 2: if not possible, look for islands of (relative) quiet within them.Hey guys and welcome back.
Today we will discuss night game.
One of the most common issues in night game is the noise level. Bars and especially clubs can be noisy. For this reason, many tend to favor other ways of meeting women, such as day game.
Those who prefer night game often ask me how to deal with the noise. Most asking me are beginners and are frustrated that they cannot run their game as they want because noise hinders them. More experienced seducers know how to handle the noise and likely use the tricks and advice I will share with you next. Yet they also wonder about how they can tackle this issue better and find more useful ways to navigate the noise level.
I plan to split this guide into two parts. Today we will go over how to avoid the noise as much as possible. Next week I will share tips on handling the problem head-on. Combining these two aspects will result in fewer problems meeting and seducing girls in a loud environment. So I consider both articles to be equally important.
You may think that all you need are a few tools to deal with noise by using your voice, tonality, and pace differently. Even though this will help, it only addresses part of the problem. Because there is no way to remove the noise completely, we need to apply several tools to lessen the problem.
This post is for players of all levels, beginners and masters alike.
She’s into you. Should you seal the deal with this girl now… or put it off to later? Now, usually. Yet while nothing’s promised, sometimes it may pay to delay.Hey guys. Welcome back.
Contents
I. Arousal Spikes, FSC, and ASD
II. Seal The Deal Now or Later?
Previously, we discussed whether one should go for a same day or night pull or go for her number and set a date later. If you want a detailed answer, check out my previous post.
Today I will discuss a similar subject: whether one should try to escalate to intimacy or back down and focus on the next date.
A typical example: the logistics are better than the example in the previous post; she is at your place. Should you go for the kill or take it chill and extend the seduction to another meeting?
Making the right call will depend on your field experience, gut feeling, and your evaluation of variables to assess the situation.
The only way to develop that gut feeling is through practice, trial and error, and learning from your failures. There is no other way around it.
Hopefully, this post will clarify a few things.
First, I want to recap the pitfalls of arousal and how they link to female state control (FSC) and anti-slut defense (ASD). If you are familiar with those, you can skip the next section. However, a refresh is always a good idea.
Unlike my previous posts suited for seducers of all levels, this post is ideal for advanced players. However, there’s no harm to beginners and intermediate guys reading this. Making the right call is difficult, so I recommend that beginners try to seal the deal when the logistics allow for it, even if they fail, since failure, although frustrating, may teach a lot. Beginners are more likely to misjudge, opt for the safe route, and not escalate, which statistically may give fewer results.
Leading a woman you like from one venue to another, or back to your place, can be risky. Her mood might change; wildcards can emerge. What must you do? Keep it fun.Venue transitions are some of the most fraught moments in any seduction.
The time from when you leave one venue and are en route to another introduces a lot of variability -- and hence, many potential wildcards -- into what might have been to that point a smooth, steady, by-the-book seduction.
Every experienced guy has multiple stories of girls he had on-lock whom he then lost due to some dumb or ridiculous event outside his control during the transition.
It was all fine until he tried to get her out of there, then things went off the rails between spots.
There are, however, things you can do to keep the vibe as light and fun as possible during transitions.
This doesn't just make the transition more enjoyable. It also makes the transition less fragile.
Think of the transition as a bridge from one stage of the seduction to another.
You don't want to drive your car across a shaky bridge with loose wooden planks, do you?
Far better to drive across a solid brick-and-masonry construction that is guaranteed to get you safely across.
That's what a good transition is: a solid bridge from one stage to the next.
And 'fun' is the brick and masonry that makes transitions solid.
When you’re out picking up girls, the question is: do you take her home now, or take her number to meet up with her later? It depends – on several things.Hey guys. Welcome back.
Contents
Today I’ll cover a rarely discussed subject: when to go for numbers or try to seal the deal right there and then. Next week, I will discuss whether you should try to have sex with her that night or try to see her another time. Maybe she is at your place, and you could try to have sex with her, but some resistance is in the air. So when should you “give up” and go for another date?
The goal is to decrease potential pitfalls and increase your chances of sealing the deal, improving your consistency.
I am not going to lie. Whether you should go for it that night and when you should play it more calmly and opt for a day two can be hard to tell as a beginner or even as an intermediate.
I hope this post will help you with these assessments.
Need to make things more romantic/sexual? Want a girl to tell you how to seduce her? Use the lover lens… and let her tell you how her past lovers have done it.One of the things I have discovered over the years is that seduction is definitely NOT "one size fits all."
If you always seduce in the same way you may not realize this.
You might even be consistently successful with your schtick, if you have it really locked in and use a broadly seductive approach to game.
However, there are little nuances that work better for one girl and worse for another. If you know what they are you're at an advantage, compared to men who don't.
How do you find such things out though?
After all, you can't just ask a girl for them... or can you?
In fact you can, with a little tactic we might dub 'the lover lens'.
There are three (3) ways a man can persist with a woman: actively, passively, and with a mix of both flavors of persistence. He must calibrate his persistence for it to work, though.Hey guys. Welcome back.
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I have discussed calibration a lot lately. I wrote a series on basic calibration, covering these areas:
I followed up recently with advanced posts on calibration, addressing:
Information gathering
Managing arousal spikes (three posts)
Today I will add another layer to calibration: how you should persist with women.
Just how much should you push, and do you deal with her resistance? You can blindly press on until she says yes, without attempting to solve the root cause.
Sometimes things between you and a girl go smoothly on the first attempt.
Other times you will face some resistance (honestly, this happens more frequently when you are a beginner).
What causes resistance?
Lack of comfort or a social frame – she doesn’t feel it is right socially to hook up with you.
She fears feeling like a slut for being sexual around you or is afraid of being judged by others.
Lack of compliance (“attraction”) which you can increase by using many of the powerful tools we teach here).
Often, you can increase your chances by solving the issue at hand. If she feels a lack of comfort, set a strong social frame (show more rapport, make her invest in you, display higher social value, befriend her friends).
Next week, I will write a post about what tools to use to handle different types of resistance. I’ll focus on calibrating by using the right tools for each form of resistance.
But first, we need to discern the different forms of persistence. That is, different strategies of persistence. I’ll discuss the benefits of each and indicate when to use them.
This post is suited for seducers of all levels.
That way you meet girls… how many other men are doing it? What’s the competition like? Often, if you’re willing to be strategic, you can raise your odds above other men.Here's a simple metric to go by when selecting a new niche to meet women in:
How many folks are doing it?
Few guys seem to ask themselves this before they dive into things.
They just dive in.
Nevertheless, with a little due diligence before selecting a niche, you can save yourself mountains of extra work... and frustration.
Charisma is a set of outward signals and behaviors, but it begins in the mind. The wrong mental focus makes you uncharismatic. Yet use the right one, and you magnetize.We've got two (2) days remaining in the Charisma In A Bottle relaunch.
This is probably the last thing I'll write about charisma for a while, since I'm just about all charisma'd out.
However, before we put a bow on the relaunch, I want to cover this one last key tidbit about charisma:
How huge an element focus is to a man's ability to be charismatic, and just what is entailed in getting your focus dialed in just right.
What’s the secret to Robert Downey, Jr.’s exuberant charisma? He’s a perceptive guy who reacts fast to whatever situation he’s in, and it all adds up to magnetism.All right! We're partway into the Charisma In A Bottle relaunch.
I hope you've picked up your copy already if you didn't grab it a year ago, and are thoroughly enjoying the material.
If you've not grabbed it yet, keep in mind there are just a few short days left before the Touch-A-Girl System bonus goes away, and you'll never see Charisma + Lifestyle + Touch for the same one price again.
Pick up your copy of Charisma In A Bottle with all the bonuses (+ Touch) right here.
Today I wanted to continue the 'Charisma Breakdown' series, and I wanted to use a modern actor everyone's quite familiar with. We're taking a break from super sexy charisma (as we had with Errol Flynn, Sean Connery, and Russell Brand) and moving back into super cool charisma (like we had with our first charisma breakdown of John Wayne).
In this installment, we'll be looking at Robert Downey, Jr.
There are already a lot of charisma analysis videos online centered on Downey. They've done a great job mining clips and have provided some nice high-level analysis.
What we'll do in this article will be to take some of the clips other YouTube channels have already put together, and drilling down past the surface-level aspects of charisma on display to really get into the nuts and bolts of what makes Downey's charisma work.
