(2) Intermediate

Another way to get intimate with women. Rather than just feeling them up and undressing them, you can prompt them to verbalize desire for you instead.

In my article on pussy-centric escalation, a commenter asked me for examples of getting verbal, logical buy-in to your escalation to intimacy. I recommended this for any girl who seemed like she was either on the fence or could cause trouble (e.g., an orange flag girl, etc.).

So let’s talk verbal buy-in during your sex escalations!

Verbal buy-in is anything you are doing to get a girl to affirm that yes, she really wants this next step in the seduction to occur.

You’ve no doubt heard of the social justice / feminist / egalitarian concept of “affirmative consent”, yes? You might’ve thought it a terrible, seduction-killing concept. But believe it or not going for verbal buy-in as you seduce is basically just this: it is the same concept as “affirmative consent”, just gussied up and made sexier.

I’m going to show you how to do this today, and add another powerful tool to your sexual escalation arsenal.

Early in a relationship, many women will try to dictate what that relationship will be. How you respond to these “frame dictations” determines everything.

There’s a newsletter I recently sent out to the Girls Chase Newsletter list on women’s early frame announcements (EFAs). If you’re unfamiliar with EFAs, these are women’s demonstrations to you, either before sex or not long after it, regarding what they’re looking for with you.

A girl might be looking for something casual. She might be looking for something serious. She might not know what she’s looking for. Either way she is usually going to convey her position or lack of one to you in an early frame announcement. You will see it – if you’re paying attention, and know what to look for.

While I was writing the newsletter on EFAs, I briefly inserted my own opinions on which ones I preferred versus disliked, before removing them. A newsletter doesn’t need my opinions; it’s more useful without, just giving the facts, so you can decide what suits your own agenda.

However, in that moment when I wrote my own personal preferences (before removing them), I realized the EFAs I disliked all had something in common, and the EFAs I liked had something in common too: the ones I dislike are the ones where the woman attempts to dictate the terms of the relationship, whereas the ones I like are the ones where she leaves it more up to you.

I thought it might be fun to have a little look at these differences, between women attempting to dictate the frame, versus when they declare themselves more open to you setting it.

Sex talk works great for nightlife. But it isn’t just suited to there! You can use it at parties, on dates, your place… even in day game and online.

Hi guys. I hope you are all doing great.

Today’s post is straightforward to clarify some misconceptions about my signature and favorite technique, sex talk. It’s the art of setting a sexual frame and presenting an attractive sexual persona by conveying that:

• You are a low-key and nonjudgmental lover. This counters potential resistance to sex talk and sex.

• You are an experienced lover who knows how to provide an unforgettable sexual experience for women. You understand sexual psychology, anatomy, and techniques.

You express all this in a laid-back, indirect way. You never convey that you have direct sexual desire for her. You only discuss sexual subjects to set frames and communicate those traits about you.

This “indirectness” allows you to sexualize the interaction without facing much resistance. Combining it with smooth transitions allows you to sexualize things easily and safely.

The sex talk method has been very popular since I introduced it in the late 2000s, especially with intermediate and advanced players. It makes sense because they have an excellent overall understanding of social dynamics combined with conversational control. And both are required.

Sex talk is an essential fundamental, not an advanced skill. It’s not suited for total beginners, but intermediate guys can learn it if they are comfortable talking to girls, have a decent hook game, have good fundamentals, and can manage conversations using frame control.

Even though sex talk is very efficient, many guys disregard it. Why? Some have misconceptions and believe it is only a night game technique.

Because online and day game are the two most popular methods, those unbelievers disregard sex talk as a valid method due to this misconception. I will clarify: it is not just a night game-only technique. Sex talk was not meant initially for night game. Sex talk truly shines in settings that are not at night!

First, a brief history.

To get a girl to chase you, you can’t chase her. Instead you have to be, well… gone. Here’s how to be gone, in line with the ever-cool Tao of Steve.

All right. It’s been some months coming, but here we are: the third and final installment in my Tao of Steve game analysis: be gone.

If you’re just tuning in, be sure to read Parts 1 and 2 here (without reading them, you’ll still get value from this post, but it’s not going to be the same without Desireless and Excellent in your pocket):

1. Seduction According to the Tao of Steve, Pt. 1: Be Desireless

2. Seduction According to the Tao of Steve, Pt. 2: Be Excellent

I reached out to Duncan North (the seducer whose game we are breaking down) to see if I could interview him for this third installment. He had a seduction blog he ran some years back, but abandoned a decade ago, so I didn’t expect he’d likely still be reachable but, still, worth trying… however it seems, in typical Steve fashion, he truly is gone.

Since there’s not much info on North’s actual tactics or strategy for the ‘gone’ part of the ToS triumvirate, I shall fill in the blanks myself.

Fortunately, “being gone” has long been a specialty of mine. There are few seducers better equipped to talk about the art of seducing through absence – which is part of what made me want to write this series in the first place.

So let’s have a look at seducing her… via not even being there (sometimes).

When you escalate on a girl, it’s easy to focus on the wrong thing. What’s the right thing to focus on? The pussy. Focus on the pussy.

I was recently advising on a scenario where a guy ran into some tough last-minute resistance (LMR). He’d done everything right to get a girl into bed, and she seemed clearly into him, but he could not crack her resistance. She kept denying him sex and shutting down his escalation attempts.

It’s frustrating when this happens. Once you’re getting LMR, if it’s strong, it can be hard to beat.

So, let me tell you about a part of my approach to escalation to sex with women. It’s a vein that runs through all the content I’ve produced on sexual escalation, but I haven’t spelled it out exactly like this before.

I call it “pussy-centric escalation.”

To seduce a woman takes more than to say the right words. A man must rescue a woman from the ordinary, and provide something she can’t find elsewhere.

I’m reading the Edgar Rice Burroughs novels, pulp fiction from the turn of the 20th Century, right now. They are a blast to read. I haven’t read as much fiction the past several decades (used to read a lot in junior high and high school), and it’s fun to get into these books.

I completed the first three Princess of Mars books. If you’re not familiar with that series, it’s the one that inspired Star Wars (via Flash Gordon), Avatar, and Superman (and in that way all subsequent superheroes), among many others. John Carter from Burroughs’s Princess of Mars books is essentially the first superhero – a visitor to another world who can leap incredible distances there, has super strength, and can move with incredible speed – the same powers the creators of Superman gave him when he first appeared 21 years later (enhancing his powers much more later on).

Anyway, they’re all great books, fast-paced, and page turners.

And they all feature a ridiculously masculine, overpowered hero who repeatedly rescues an incomparably beautiful damsel in distress, who many other men wish to marry, but who loves only the hero. In the stories, the hero very quickly asks for the damsel’s hand in marriage; of course she has other suitors who’ve been pursuing her all the while too.

It almost seems quaint, the idea of meeting a woman, rescuing her, winning her that way, then immediately asking her for marriage. How different from the life of the modern dater – or even more so, the seducer!

But is it? I wondered!

When logistics or compliance don’t permit full isolation with a girl, instead: mini-isolate her. It’s simple, and can springboard you into full isolation.

Hey guys.

Today I will share another isolation technique to use when isolation is difficult. Try this option If you run into situations when the go-to strategy granting full isolation, as described in my previous articles, is not feasible. Your best bet is to opt for mini-isolation: you are still near her group but slightly outside, say just three feet away. You may not be entirely alone with her; however, her friends are not directly part of your interaction.

As you can imagine, being completely isolated is more desirable because it allows more benefits:

• You both have more intimacy.

• You have fewer chances of people chiming in and disrupting your interaction.

• There are fewer chances of facing cockblocks.

• She will feel more at ease acting sexually and escalating with you away from her peers, and, even better, she is not in view of everyone in the venue.

The problem is that sometimes you cannot fully isolate for various reasons. I will discuss these below.

So, what can you do? Do you keep conversing with the whole group? Sure, that is one solution, but it is more challenging to set the right frames with your girl when you deal with the entire group. And how do you truly connect and escalate the vibe with your girl if you are dealing with the whole group? A better option would be to go for something in between. This is where mini-isolation comes in—the “lesser evil” option.

Mini-isolation allows you to get some peace and intimacy.

Read on to find out how to get your girl mini-isolated and what to do during mini-isolation.