Beginner daters, socializers, and seducers start here
Open relationships can be great fun and very freeing – but sometimes they’re dicey to run. In this interview Caleb Jones (Blackdragon) discusses how these work, and the rules you have to follow.
Varoon interviews Caleb on the following subjects:
Hello everyone! Apologies for the delay since my last article; things have been pretty crazy lately. I have been looking through the forums recently and found my favorite thing in the world: a pattern between your sticking points.
The reason I love these so much is that, when I see a lot of people making the exact same mistake, it gives me hope that one small tweak to your perspective and behavior is all it will take for LOTS of you to stop dropping the ball and start getting laid instead.
Today’s article will focus on something that has been coming up a lot lately. When you guys type the sticking point into the forums, it usually sounds something like this...
“She showed me a lot of sexual interest, so I took her on a great date and then afterwards, she rejected me!”
Or
“She told me she wanted to have sex, so we got a drink at a bar and started making out, but then she refused to come home with me afterward!”
I realized that this is not something that I see talked about, almost ever, and am here today to shine some gloriously seductive light upon why this keeps happening to people. It certainly happened to me a lot back in the day, and so I’ve had to put myself back in somewhat of a “beginner’s mindset” in order to really make sense of what is happening here.
My first “real” job was an entry
level position in a contact center – I was one of a few dozen young
people who sat in a large office floor
taking calls. It was a thankless job but a fun experience overall.
You might be wondering – what does this have to do with first impressions?
You see, I was still rather inexperienced at the time, and after hearing stories from buddies in similar jobs/positions I figured that I might as well use this opportunity to meet women too.
Office romances... great idea right? Well, not really, but that’s another story.
Before my first day I went out shopping for clothes. Because this was my first job with a dress code (no jeans and stuff), I didn’t own anything remotely passable that wasn’t a suit, and this was by no means a job worth wearing a suit for.
Even though my dressing sexy skills were far from what they are today, I was already grasping the basic concepts:
The result,
I got myself slim cut grey dress pants, purple buttoned shirt, black dress shoes, and a black leather belt – solid, professional look. Because I had that ulterior motive of getting with my new sexy coworkers, I wore my buttoned shirt with an extra button open and had my medium length hair styled to something similar to this picture.
Given my agenda, I also tried to have a sexy walk going when passing the floor to get my coffee.
Considering that most other guys did the bare minimum just to pass the dress code requirements, I naturally stood out.
For the first week (or was it two weeks...) we, newbies, were trained separately and only passed the floor where everyone was working a couple of times a day to get coffee and have lunch.
By the end of the training a few funny things happened:
Most guys who were working there already didn’t like me.
Some of the female co-workers were already calling “dibs” on me (it was shared with me later in the job).
Both of these things happened despite me saying probably less than five words (“Good morning”, “Hi”) to people who were working there.
Unsurprisingly, by the end of my first week actually working there, a cute co-worker approached me during the break to ask for my number and later asked me out. And during my short time before getting promoted to another department there been a few other pleasurable encounters like that.
I’m sharing this to show you how truly powerful first impression and your image can be. Now, as I got wiser, I usually advise against office romances, but we can reap the benefits of the right first impression in nearly every social situation.
And with this article, I’d like to show you how you can use specifically clothes and grooming to achieve the first impression of a sexy man.
Hi there!
When I shared my report of the night where I managed to pull a girl even though I felt terrible, a lot of people gave me positive feedback on the samples of my conversations. They really liked to see how I talked to women about sex and how I used it as a weapon of mass seduction.
As they asked for more examples, I decided to write this report, where we will be covering one interaction where I used textbook style sex talk. Although I have shared different concepts and techniques in my previous reports, I haven’t always been focusing directly on the content of my interactions – i.e., what I actually say to girls. The reason behind that is because I either forgot what I said that night, or because I wanted to put the emphasis on other aspects of my interactions.
This report however will not take place in Bulgaria. It will take place in Oslo, the capitol of Norway. I think it is great to share stories from different locations. This is from a Saturday night.
I will start off by laying out some foundations for the night – i.e., cover a few things that I did before approaching the girl of the night. After that, we’ll be spending most of this article discussing the actual interaction that led to a lay. Although this post and the next will be a straight-up lay report – covering everything from A to Z, I will still spend a lot of time explaining what I do and how everything works out together. I will do my best to make this report as educational as possible.
A man’s effectiveness in life can usually be equated to the books that he reads. And outside of the usual books about good seduction, relationships, and the female mind, I’ve found that The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene really taught me a lot about both navigating life as a man and keeping my mental axe sharp in interacting with women.
In essence, Greene distills 3000 years of human history, conquest, conflict, and romance into 48 laws of attaining and defending yourself against power. I found that a lot of these laws apply to everyday situations, so you don’t have to be someone who is trying to be a prince or king to get value out of it.
Although I believe that every effective man should read the whole thing, let me summarize the key laws for you and tell you about how they can strengthen your abilities with the fairer sex.
You don’t have to be a master of observation to realize
most guys flat out suck
when it comes to flirting. And this isn’t even necessarily because they
don’t know all the right techniques. The reason for it is actually much
more fundamental.
What is this fundamental reason, you ask?
Only this: more often than not, we repress our emotions and act too stiff or too mechanical.
Just imagine what a terrific flirt you could be… IF you didn’t repress your emotions.
Why do we repress them?
Out of fear of failure and public humiliation if efforts fall flat,
or *gasp!*… a girl snubbing
you. Repress them, and snubs and failures seem easier to shrug off.
But imagine what it’d be like to be completely comfortable flirting… with even the hottest girls you meet.
What would you have to do to be that guy? That’s what we’ll be covering today.
Darius Belejevas joins us today for the fifth installment of the Girls Chase Podcast. Darius is a regular contributor to GirlsChase.com on the subject of fashion and style (you can read his articles here), and today he weighs in with more on these and other topics.
In today’s podcast, Darius and host Varoon Raja discuss:
I’ve recently been talking about fundamentals that help you get your foot into the club scenes, whether it be having the right light-hearted approach, or introducing your personality in a way that embraces the challenges brought on by the club scene.
Here I want to talk about how you really should be merging your persona with your activities when out in public.
First off, let me say, yes, there is a certain stigma and social pressure put on ANYBODY who is active socially in public. People might view you outrageous, unfairly privileged, amoral, or even shame you for being outgoing.
Sometimes, just for waving at a person, someone else may see you as arrogant; or for having a sex life, people can think you “unrealistic” or “irresponsible”; and for being proud of your growth you will face snickers from people that think a man who self improves is “weak” for admitting he is not already perfect.
It is easy to feel uncertain about yourself when any of these judgements are circling you. It can feel like if you make a mistake people are going to make it worse and it will destroy your image.
You will FEEL a resistance to becoming part of any scene because of this feeling of doubt and indecision. And it is natural to close up and think “Well, IF I act conservative enough, then I’ll slip through undetected”. However, for most people, even though they TRY to not get caught out, the fact is, sometimes you just are.
My solution?
Personal integrity.
Note from Chase: this is our first post from Philip Etemesi, joining us from Africa for a four-article trial run. Philip’s been a follower of and practitioner of Girls Chase material for some time, with his own twists. Please let us know in the comments section of Philip’s next few articles if you enjoy his writing and would like to see more from him in the future. His first article is about meeting girls on buses. Here’s Philip.
I am a new writer at Girls Chase and I am more than thrilled to be part of a site that has influenced my game so much. For a start, I’ve been tasked with reviving a blog post series called Tactics Tuesday. Through it, I shall focus on seduction techniques that you can use in situations that might appear tricky at first.
If you don’t own a car, you probably ride the bus a number of times a week. Even if you do own a car, you’ll find yourself having to take the bus from time to time because you’re either saving on gas or you’re tired of pressing your foot to the pedal. Buses are designed to transport plenty of people, and any location where lots of people converge will consequently have lots of women too. Buses can offer a great atmosphere for seduction.
So in my first piece, I’ll be your tutor on the all-too-tricky issue of how to approach a girl in a bus.
Recently I wrote an article called “How to Juggle Women, Projects, Habits, Career, and More” where we discussed the strategy of using “projects” to improve different areas of our lives.
That article looked at our lives from a macro level, but the fascinating thing about this approach is that we can apply it to specific areas of our life too. For example, appearance (the article “How to Juggle Women, Projects, Habits, Career, and More” should be your first prerequisite read for context on this piece.).
If you’ve been following my articles, you probably know that for the last six or so months I’ve been focusing heavily on improving my own appearance with the goal of seeing how much one can improve his looks during such a short time given enough focus on effort BUT still while living a normal life (which of course means going out, meeting women, and an occasional drunken debauch).
During this time I focused on the following:
Movements and posture
Physique
Skin care
Grooming
Style
And even though I haven’t managed to reach my goal just yet (to become, on average, a 9+ in terms of appearance, which of course is a very lofty goal) the strides in the right direction were significant enough that I feel I can consider it a success and share it with you.
But before we begin…
