Articles by Darius Belejevas | Girls Chase

Articles by Darius Belejevas

Total Image Mastery for Men Who are Bald

This article comes at the request of a reader, but given that ~40% of men experience hair loss by thier mid-thirties, I’m sure plenty of you will find it useful.

And I would like to start this piece with a graph from a recent survey detailing the most attractive male body parts:

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Source: Dr. Felix

Now, as with all similar surveys, the results should be taken with the grain of salt, but it’s interesting nonetheless.

Note the percentage of women who said they find hair to be the most attractive feature on a man: 22%, second only to the chest.

Cool, right?

So, does that mean that once your hair has receded past the point of no return, you’re pretty much screwed? Not at all.

On the contrary, a lot of guys end up realizing that going bald actually improves their look. It makes them look more dominant, masculine, tough – a neat combination, don’t you think?

Just read William Gupta’s thoughts on the topic. (Highly recommended)

For others, however, going bald means that they end up looking sickly, older, or just straight-up goofy and weird.

With this piece, I’ll be sharing some practical tips to make sure that once you make the decision to go bald, you’re in the former category, not the latter.

How to Dress Case Studies, Pt. 3: Tall and Artistic

It's time for our last article in the “How to Dress Case Studies” series. Just in case you are just tuning in, you can find Part 1 and 2 right here:

For our last case study, I wanted to pick someone taller in height, since elongating the frame has been a big focus point in our first two articles. This time, we’ll let our subject do that on his own.

An interesting fact about T – our case study for this article – is a few years ago he was one of my first consultation clients and, as you’ll see in just a moment, he’s already rocking an exceptional style and gets the flattering feedback that is expected when you’re doing a great job with your image.

This also means that even though I’ll cover the basics throughout this article to make it helpful for guys who are just starting to improve their fashion game, a major focus throughout this case study is going to be tackling tougher issues, such as how to approach your image to get the maximum advantage.

We’ll also get a bit pedantic with the little details. It might feel like overkill for some, but once the fundamentals are covered, being mindful about these little details leads to disproportionately big results.

One last thing that makes this case study fascinating is that we’ll discuss how we can – and whether we should – adjust our image over time as our goals and priorities start to change.

With that said, let’s meet T.

How to Dress Case Studies, Pt. 2: Stylish in College

Hey guys,

This is our second article in the three part “How to Dress Case Studies” series. You can check out the first part here.

If you haven’t read the first part, let me quickly remind you what this article series is all about:

To show you how tailoring your image and dressing sexy comes to into play in the real world, we’ve taken three guys (one for each article in the series) with unique situations – age, physique, complexion, climate, and their goals with women and image. And we’ll be tailoring a few outfits they could very successfully rock in their daily lives and when meeting women.

To protect the privacy of those who volunteered to participate in these case studies, I’ve cut out their faces from the pictures and designated them with one-letter nicknames.

Today’s case study is W, and he just might be the most challenging and fascinating of them all.

How to Dress Case Studies Series, Pt. 1: Flings with Good Girls

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In How to Dress Case Studies 1, Darius puts together 3 outfits for a guy whose aim is fun, casual flings with “good girls”.

Hey guys,

This will be our first “How to Dress: Case Study” article in what I hope to be a very cool and interesting three part series.

In this case study, we’ll be constructing an image tailor-made to help its wearer have more flings with what he’d consider “good girls.”

Because this is the first piece, let me quickly explain what you’re about to find. Over the last few years, I’ve shared with you a wide variety of articles meant to show you how you can use clothes and fashion to maximize your attractiveness:

And with this article series I’d like to show you how all the know-how we’ve covered so far comes together in real, actual situations. In other words, we’ll take three different guys and tailor their image; we’ll build specific outfits that would work superbly in their lives.

Now, because I didn’t want to just make up these unique situations, I reached out to some of my own site’s long-term readers and asked if they would like to participate.

From those who responded, I picked three unique situations in terms age, complexion, body type, climate for which we’ll tailor the image, and their goals with image and women. This way we’ll be able to cover a lot of ground and increase your chances of finding some useful tips you can implement in your image.

Lastly, to keep the privacy and anonymity of the volunteers, I won’t be sharing their full photos or full names. The subject from our first case study I’ll refer to as S.

5 Men’s Winter Outfits that Turn Girls’ Heads

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5 outfits to wear this winter that make women drool: Elegant – Edgy, Edgy, Smart – Casual, Rugged – Masculine, and Sharp.

I know dressing sexy in colder seasons is tricky, so last year I shared with you Men’s Cold Weather Fashion: The A-to-Z Guide to help you be your best, most attractive selves during these colder months – after all, the nights are getting longer too ;). That guide still stands the test of time, so this year I want to cover some specific examples of great looking outfits you could be pulling off.

In this article, we’ll have 5 different outfits for 5 different image archetypes: Elegant – Edgy, Edgy, Smart – Casual, Rugged – Masculine, and Sharp.

(Don’t worry – for each outfit, I’ll explain what situations would suit it best)

Because we have readers from all around the world, and winter in Germany will look a lot different from Canada or California... when building these outfits, I tried to focus around the middle ground, with reasonable, moderate winters. If you’d like to find more tips on how you can tailor these looks to better suit the winter where you live, check out the Winter’s A-to-Z guide mentioned earlier.

Because this article is going to be kind of long-ish, let’s just get straight to the outfits!

How to Be a Good Guy and Still Win Big

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You don’t have to be a devil to do devilishly good with girls. Before you turn yourself into a bad guy to get good girls, there is another way...

It started with a late night conversation. I was sitting with a couple of close friends on the balcony, having a drink. I can’t recall what we were talking about, but somehow the conversation produced the following exchange:

Him: “Come on, you’re a good guy, Darius.”

Her: “Oh yeah, absolutely!”

Me: “No, I’m not. At least I’m not like that around women.”

Him: “Why?”

Me: “I don’t know. But I’m definitely not!”

Him: “That’s kinda messed up.”

Me: “Well, that’s how I am.”

(Strangely, I remember having some weird, misguided pride in this.)

This conversation happened about a year ago – I replicated it the best I could – and even though I didn’t give it much thought at the time, over the following year it led me on a path of self-examination and discovery.

There were two specific things that came to bother me about the way I responded in that conversation:

  • First, why would I get so defensive about being referred to – and seen as – a “good guy” by my close friends?

  • Second, even though it was true that I behaved differently around women than I did around my close friends, I wanted to know why, especially since I’m more interested in romantic relationships than one night stands – and relationships require a real connection to be worth anything.

In other words, I wanted to know why I had the belief that being a “good guy” is somehow inferior and, more importantly, was it true? On top of that, given that being a “good guy” is something that comes to me naturally, I wanted to see if I can embrace this side of my personality and still achieve my romantic goals.

Turns out the answer to the latter is an astounding “Yes!” And with this article, my goal is to show you how.

But before we go there, we’ll need to cover some foundational concepts, including what it means to be “a good guy,” whether everyone should aspire to be one, and some common pitfalls and other things to watch out for.

We’ll start by identifying who will benefit from this article the most.

How to Tailor Your Image - Based on Your Lifestyle

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What if you’re in a university or a beach town where everyone dresses casual. How do you tailor your image to there? Via the 5 wardrobe spectrums – that’s how.

After my most recent article entitled How Should I Dress? Men’s Guide to Sexy Going-Out Attire was posted, I found a question in my inbox from a reader named Tom:

Thank you for all your articles, I've learnt so much about style from you and it’s truly improved my game! I do have a question: I currently live and study in a university town in New Zealand, and the standard style for dress here (as in, for the guys that get laid) is either street wear like long sleeve shirts with basketball kind of shorts or gym track pants and Nike running/gym shoes, or a kind of 'bum' style, with baggy hooded jumpers or old rugby jerseys and often shorts. Both styles tend to incorporate caps on the head too. Quite opposite to your own style!

My question is, how much do you want to take in the local style, especially if it’s working for other guys, and how much do you want to stand out? I do want to stand out somewhat, and I'm getting the hang of trying to incorporate what you teach and what the people here do, but I find when I mix them, I often end up with a pretty 'normal' look. I imagine you travel quite a lot? If so, it would be rad to see an article on adapting your personal style to different locales!

And what a great question it is! Except, it’s the wrong question….

You see, without knowing it, chances are you’re running into the same issue yourself.

No, you probably don’t care how to dress sexy in a university town in New Zealand. Instead, you might be wondering “How can I apply those tips when I’m dressing for work?” or “How do I dress for best results in my favorite bar or club?” or “How should I dress for day game if I live in Canada... and it’s cold?” etc.

All of the above questions point to the same core dilemma: How do I tailor my outfit to look sexy in a particular situation – without looking like I’m sticking out?

Well, if all goes according to plan, you’ll have your answer by the end of this article.

How Should I Dress? Men’s Guide to Sexy Going-Out Attire

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How should I dress if I want to meet girls and look good? If you ask yourself this, you’re on the right track. That’s because styles change based on their target audience.

It’s that time of day again – time to go out and meet those beautiful women!

As you’re getting prepared you hit the shower, brush your teeth, shave or style your facial hair, then style your haircut and maybe spray on some cologne.

You’re feeling refreshed, and as you look in mirror you can’t help but catch yourself thinking “Looking good, man, looking damn good.”

Then you open your wardrobe to choose the outfit for the occasion.

Except, which one?

Most of us have our favorite go-to outfits that we rely on to get the job done as we’re heading out to hit the streets, a bar, or a club, or simply for meeting that cute girl over drinks later in the afternoon.

We go for this outfit (or outfits) without much conscious thought and hope that the overall image we end up with will work well enough to give us a chance to work our magic. At least this is how most guys tend to approach their image and style.

But with this article I would like to give you an alternative, showing you that you can use your image – the way you dress and present yourself to the world – as an advantage to do some of the “heavy lifting” before you even get a chance to open your mouth.

On top of that, I want to show you firsthand how much control you really have over how you appear to the world and how easy it is to better manage the first impressions you’re making when you’re out in the field.

My last goal with this article is to debunk the myth of “the perfect look” and “one-size-fits-all” advice, then help you answer a seemingly simple question: “How should I dress?”

Men’s Cold Weather Fashion: The A-to-Z Guide

I got to say – I love spring and early autumn. This is the time when it’s really the easiest to look your best: guys with great physiques can still wear thin, tight jackets or coats over a tee to make sure they “put the goods on display”, while skinnier or chubbier guys can use colors and layers to visually compensate for what their physique is lacking.

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Some time ago I created a guide to dressing sexy in summer. Today, I’d like to do the same for colder weather – whether that’s late autumn or winter.

In this article we’ll cover the basics of how to dress in colder weather and look attractive and then go into specifics on what to look for in upper body wear, trousers, outerwear, accessories, and shoes to stay warm AND look attractive doing that.

One thing that’s important to remember before we begin is that we all have different tolerances for heat and cold – for someone who’s used to 20-30+ C warmth most of the year, even going as low as 0-10 C can feel stressful and they will be pulling out their sweaters and warm jackets, while I’m sure that most of you seen the joke that Canadians and Scandinavians only stop sunbathing at -10 C (I really hope it’s only a joke…).

Now let’s get going.

Make the Right First Impression: 4 Clothes & Grooming Steps

impression clothesMy first “real” job was an entry level position in a contact center – I was one of a few dozen young people who sat in a large office floor taking calls. It was a thankless job but a fun experience overall.

You might be wondering – what does this have to do with first impressions?

You see, I was still rather inexperienced at the time, and after hearing stories from buddies in similar jobs/positions I figured that I might as well use this opportunity to meet women too.

Office romances... great idea right? Well, not really, but that’s another story.

Before my first day I went out shopping for clothes. Because this was my first job with a dress code (no jeans and stuff), I didn’t own anything remotely passable that wasn’t a suit, and this was by no means a job worth wearing a suit for.

Even though my dressing sexy skills were far from what they are today, I was already grasping the basic concepts:

  • The clothes need to be cut close to the body to emphasize physique.
  • I can subtly use colors to avoid looking boring.
  • Showing some skin is a great way to spike sex appeal.
  • Grooming matters.

The result,

I got myself slim cut grey dress pants, purple buttoned shirt, black dress shoes, and a black leather belt – solid, professional look. Because I had that ulterior motive of getting with my new sexy coworkers, I wore my buttoned shirt with an extra button open and had my medium length hair styled to something similar to this picture.

Given my agenda, I also tried to have a sexy walk going when passing the floor to get my coffee.

Considering that most other guys did the bare minimum just to pass the dress code requirements, I naturally stood out.

For the first week (or was it two weeks...) we, newbies, were trained separately and only passed the floor where everyone was working a couple of times a day to get coffee and have lunch.

By the end of the training a few funny things happened:

  • Most guys who were working there already didn’t like me.

  • Some of the female co-workers were already calling “dibs” on me (it was shared with me later in the job).

Both of these things happened despite me saying probably less than five words (“Good morning”, “Hi”) to people who were working there.

Unsurprisingly, by the end of my first week actually working there, a cute co-worker approached me during the break to ask for my number and later asked me out. And during my short time before getting promoted to another department there been a few other pleasurable encounters like that.

I’m sharing this to show you how truly powerful first impression and your image can be. Now, as I got wiser, I usually advise against office romances, but we can reap the benefits of the right first impression in nearly every social situation.

And with this article, I’d like to show you how you can use specifically clothes and grooming to achieve the first impression of a sexy man.