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Tactics Tuesdays: Meeting Girls on the Bus

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By: Philip Etemesi

Note from Chase: this is our first post from Philip Etemesi, joining us from Africa for a four-article trial run. Philip’s been a follower of and practitioner of Girls Chase material for some time, with his own twists. Please let us know in the comments section of Philip’s next few articles if you enjoy his writing and would like to see more from him in the future. His first article is about meeting girls on buses. Here’s Philip.

I am a new writer at Girls Chase and I am more than thrilled to be part of a site that has influenced my game so much. For a start, I’ve been tasked with reviving a blog post series called Tactics Tuesday. Through it, I shall focus on seduction techniques that you can use in situations that might appear tricky at first.

If you don’t own a car, you probably ride the bus a number of times a week. Even if you do own a car, you’ll find yourself having to take the bus from time to time because you’re either saving on gas or you’re tired of pressing your foot to the pedal. Buses are designed to transport plenty of people, and any location where lots of people converge will consequently have lots of women too. Buses can offer a great atmosphere for seduction.

bus pickup

So in my first piece, I’ll be your tutor on the all-too-tricky issue of how to approach a girl in a bus.

How Many Attraction Factors are There? Infinite

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By: Chase Amante

One of the biggest obstacles for a lot of men when it comes to improving with women is fixating on the wrong thing.

attraction factors

Much of this seems to come from improper understanding of some of the raw basics of attraction.

When you see guys get hung up on one specific characteristic and blame that as the cause of all their woes with women, like the ones I discussed in “I Can’t Get Girls Because Girls Only Want [BLANK]”:

  • Race
  • Height
  • Wealth
  • Good looks

... it’s because they misunderstand attraction.

And when you see guys become (overly) obsessive about improving in one specific area, like muscles or wealth, it’s because they misunderstand attraction.

So how does attraction work?

Because surely, all these things have some impact on attraction... right?

But then, so do fundamentals.

And game.

So if all of them have some impact, then just how do these things all play together to affect a woman’s ultimate degree of attraction for you?

3 Huge Mental Obstacles to Picking Up Women in Nightclubs

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By: Cody Lyans

A lot of guys new to game view clubbing as a natural and easy first step. We think that immediately jumping into the deep-end and trying to swim is “obviously” the biggest and best move we have at our disposal to get more success meeting girls. But what if jumping into clubbing too fast reduces opportunities and causes early plateaus?

nightclub pickup obstacles

When it comes to clubbing, if you don’t hit the right notes, it is very easy to slip into the background of the club, ignored and unsuccessful, and being in that background encourages all kinds of bad habits and mistakes to form or grow out of control.

If I was to sum this central message of this article intro one sound-byte, it would be: make sure you are going in with a good chance of coming out ahead. Doing so obviously comes down to solid foundations, but it also comes down to some very specific foundations that are needed in clubs specifically.

The guys at Girls Chase have covered some of the big ones, like moving fast, selection, and mindsets, but there is another layer of preparation that exists just below this advice that ensures you optimize your clubbing, whether or not you can pull the aforementioned off.

These pre-club foundations act like a bridge between a naturally attractive attitude outside of the club, and a naturally ACTIVE attitude inside the club.

And they’re what we’ll be talking about today.

Women Will Date the “Wrong Guy” If the “Right One” Isn’t Free

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By: Chase Amante

Recently had a discussion with one of our forum members about some odd behavior he was seeing from a former girlfriend who works in his office.

They’d had a friends with benefits relationship for about half a year, before she broke things off with him to enter a committed relationship with another man.

What confused him the most, however, was that this girl had seemed to like him more, yet she still went off to date the wrong guy anyway. Her new guy has some pretty big downsides, too: he’s jealous and controlling. He’s forbid his girlfriend from having any contact with her ex from our forum, and monitors her phone calls and texting.

date the wrong guy

What this forum member asked me was, “Why would she date this guy when she already had me?”

The answer, of course, was that he wasn’t available for the kind of relationship this girl needed – so even if he would’ve been her first choice for that role, he simply wasn’t an option she could choose from on the shelf.

Dating Professional Women: The 3 Types You’ll Meet

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By: William Gupta

I was doing some work at my favorite coffee shop when I saw an attractive girl sit down wearing a t-shirt with a university crest.

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Pointing at her t-shirt I asked, “What school did you go to?”

She said, “Harvard Business School.”

I smiled to myself. “Did you have to choose between HBS and the GSB?”

She smiled. “Yes.”

I said, “What made you say no to Stanford?”

She replied, “The fact that it would have been more difficult to say no to Harvard.”

I invited her over to sit with me. I said the right things and we set up a date on the spot. On my way home I thought about how far I had come in my seduction journey. There was a time when hearing “Harvard Business School” would have intimidated me, but over the years I have learned a system for better relating with professional women. Knowing what to say to make them feel comfortable and makes you keep a good mindset so you don’t feel intimidated.

After dating doctors, lawyers, consultants, and investment bankers, I have noticed that even though their careers may look very different, their personalities are actually quite similar.

Mastering Your Appearance

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By: Darius Bright

Recently I wrote an article called “How to Juggle Women, Projects, Habits, Career, and More” where we discussed the strategy of using “projects” to improve different areas of our lives.

That article looked at our lives from a macro level, but the fascinating thing about this approach is that we can apply it to specific areas of our life too. For example, appearance (the article “How to Juggle Women, Projects, Habits, Career, and More” should be your first prerequisite read for context on this piece.).

appearance

If you’ve been following my articles, you probably know that for the last six or so months I’ve been focusing heavily on improving my own appearance with the goal of seeing how much one can improve his looks during such a short time given enough focus on effort BUT still while living a normal life (which of course means going out, meeting women, and an occasional drunken debauch).

During this time I focused on the following:

  • Movements and posture

  • Physique

  • Skin care

  • Grooming

  • Style

And even though I haven’t managed to reach my goal just yet (to become, on average, a 9+ in terms of appearance, which of course is a very lofty goal) the strides in the right direction were significant enough that I feel I can consider it a success and share it with you.

But before we begin…

Pulling Off a Lay When You’re Sick & Dog-Tired: A Report

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By: Alek Rolstad

Welcome back. Today I will continue where I last ended it. Just to recap my previous post where I discussed going out and meeting women when you social momentum was low (or “negative” – as in “not feeling like it”), I discussed a few things and I used one of my nights out in Bulgaria where I went out even though I had caught a serious throat infection (I was on strong antibiotics) and also had a lack of sleep in addition to being tired from travelling.

This post is from the same night and is a continuation of that night out. In my previous post I covered the few event that took place before what I am about to cover in this post. I went out and talked to 2 groups of girls, but the emphasis of the previous post was on how I dealt with my bad mood.

This post covers the event of my third approach of the night. I will cover the interaction step by step. I will add as many details as possible and share my personal notes on the interaction and explain everything I do: why I do what I do and why and how it works. In addition to that, I will share many different techniques; so this post will work partly as a lay report and partly as a guide – a hybrid.

sick lay

This post will give you an idea on how a seduction works – how it all works together. The main theme of the post will be around “leading” – i.e., leading the interaction from you being just a stranger in her eyes into you being her lover for the night. I will use the actual story of the report to exemplify my points.

Take a big breath...

Because this post is long, full of content, and VERY action packed...

In addition to the main theme “leading”, here are some other topics covered in this post:

Let’s get right into it...

What Do These People Even Want From You?

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By: Cody Lyans

Ever feel like everyone out there wants to take advantage of you and use you for their own ends?

It isn’t the case that everyone does... unfortunately, if you have a certain kind of history, sometimes you may not be able to tell the people who will be good influences in your life with good intentions for you from the people who will be bad influences and only want to take things from you it will not benefit you to give them.

In life, you start off at a disadvantage. You are dependent on others to rear you into adulthood, and usually that goes “okay”; but sometimes it goes in some messed up directions, and sometimes it’s the world’s doing, while other times it is your own ignorance that’s responsible.

This dual possibility leaves a lot of people playing it so safe, or so close to the chest that whether they are harming themselves in the line of fire from forces beyond them, or are getting by “okay”, and so they choose the same path they’ve always been on to get them into adulthood.

Those suffering abuse often take a lot more of it before they see that the source isn’t them and it’s some other weirdo deceiving them and gas-lighting them. Those suffering under their own ignorance cocoon themselves in paranoia and take up vindictive mindsets. Those who get reared “okay” are usually roped into their parent’s troubled relationships or attempts to appear like an unquestionable authority to their child.

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No matter which way you spin it, you always end up to some degree dazed and confused, wondering how the hell you got here, and why you couldn’t have just had a no strings attached rearing into adulthood, and a nice introduction into the world upfront.

4 Steps to Give Women Orgasmic Anal Sex

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By: Chase Amante

anal sexI wasn’t always a fan of anal sex.

Used to be that when girls asked me for it, my erection would disappear and I’d lose all interest in sex of any sort after that. I mean, gross. And in any event, her pussy’s right there; why would I want to stick it in her butt?

As I got older, I became less of a stick in the mud and decided to give anal more of a chance. Eventually, I discovered that, done right, women absolutely loved it, and soon I enjoyed it a fair bit too.

The fear for her, that comes with accepting you into the wrong hole... the thrill she feels at doing something taboo... and the pure pleasure that comes with an opening packed to the brim with nerve endings swallowing up your manhood into it, its sanctity at the mercy of it... all these things contribute to the emotional and physical excitement of it for her.

And, if you’re executing anal sex technically correct, with an aim towards supplying anal orgasms, your member will be hitting her vagina from the other side, a truly intense and orgasmic experience.

As a man, there’s the sense that you’re dominating this woman in a way you’re not ‘supposed’ to do, and the sense that she is yielding her body to you in a way she hasn’t to too many (or perhaps any) other men. These things enhance the experience for her as well.

However, this article isn’t here to discuss the merits of anal sex (though I will cover that briefly towards the end) – I’m not here to ‘convert’ anybody.

If you’re reading this, I assume you’d like to know how to do it well, and not that you are recoiling at how gross it is (like I, well, used to).

So... let’s talk about giving her thunderous orgasms, through her back door.

DISCLAIMER: I did really try to find some non-NC17 images for communicating the ‘position’ part to you below, but found it next to impossible to locate any images showing the position I wanted to show at all, let alone any PG-13 ones. So, there are a couple of NSFW images near the end of this post – you have been forewarned. Don’t read at the cubicle, or on the bench in the park by the local kindergarten.

The Not-So-Subtle Art of Self-Amusement

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By: Darius Bright

As I’m packing my things for a four-day music festival, I remember all the crazy stuff from the past events – pure, unadulterated fun. Well, at least the parts I can remember. For some reason, many of us have no trouble letting go and having fun during vacations, music festivals, or camping trips, but fail to do the same when we’re at a local bar, looking to meet someone new.

self-amusement

And this is what this article is going to be about – having fun. Essentially, I’ll try to convince you in about 2000 words to do something that comes natural to every child, and something that should be completely obvious to every adult.

Yet for too many this simple act doesn’t come naturally – we’re too invested in forcing a particular outcome and planning every single step, as if we can prepare for dynamic social interactions in the same way we prepare for a weekend road trip.

And while we’re sitting there, pondering what line to use as an opener to get that girl into bed (yeah, as if it works that way) or mindlessly grind approaches telling the same damn lines and analyzing the night’s results (wait, was it 33 or 34 approaches?) life is happening in the background.

With the corner of your eye you catch a glimpse of a random group of people laughing and telling jokes over drinks. You think that they sound fun, but there’s no time for fun – you’re here to get women.

Unsurprisingly, for many guys, seduction and meeting women becomes a chore; something that they need to dedicate blocks of time to every week and just work through like a bad case of paperwork.