How to Get Her to Blow You like a Pornstar

So you want to teach her how to give you an epic blow job. But where do you start? With the 18 techniques in this article.

You would think that after having over a hundred cocks in her mouth, she’d be better at this. Her enthusiasm is on point – she’s devouring my dick like a starving third world lady who’s only remaining sustenance is my semen. But her technique? Severely lacking.

I give her a few tips as she has her snack.

“More spit.”

“I want to hear you moan more.”

“You can go deeper.”

Then, I stop her. “Baby, has anyone actually taught you to suck dick?”

She laughs and tells me no.

“Seriously? You admitted to sleeping with over a hundred guys, and NO ONE has taught you?”

“No,” she laughs. “They all told me I was really good!”

“Well, they were probably all too happy to get their dicks sucked and didn’t want to risk rocking the boat.”

She smiles. “Okay, tell me what to do.”

It isn’t long before she’s gurgling, choking, and pumping my cock like a pornstar. In the midst of her grand performance, I ask her how she’s enjoying herself.

“This is so much more fun!” she says to me. “It’s getting me wet as hell.” Then she goes back to work.

Ask for What You Want

I shouldn’t have to write this article, but apparently there are an abundance of men not telling girls how they prefer to be sucked off.

And who doesn’t like blowjobs? Well, I know one writer for GC who really doesn’t, but he’s probably one of the only men I’ve met in my life who is “meh” about blowjobs ;)

If you like something, then shouldn’t you have the best version of it you can get? Especially when it takes no effort at all?

You only need the balls to ask her for what you want... and know what to tell her.

One thing to keep in mind with this:

She wants to suck your dick. Girls LOVE cock in their mouth.

I’ve met girls who’ve said they really don’t enjoy it. Then I taught them how to do it, and they loved it. When I ask them why it turns them on so much, they say it’s because it gives them power over the man.

I think they are rationalizing their feeling to the wrong notion.

It gives them power over your pleasure.

In other words, they are responsible for your pleasure. This is the language of servitude, not of dominance.

They’re serving you. Or rather, servicing you. She gets pleasure from giving you pleasure. It’s a completely one-sided gift on her part, at least on a purely physical level. But the act of service makes her feel submissive, and that gives her pleasure, which coats the entire experience with a lovely feeling for her, especially when it’s your instructions and demands that get her to do it better and with more gusto.

I’m sure some girls might read this and protest.

“No, I’m dominating him!” or “I don’t like blowjobs.”

Bullshit. Women often aren’t sufficiently self-aware to know what they truly want, or don’t want to admit it, because it might hurt their reputation. I know this because these are the same girls who say they don’t like BDSM, anal, or anything else that involves deep vulnerability. Then, when they meet me, these degrading acts become hot to them.

Some women like blowjobs for the act itself. Maybe it’s an oral fetish or whatever. However, in my experience, women love sucking a powerful man’s cock. It’s their way of kneeling at the feet of power. Perhaps on some metaphysical level, they’re consuming power itself.

But when you get girls to blow you how you want, they’ll be more attracted to you, and you’ll, uh, get blown better (why am I justifying this?).

Blowjob Sensei

I’m not exactly sure what you like, but you do. Tell her to do that.

Do not tip-toe around it or fail to ask for anything other than exactly what you want. For the sake of instruction, however, I’ll tell you what I like and how I instruct girls to satisfy me.

As with my other freaky sex articles, I will stress the importance of how you instruct her. Firstly, do not ask. As in, don’t use the interrogative tone for anything but “You like that, you little cum-guzzling slut?” or “You want that cum all over your pretty little face?”

Order her to do things. Either she’ll do them or she won’t. Asking is always a weaker position.

For those of you who are dealing with a girl who doesn’t like giving them head, well, get more dominant and more attractive. Put on some muscle, change your attitude, etc. She needs to either feel an intense lust for you and always give you what you want, or know that if she won’t suck you off when you ask for it, you’ll find someone else who will (which is a completely fair position; don’t ever let anyone shame you into thinking otherwise).

If she won’t put her mouth on it, some girl will.

I hooked up with a chick in my apartment building a while back who has a boyfriend. She told me a few times how she hates giving head, and she dotingly described her boyfriend as “understanding” of this. Well, when I was eating her pussy in her room before I left for Europe, you can imagine how funny this was to me. The fact that he wanted something and was okay with not getting it helped contribute to his cuckoldry.

But if you’re a man, and you ask for what you want, then she’ll blow you. Once she starts doing so, then we can move on to the art of the blowjob. It has two aspects: technique and enthusiasm.

Blowjob Technique

Start with the basics.

• Teeth. None. She should try her best to suck you like a GILF whose pre-blowjob ritual involves removing her dentures. If she scrapes, tell her to watch her teeth. Do not be afraid of making her feel insecure about this. That being said, you don’t have to be a dick about it. You can tell her in a curt but gentle manner NOT to do things. “Oh, baby, watch your teeth.” Let the next one or two go. If she does it again, tell her. She won’t learn if you don’t tell her.

• Tonguing the tip. Tell her to cut that out immediately. The urethra is way too sensitive.

• Not enough spit. Tell her to drink some water if her mouth is dry. You’re boning her mouth, not sandpaper. Keep telling her “more spit.”

• Too fast. Some girls try to pump you as fast as possible. This not only makes dick-to-teeth collisions more likely, it also prevents her from getting into it. She should enjoy it, not treat it like a sprint. Conversely, I haven’t met any chicks who go too slow. Some of the best blowjobs I’ve gotten were super slow – artists taking their time with a masterpiece. Usually this means she also enjoys it already. She wants to savor it. But there is such a thing as too soft.

• Too soft. If she’s not tightening her lips around your dick hard enough, there won’t be enough friction. Tell her “suck harder, baby” or “tighten your lips, baby.” Using nicknames helps ease the tension. It will make her feel feminine and appreciated.

Once the basics are covered, then you can start teaching her the fun stuff.

• Lots of spit. Tell her that you want spit drooling from her mouth. If she doesn’t do it immediately, pull your dick out and order her to spit in a more commanding tone. If both of you are comfortable with roughness, grab her hair and pull it while ordering her. “I. Said. Spit. Slut.” You might notice her moan in excitement.

• Moaning. I want to hear her enjoy it. Even if she isn’t yet, telling her to moan will get her to enjoy it, trust me. Firstly, you’re ordering her to do something, and compliance increases arousal for women. Then, the moaning will send a feedback loop to her brain, and she’ll legit moan soon enough. Acting can produce real emotions and warp one’s perception of something. “I want to hear you moan” or “I want to hear how much you enjoy my cock in your mouth.”

• Lip-smacking-goodness. You want to hear her spit gurgling, her sucking, and her lips smacking when they come off the top of your rocket. “I want to hear you” usually gets the job done. If you need to, get specific. “I want her your lips smacking on my hard cock.”

• Ask/order her to express her enjoyment. “Do you like that cock in your mouth?” When she nods her head or gives a “mhmm,” take your dick out of her mouth and look her in the eyes. “I want to hear you say it. Tell me how much you love sucking my cock.” Get creative with it. “You thirsty little slut, you love my big hard cock stretching out your tiny little throat?”

• Choking. You can either shove her head down further, or tell her something like: “I want to hear you choke.” Maybe even challenge her: “Not many girls can deepthroat me,” or “I want to see how far you can shove it down your throat.” I personally want girls coughing, gasping for air, and damn near vomiting. I love the sound of it. This also gives her the perception that you’re bigger than you actually are. If she’s choking on you, her mind is going to start twisting physical reality, and she’ll feel as if she’s choking on some monster wang. Of course, being actually bigger helps with this, but unless the girl has no gag reflex, you don’t have to be huge to get her to choke. You can add to this by choking her with your hand.

• Face-fucking. This is my personal favorite. Tell her to get on her knees. Stand over her and push her head back at an angle so you enter downwards into her throat. Basically, treat her mouth like a vagina. Tell her to watch her teeth (which is a bit hard, since you’re ravaging her mouth), but there’s no room for delicacy here. You need to be rough. “Watch your damn teeth,” if she does scrape against you. You should be grunting and expressing your animalistic dominance. Get really into it and very rough. Use a firm grasp on her hair to help pull her into you as you thrust. You can use your other hand to choke her at the same time. Remind her that she’s your sex toy. Pretty soon her chin and tits will be dripping with spit; she’ll feel dirty, which turns her on, and she’ll look dirty, which turns you on. Of course, check on her occasionally to make sure she’s okay. If this description wasn’t illustrative enough, go to your favorite porn site and type “face-fucking.” Enjoy.

• Swallowing. When you get close and you want to bust in her throat, get really excited and tell her that you’re going to coat her throat with your spunk. Be very, very vocal and physically expressive of your pleasure. You want her to get excited to eat your babies.

• Licking. I enjoy when a girl takes a break from the sucking and just licks me like a popsicle. Also, she should be using her tongue while she works. Simply tell her “Use your tongue more” and see if she gets creative on her own. The best technique, in my opinion, is when she licks the underside of your shaft slowly, but is pumping fast. Or the swirling tornado tongue is always good, too.

Feels good, man.

• Slow-mo. Occasionally, tell her to slow down. This will heighten her focus. The dominance of you controlling her pace also turns her on.

• Facials. I personally like to get them to beg for it and tell me how much they want my cum. Jack off in their face and tell her “Beg me, you little slut. Beg me for my cum. Tell me you want it all over your face.” You see the truly vile parts of female sexuality in these moments. They beg for your cum like goddamn coke fiends. I mean this in the best way possible, too. It’s beautiful, fascinating, and even divine, in my opinion. When you’re doing it right and you pull out of her mouth, she’s going to lurch at your dick and even say things like “No, I want more!” Order her to open her mouth and stick out her tongue. You usually get a cute smile alongside it. When you do cum all over her face, gather it up and feed it to her. Talk dirty to her as you do so. Or order her to clean herself up.

• Ass up. This is actually really important. Most girls who are really turned on will do it naturally, because it’s a submissive posture. But if she isn’t arching her back and sticking her ass out, tell her to, whether she’s on the ground or lying down on the bed. It will be more visually appealing to you, and it will make her feel more feminine, as she’s exposing herself.

• Eye contact. Telling her to look at you is a huge turn-on for her. “Look at me.” Say it with a romantic but firm voice. Then stare into her soul.

• Scepter worship. Besides face-fucking, this is the most enjoyable technique possible, in my opinion. First, tell her to use two hands. Even if you’re not huge, her small hands should be able to fit. Then, as she jacks you off with two hands, tell her to also suck you. Then, once it’s lubed up with spit, tell her to twist her hands like she’s wringing out a wet rag. This, along with her choking, gurgling, spitting, moaning, sucking sounds, and licking, and I guarantee you’ll have the most earth-shattering, seizure-inducing orgasm you’ve ever had from a blowjob. She’ll love it, too. It’s complete submission on her part, as she’s dedicating so much of her attention and body to servicing you. She will literally be worshiping your cock.

A very helpful piece of advice to all of this is to reward her when she does well. Give her moans, or shudder. Show her it’s working. Girls will get visibly excited as they improve their skills. They want to impress you, especially since you’ve established yourself as an authority figure who isn’t afraid to ask for what he wants.

My favorite way to reward is to react with animalistic grunts and passionate fervor. When a girl is giving really good head, I tell her stuff like “Holy fuck! You suck such good dick, you little slut.” Then I start grabbing her head, shoving her further down my cock, and then when I lose all control, I usually start railing her mouth.

Can You Teach Enthusiasm?

Yes, you can. It’s called seduction. You can coax a woman to get turned on by pretty much anything. Her inherent enthusiasm will be increased by how hot you are to her. You can do this by dressing better, having a jacked body, knowing how to get her wet with your words, etc. You know, game + fundamentals, like what we dedicate this whole website to teaching.

During her blowjob lessons, you can increase this attraction with game and fundamentals all the same.

Your Role in an Awesome Blowjob

It doesn’t just stop at what she does (or you teach her to do), though.

Here are a few things you can do to make the blowjobs you get even better.

Finger Her

Have her suck you from the side. Tell her to get on her knees and stick her ass up. Then reach through her legs and finger her as she blows you. This will add another layer of pleasure to her service, reinforcing her enjoyment and exciting her more about the cock worship.

Dominating Posture

If you’re laying back as she blows you, spread your legs wide and pull a leg and knee up. This gives you a stable base, and you will be more relaxed and dominant. Stiff, straight-legged postures are feminine and make you feel smaller.

The position you want to achieve. Except with pants off.

Then, keep one or both hands on the top of her head or face. Grab her hair and pull or push her down when it feels really good. This should be instinctual, but the extent of male submissiveness is truly extraordinary, so natural things need to be explicitly stated.

Caress her face with your fingers and brush her skin with your thumb adoringly. She’s your cute little sex doll. Show appreciation while also being dominant.

The best way to lay back, however, is to be almost sitting against the wall, having your one knee up very high, and having your torso straight up or even a bit over her head as she goes down on you

What this does is relax you, but it also makes you seem looming over her. It will make her feel small, vulnerable, and submissive, which is a huge turn-on for her.

In this posture, I like to pull up both legs, grip the back of her neck with a Muay Thai clinch, and slowly but firmly help her shove my cock down her throat. It feels very dominating and thus feels dominating to her, exciting her more. You can face-fuck her extremely well in this position by pulling her down onto your cock aggressively. It’s quite low effort, too, since gravity is helping.

If you want to stand up, do so with a wide stance and hold onto her head with a hand. The wide stance will make you feel and seem powerful. Plus, she has to look up at you, which makes her feel smaller. You might very quickly find her putting a hand up and stroking your stomach adoringly as she goes to work.

One of my other favorite positions is on the edge of a bed or on a chair while she rests on her knees. She will see you like a king on his throne waiting for his Queen... or one of his many concubines to tend to him.

Dominating Voice

As I said, the way you command her to do things should be firm and rough. You can also be romantic with it, too. This is dominating in its own way, as you’re treating her like a inexperienced teenager. “Aww, that’s a good girl.” Talk to her like you would a pet. The phrase “good girl” always drives chicks crazy. It’s super demeaning, especially when you pet her. I’ve even had girls express this to me in frustration, saying, “I feel like a damn dog when you do that!” But then I keep doing it and it excites them.

Dominant Response

Here’s the way you should respond to awesome blowjobs.

1. Stoicism. You’re used to this. You get blown when you want and how you want. It’s great, but you’re not gonna gush over it like a virgin who’s finally getting his pee-pee touched. Some of the girls who’ve gone most crazy over me are the ones who are constantly looking at me for approval as they suck... and I’m a statue. A few moans there, a few “good girls” there, and maybe some hair pulling, but all of my responses are minimal. This is not to say I’m unresponsive (which is what many guys will mistake stoicism for). It’s subtler than that. My lack of over-excitement or nervousness shows complete emotional control over the situation, and that’s extremely enticing to women. They’re seeking to get approval from you. The cocky, stoic smirk that one has in moments like this only comes from experience.

2. Ravaging passion. You’re grunting, exclaiming your appreciation in the most animalistic way possible. This is the full expression of your dark, masculine sexuality. This is most evident when you’re face-fucking a girl or when she’s worshiping your cock at full speed and you’re about to bust. You pull her hair, push her head down, smack her cheeks, or even spit on her, and have little to no emotional restraint.

3. Adoring romanticism. Adoring is the key word here. She’s cute and adorable. Yes, she’s a filthy whore who’s quite literally suffocating on your dick and convulsing from her attempts to shove it further down her throat, but she’s still just so cute! Your compliments can get really fun with this tone, too. “Aww, you’re such a good slut! Keep it up, princess. Daddy loves that...” as you slap her cheeks or stroke her hair like a dog who just did a good trick. When a girl is really going down on me and I’m sitting up, I like to pull her into that Muay Thai clench and then lean over and kiss the top of her head. Then I’ll whisper really disgusting things into her ears in a really sweet and doting voice.

Combine all of these things together, and you’ll have the makings of a girl who is really, really wet after she blows you. She will have so many submissive, pleasurable, and disgustingly erotic associations with having your dick in her mouth. What’s more is that she will not only be enthusiastic about blowing you, she’ll be as good as a pornstar, too.

That was such a fun article to write.

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