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How to Attract Women (the Same Way Women Attract Men)

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By: Chase Amante

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A few hours ago as I walked down a city street, a woman stepped out in front of me.

Her face and body were ordinary. But she triggered an involuntary response in me. My heart rate quickened. I felt excitement. I wanted to talk to this girl, and meet her.

I didn't talk to her. She finished crossing the sidewalk and entered the car waiting for her, with someone I guessed was a boyfriend.

And, truth be told, she wasn't really my type. Like I said, pretty average face and body.

Had I met her somewhere else though, I'd have likely talked to her and, if she bit, pursued her. Her walk was quick, confident, sexy. Her hair was a clear bottle blonde, and she'd clearly used a curler to add some wave. Her nose was too big, but her eyelashes were long and luxurious, and her lips were bright red, so I didn't stay focused on her nose long.

Her breasts were pert; though I've been with girls with breasts like hers where you take the girl's clothes off and discover those breasts are 90% bra. Her stomach was flat and her legs looked strong, so that was real, though there wasn't much to her butt. Even still, in her form-fitting yoga clothes, she looked good.

I passed through the perfume wake she trailed behind her as I continued my way down the street, and when I inhaled her sent my pulse quickened a second time.

And I thought to myself "That girl is far more ordinary, in her face and body, than plenty of more beautiful women I've seen already today. Yet, she excited me in a way none of those girls did."

What worked for her will work for you as well.

Because the secret of how to attract women is the same for men as what women use to have that effect on men.

And just like women like that can attract you and me with certain irresistible attraction signals (even if we know how they're doing it), you and I can do the same to women, too.

The Basics of Turning Dates into Sex

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By: Tony Depp

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You wanted to bring her home and have sex with her, but you ended up having another platonic date with no action. Why? It’s because these elements were lacking.

Ever worry so much about your approach anxiety or what to say that when you actually land a date, you have no clue how to turn it into sex?

It’s super common. Usually, you’re waiting for a sign that she’s attracted, a special laugh, compliment, or a submissive, coy gesture. And when it never materializes, you think “Oh, maybe she’s not that into me. I better not be creepy. I better take this slow.”

Of course, this means you go on three dates and never have sex. Lose-lose.

Want to know if she’s down? Assume that ALL WOMEN ARE INTO YOU. They just don’t know it yet.

The reason you fail to close dates? You fear mistakes. What if you say something “weird” or try to touch her, and she freaks out? But you know what? It’s either you take those risks or stay in the friend zone.

When you meet girls from day game, you’ll probably have to go on at least one date. Same-day lays don’t happen very often for most guys. And for most men, you won’t get laid even on the first or second date. By the third or fourth date, you’re solidly slotted as a “friend.”

If you want to get laid fast from a date, you need an effective plan and the right mindset.

In this article, I’ll teach you a basic guideline on how to take a date home and bang her silly.

Women Will Teach You About Women – And Yourself (Video)

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By: Hector Castillo

Their wisdom is unmatched.

Their truth is unmarred.

Their virtue, unassailable.

Okay, not really. Women aren’t perfect or any more magical than men are (though sometimes I swear they are angels), but women can teach you a LOT about, well, women. And yourself.

Sometimes it’s not their words, but their actions. But sometimes, yes, their words are also truthful (well, mostly...).

I will teach you the art of LEARNING from women. I have known no greater teacher during my journey through the land of women.

Papi Gnome will explain...

The Tequila Gambit: Get Her Isolated with You

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By: Alek Rolstad

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Here’s a great seduction gambit based on anti-climaxes and creating intrigue. This one is designed specifically to get her isolated with you. Tequila!

Hey, guys! It’s time to share another gambit that is part of the seduction stack I currently use in the field.

Previously, we discussed how to use anti-climaxes to stimulate her and be intriguing while also setting a sexual frame. Today we will still use anti-climaxes to build intrigue and stimulate her, but we will also introduce a tool to generate a high note that can allow you to isolate her in a smooth way.

Isolation is the subject for today. This post will give you another tool to isolate women!

Let's begin with a discussion about why it's so important to isolate your girl.

Giving Women Permission Society Doesn't

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By: Chase Amante

give woman permissionWe've talked on Girls Chase before about the importance of giving women permission to desire you. Which might almost sound silly at first... she's a strong adult woman, she doesn't need a man's permission to desire him! Right?

But there are all kinds of rules women feel socially obliged to follow.

Most of these rules are unspoken... the unconscious rules of the social contract.

All a society is is rules and trust. People agree on (often unspoken) rules, and trust each other to follow and uphold the rules, and trust the society itself to be a fair one, based on these broadly understood but largely unspoken rules. During times of social upheaval, you actually get large numbers of people in violation of the unspoken rules, which leads to an erosion of trust in the society, and a schizophrenic society. If you're interested in the big picture, you can read my article on how the violation of long-standing intersexual rules has led to a collapse of trust between the sexes in the West. But this article is not about that.

What this article is about is the individual man and woman.

Namely, you, and a woman you like.

She's with you, she feels like there are things she 'has to' do, and other things she 'has to not do', and you want to shake her free of these constraints so she will join you on your exploits.

How do you break her free?

To Attract Women, Acting like an Older Man Can Only Help You

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By: Varoon Rajah

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Women want men, not boys. Does that mean a young guy should adopt the styles and traits of older men in order to attract girls his own age?

I’ve been discussing pickup and outings with some younger friends and clients as a 30-something talking to guys in their early 20s or just out of college. One comment that always stands out is, “Are you sure that your older-man style is going to work for me getting younger girls?”

When guys are young (early 20s or younger) and just getting into game, it can be tough finding themselves in cities or environments where the population is predominantly older, or extremely variable. For day game cold approach in New York City, you’re just as likely to meet a 28-year-old as a 22-year-old unless you calibrate your venues and approach areas.

So, to quickly address the issue of actually meeting younger women, you can, for example, stick to areas near a college.

But more to the point of this article, virtually all men want women who are either younger or roughly the same age as they are. I meet very few young men who want to give it a shot with an older woman. With girls, however, it’s not really a question of age preference. It's more a question of what she considers "manly."

But many young guys aren’t sure if adopting the behaviors or styles of older men will help them. Hence the question: will this also work for the kinds of girls I want?

The answer is a firm “yes.” Here's why that is, and what you can do.

4 Ways to Pick Up a Waitress

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By: Tony Depp

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Lots of waitresses meet their boyfriends on the job, because despite being professional, they’re still women. But still, it takes some finesse to score with your server.

Someone recently asked me, “Tony, how do I pick up a waitress? Is it any different than social circle or a cold approach? Should I go direct, indirect, or build up social proof first?”

Yes, all of the above. And don’t forget to tip.

I’ve dated more than a few waitresses, hostesses, and bartenders. I also used to work in restaurants, on both sides of the kitchen.

First, understand this. Most waitresses are working for tips, and they’re paid to be nice to you. The nicer and more attentive they are, the bigger the tip. So, a waitress may even go out of her way to flirt with you. She’s working, she’s tired, her feet are sore, and she’s forcing herself to seem chipper and stoked to talk with you.

The bright side is she’s also bored, and if you’re a funny, charming guy, you could be the distraction she’s looking for.

Many waitresses meet their boyfriends at work, either through co-workers or customers. So, it’s not impossible to seduce a waitress, not at all. But don’t be naive; she’s at WORK. Her top priority is to serve you food and make money. If she’s hot, she deals with thirsty men all day long. It’s your job to stand out from them and find the balance between customer and potential lover.

The trick is to come across as a lover and not a customer.

Do Not Compare Yourself to Women

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By: Chase Amante

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"Women have it easier." Well sure, in many ways they do. But YOU are not in competition with women.

There is a thing I have seen online (not so much in real life, but perhaps I'm not socializing with the right guys for it in real life) where guys complain about how easy women have it or how much XYZ thing favors women.

I'll give a few examples of this:

  • "Women don't know anything about how hard it is to approach guys. Men approach THEM! Why do men have to do all the work?"

  • "Dating is all about what the woman wants. Men have to do all the work of planning and wooing and courting a girl. The man has to make all the moves. Then if he messes up, the woman walks! How is any of that fair!"

  • "The law is completely stacked on women's side! If a woman wants to screw a man over, she totally can! As a man, you are a second class citizen!"

Are these things true?

Well yes, they are. Men do have to do all the work of the approach. Men do have to do all the work of the date. Men do get ditched if they mess up with a girl, often (but not always. Girls will cut you some slack if they like you). The law does often favor women (though not quite to the extent most men's rights activists seem to think).

I guess if you are arguing for a change to cultural norms, or the legal system, it might be worthwhile to complain about this stuff and get a movement going.

If you're on Girls Chase though, I assume your primary objective is more success in the world as it exists, and not so much becoming a political activist to try to change the world.

You might well be a political activist too. But that's not why you are here.

If you're here, it's because you want girls.

And if you want girls, stop comparing yourself with girls.

Pickup and Seduction Gambit: The Anti-Climax Routine

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By: Alek Rolstad

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The anti-climax gambit piques her interest and imagination but delivers comic disappointment. It helps you avoid potential resistance and leaves her wanting more.

Today I want to share a cool technique I have found that excites women. It’s a great tool to add juice to your conversations, stimulate her emotionally, and perhaps help set a sexual frame.

I've only tried this technique with night game. I am sure some of you can experiment with it and find other ways to implement it. For instance, you could apply a toned-down version of it for day game, or use something like this during a date (as you get further into it).

This post is suited for beginners who have learned the fundamentals of interesting and captivating conversation. However, intermediates will gain the most benefits from this technique.

That said, this technique is not hard to pull off.

I will share my example, but you are more than welcome to create your variations or use the concepts in this technique to create your own. This is the beauty of such posts. You may or may not like a technique, but you can always steal something from it, and that something can be an essential part of your repertoire.

If you are looking for sex talk gambits, you’ll be happy because the example I use here is one of them.

Even Nice, Sweet Girls Like to Be Touched

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By: Chase Amante

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Does it seem like nice, sweet girls exist outside of sexuality? They don't – they're sexual creatures too, even if it isn't always obvious at first.

Go through life as a man, and you will encounter different classes of women.

There is the flirtatious, outgoing girl it's easy to flirt with. She's a minx and you just know she wants you to touch her and hit on her. She loves the attention.

And there is the regular girl, who isn't so outgoing. She still flirts sometimes, and you feel like she 'can take it' if you get a little bit aggressive with her. You don't flirt with her or touch her as much as the aggressively flirtatious girl, yet you still do a bit.

Finally, there is the kind, sweet girl, who seems like such a nice person, completely not flirtatious at all. She is innocent; childlike. Even if she's a grown woman and very pretty, it feels somewhat wrong to you to flirt too much with this woman or touch her or be all that aggressive with her. It feels like she isn't about that; you're not sure she could 'handle that', and you certainly don't want to hurt such a sweet human being.

These perspectives on women have some truth in them, while still being flawed.

There's a reason many girls both of the ordinary regular girl variety and the innocent sweet girl variety end up with asshole bad boys, and part of the reason is these are the only guys who regularly ignore 'sweetness' or 'disinterest' signals.

What that means is that while assholes bother some women who aren't interested, they also make a lot more progress with those other girls whom more respectful men hesitate to flirt with, get sexual with, and touch.