It takes time to be sexy. Yet while you’re working on it, there’s no reason for you to go dateless in the meantime.
Writing on the Girls Chase boards, a member by the name GottaChange says:
“From what I’ve seen around the only men who manage to consistently bed women using a normal “person-to-person” frame are men who are particularly good-looking according to society’s modern criteria. It is as if their looks takes care of the attraction for them and they can just worry about having a normal interaction and move things towards sex.
All the other guys (the average-looking ones) being successful with women are, from what I have seen, those who are able to arouse women by projecting masculinity and sexuality and be consistent with it during the whole interaction. They aren’t faking it, they ARE like that.
I know for some of you this is easy if not natural, but for me this is very very hard. I can open girls using a friendly/warm/playful vibe but this doesn’t lead me anywhere. We keep bantering until she either sees me as a new friend or she loses interest and goes away.
Yeah, rarely I have had women becoming sexually interested in me even if I was just being normal and friendly, but it’s not something I can rely on regularly like I see good-looking guys do. I need to structurally change something about myself, and that’s why I chose this nickname.”
So, this is not going to be an article on how to be sexy. We already have a bunch of those – here’s a few, for starters:
- How to Be a Sexy Man
- Constructing Your Sexy Vibe (and Making Girls Go Nuts)
- Sexual Tension: 7 Ways to Make Women Excited and Randy
Sexy Man’s Grooming Guide Series
Sexual Tension Series
Rather, this will be an article on patching things together in the
short-term, before your sexy self has emerged from the sexpot chrysalis.
We touched on the lack-of-sexiness problem yesterday a bit in my
massive troubleshoot post “What to
Do When Your Approach Just Isn’t Working.”
However, I want to give it its own treatment in article form. Partly so
you don’t have to read 12,000 words to find the one paragraph that
talks about it. But also because it needs highlighting – what you don’t
highlight often goes unnoticed.
One of the points we harp on a lot on Girls Chase is the value of being sexy. When you are sexy, girls become... pretty straightforward. You have clear sexual value on offer that appeals to women:
Women who’d like a boyfriend like you appreciate it
Women who’d like a friend like you appreciate it too
And women in need of sexual release really appreciate it
There’s just one problem. It takes time to develop that sexy vibe if you don’t have it yet. I think it took me eight or nine months to get mine to the point where I saw noticeable changes in how women received me. So what are you supposed to do in the meantime? Scratch days off your calendar and watch the seasons pass?
Obviously, that’s not so desirable.
Instead, you’re going to have to find some other ways to make girls want to do things with you.