Nightlife Shadowing, Pt 1: When to Melt into the Crowd

Sometimes in nightlife it’s best if you can “shadow”: just melt into the crowd and disappear. In this article, we talk when and why to do this.

Today I want to share an old concept of mine that I originally shared back in 2009, I think. I haven’t really revisited the concept since then, but lately I have found situations where the concept has proven to be extremely useful to me, and these situations are not uncommon. Based on this, I thought you all might find the concept of “shadowing” to be very useful. It is easy to understand and not difficult to apply, so this post is for everyone.

What is shadowing?

In basic terms, it’s the “anti-social proof,” but it’s not something that will ruin your social proof. It just works differently.

I have covered the concept of social proof (and preselection, which is the result of social proof) multiple times. Social proof is the tool that makes women preselect you (i.e., choose you before you even approach). Attraction can be generated as a result of women seeing you with other women.

• The more women you are seen with, the greater the effect of social proof, and the more you get preselected

• The hotter the women who provide you social proof, the greater the effect

• The more into you those women appear to be, the greater the effect

Check out some of our posts on the subject if you want to learn more about it.

• How Preselection Works to Get You Girls

• How to Use Social Proof to Get Girls

• 3 Ways to Use Social Proof to Be Scaldingly Attractive to Women

• Social Proof in Nightclubs: Jumps, Momentum, and Girl Circles

• Girls, Social Proof, Herding, and Copycat Hookups

• The Pros and Cons of Social Proof for Seduction

In order to get social proof, the following is required:

• You must trigger attention

• Be positioned where people will see you

• Be a social butterfly

Shadowing, on the other hand, is the opposite. In other words, it is a tool to avoid attention; you become a shadow rather than a social butterfly.

I feel some of you may be skeptical already. “Why the hell would you do this?” is probably a question on a lot of your minds. Isn’t getting attention necessary to trigger approach invitations from women? Isn’t it good to be seen with other girls? Yes, those are all really good things – but not always.

I consider it my duty, therefore, to elaborate on why and when this technique can be useful before I get to the “hows” of becoming a shadow. Therefore, the practical part will be covered next week in Part 2.

As for now, let’s cover the theory behind shadowing.