Meet New Girls by Doing THIS

Aarrrrgh procrastination got me.

I had worked very hard to set up my life in a way where I’d have a lot of free time, and all for the explicit purpose of going out to meet new girls… yet there I was, dicking around on the internet, watching movies and chilling with my buddies.

Have you ever had that problem… when you’re busy, you say to yourself: “If only I had the free time to approach more girls!”

But then once you have free time, you somehow get lazy and complacent… until your calendar is suddenly jammed again and you regret not having taken advantage of the golden opportunity you had?

We’re often our own worst enemies, and the reality is that everyone procrastinates… I’m no exception, sometimes. Even Napoleon Hill said he was not entirely free from it… but at the very least, one thing is true: the more you refine your ability to pick up girls, the less you will procrastinate out of fear, and the more it will be out of laziness.

You know for a fact you can go out and get laid with a hot girl in a matter of few days and highly likely, today (and if you don't know that yet, well, that's what this site is for!)… but you first have to beat inertia. You first have to resist calling one of your girlfriends over, and instead make yourself look sharp and hit the town!

Of course once you get going, it’s so much fun that you don’t want to stop… but until you get to that point, you can lose a LOT of time that you will later regret not having made better use of.

If you do have that problem (and I know you do, because everyone does), check out the post on “How to Get What You Want,” about getting yourself to take action… it’s going to help.

Not Meeting New Girls? You’re Wasting Your Life!

It was just one of those days… I felt a bit sluggish because I had spent the previous night with a girl and she had left my place just at the crack of dawn… and the weather wasn’t really all that great either. So here I was, sitting in my apartment thinking… meh.

Anyone wanna play Portal 2?

While I was still sitting in my room, the radio was on in the background, and it was one of those shows where people call in to talk about their problems. I don’t think it’s usually a good idea to feed your mind with negativity in any way, shape of form, but in this case it did me some good… I mean, wow… talk about a wakeup call!

The first caller was a guy who had some terminal disease… and he had less than three weeks to live.

And so I started to ask myself… if I had three weeks to live… what would I be doing right now?

Portal 2…?

Uhm…

Not so much!

I got up, took a shower, put on some nice shoes and went out.

I mean, damn. Life is so short… what kinds of memories do you want to look back on when you’re on your death bed?

Wouldn’t you want to puzzle the nurses and have them wonder why you’re smiling to yourself, as you’re basking in the memories of untold encounters with stunning young ladies…?

What’s Best in Life…?

Is it… to crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentation of their women?

No Conan… No.

What’s best in life is to BE with women.

You want to hear them go wild with pleasure… not lament.

Truly, I was not to regret going to the trouble of hitting the town… because I ended up with one of those amazing experiences that make life worth living in the first place… I went out to meet new girls and ended up hooking up with a girl that is my EXACT archetype.

You know what I mean… there are beautiful girls, and there are beautiful girls who also happen to be your exact type… those are the ones you really go crazy for.

The kind of girl you’re in the game for.

The type that gives you the drive to get out of bed each morning on this often bittersweet planet we call home….

But, first things first.

To Meet New Girls, Be a Chick Magnet First

As I was walking around town, I noticed that girls were giving me a lot more eye contact than usual… and I attribute that to a couple of factors – factors that you can implement right now to get the same results:

• I had lost some weight… in fact, I had lost a fair bit of weight - I had my body fat percentage down in the single digits. This is not only important because numerous studies have found that visible abs are the most attractive physical feature in a man… after all, that won’t help you a whole lot during the day unless you do a lot of beach pickup and meet women at the beach. More importantly, your body fat percentage is visible in your face and changes your attractiveness TREMENDOUSLY.

  Don’t believe me? Just have a look at Val Kilmer – chick magnet par excellence when he was slim, blob with bad skin now that he’s out of shape. Since GirlsChase.com is well into the millions of readers now, I should probably apologize to Val just in case he’s reading this… but, Val, science is with me on this one.

Source: The Fitness Chronicle

• State Control – In one of my very first articles here on this blog, “Going Out Alone,” I talk about how there are really two things to master if you want to be confident without needing your friends as a security blanket: one is state independence, the other is state control.

  State independence means that you no longer need to rely on “being in a good state” to approach girls… even when you’re tired, even when your mind is not in the best place, you can still do approaches, and do them well… this can easily be achieved by consistent meditation. State control, on the other hand, is the foundation of TRUE success in pickup… check out my five-parter about The Success Factor if you haven’t yet.

• Afterglow – This one is so important that I even started giving my students the advice to forget about “well-groomed” if they just got laid. The day after a man has sex, he radiates… he has a magnetic aura that draws women to him like iron filings to the world’s largest scrap iron crane.

  There are a few reasons for this… one of them is pheromones. Other women can literally smell that he just got some… and that’s a powerful form of preselection. The second reason is the additional confidence and non-neediness you project just after a hedonistic night of debauchery… and finally, if you believe in such things, some might argue that your hara radiates a sexual energy and your aura has a powerful, primal charge of kundalini (hey, even if not, you still get two out of three!).

Boots on the Ground

The only way to meet new women is to leave the house. Obvious, right…? Yet, advice that can be oh so very hard to follow.

And so I went to a mall close to my house, and I approached three girls that day… one approach I performed poorly and got rejected… the second girl tells me she has a boyfriend… and the third one, well, turns out SHE was married.

So much for today’s report… no glory to be had here, right?

Well, that’s what I thought… when the third girl told me that she was married, I was just about to congratulate her and excuse myself to go continue to meet new girls elsewhere in the mall… but she stopped me and drew me into a conversation.

She started to ask me questions about me… she started to break the ice with me, the exact same way we teach our guys to do with girls… she was gaming me.

So I figured… well, maybe she’s only defacto married, but separated… or maybe her husband hits her? Who knows… she’s obviously looking for something, and she obviously wants that something to be ME.

So I suggested coffee some time, to which she replied: “Yeah, it’s always good to make new FRIENDS.”

She must have read this blog… that’s exactly what I like to say to women if I want to keep them guessing (so don’t let that phase you if you ever hear these words from a girl!).

Would You Sleep with a Married Girl…?

Since she was married, I decided to just meet her for a short date after work… just to test the waters and figure out what was going on. She accepted, but then canceled last minute.

Was she about to back out… did she suddenly have moral qualms about it?

Once again… not so.

Just a short while later, she sent me a text, saying: “Sorry about that… next time you invite me, I will be there, I promise.”

This is what we call a green light…

You see, many an experienced Casanova knows that it’s actually easier to hook up with a married girl than with one that’s single, and for a few reasons…

1. First, if she’s been married for more than a few years, she’s probably not in love with her husband anymore - the 2 year drop happens, and the passion that once was there subsides.

2. And second, this husband whom she’s already gotten over is your only competition, whereas with single girls you’re competing against every man she ever meets.

That said, I usually stay away from married women… I don’t think it’s worth the trouble, and I prefer to keep my dating life drama-free.

My Holy Confession

And so I was absolutely prepared to let this one go. If I had found out that she has kids, or that her marriage still has a future, I would have left it alone… and that’s exactly what I expected the outcome to be.

So I scheduled two dates for the next evening… one with the married girl at 5 o’clock, and one with another girl I was “courting,” for lack of a better word, at seven (even though my style of seduction is about as far from courtship as… well, if courtship is London, Ricardus is Tokyo).

The married girl shows up… and she is dressed to kill.

Oh My God…

Bless me, Father, for I’m about to sin… in thought, word and deed.

And not only did she dress extremely provocatively, she was also very flirtatious. It was obvious that she hadn’t had a lot of romance in her life for a while… and that she was starving for it.

And I finally found out why, as we had the most divine cappuccino in town and she told me her story.

She had gotten married to her high school sweetheart, seven years prior… and she regretted having made that decision. Too young to know better, blinded by her first love and naïve about the world of relationships…

… I really can’t blame her.

Haven’t we all made some stupid relationship mistakes when we were teenagers? At least we didn’t cement them for a lifetime… as opposed to her, most of us had a chance to learn from those mistakes, move on and get into healthier relationships later on.

Not her…

Now, she had just moved out of her husband’s house and was living with her aunt… and was getting ready to separate from hubby.

She told me my voice was very sexy.

I texted the other girl I was supposed to meet at 7 and canceled my date with her.

Where I Like It Most…

When we were back at my place, I gave her a massage… and I really took my time with this girl. I didn’t want to make any real moves here… I decided that if this is going to happen, it will have to be on HER initiative.

And so it transpired…

…after a while, she asked me: "Would you massage me where I like it most... I'm being audacious aren't I... would you massage my… stomach?" As she was still saying the last words, she took off her top and her bra and revealed an amazing pair...

Life... is not so bad after all :)

After we slept together, we talked some more and once she finally left, she sent me a final text message: "You asked me what I want to do with my life, what I want to be? I will tell you... be happy every minute of my life... good night."

I will be frank here… I felt sorry for her.

I feel sorry for everyone who’s caged in a relationship that’s not healthy or fulfilling for them.

In fact, I hope that society’s conventions are going to change at some point, and that more people are going to start living the life that is going to make them happy, rather than following other people’s expectations while silently being miserable.

I hope we will have a second sexual revolution… and that more people are going to embrace what I call the “Ideal Relationship.”

It’s not for everybody, but it certainly would have been right for her… and for many other women I’ve dated… as well as many of the men I’ve coached.

Try it sometime… and judge for yourself.

Moral of the Story

For a lot of guys, going out to meet new girls seems like some kind of impossible task at times. You've got to muster up some huge amount of steely-eyed resolve and go climb mountains and slay polar bears or some such nonsense.

But it isn't like that at all.

If you take care of basics like:

• Keep your weight down and your style up
• Learn state control and to master your emotions
• And go out after you've just slept with a girl (where possible!)

... and then you just GET OUT THERE and actually physically MEET women, you'll be surprised what you can make happen.

Just like I was here.

Onward and upward,

Ricardus