Imagine this scenario, if you will.
A man goes out with a woman, and everything feels like it is going great. She’s totally into him, smiles at everything he says, and follows his lead. Then, at some point during the interaction, she does something that completely catches him off guard.
Maybe she refuses a request in an attempt to test him.
Maybe she decides that going home with him wouldn’t be a good idea, and she protests at such an idea.
Maybe she puts up last minute resistance and leaves him wondering what in the world he needs to do to get past it.
All of the previous scenarios include a defining moment, because these men are unsure of how to proceed with unforeseen challenges.
These defining moments are the points in conversation where most men lose women. They are lost at what to do in such a scenario, and effectively scrape their minds to find a strategy to blow past that which is in the way of their goals.
… And when each strategy just doesn’t work out, what do they do? They lose power, and begin to panic. The loss of power causes them to become moody, belligerent, and bitter, because they just aren’t getting what they want with women.
Overreactions like this happen all the time. They are one of the primary destroyers of an interaction which otherwise may have been going along quite well, but were utterly destroyed when the leader (that’s you) ran into a roadblock. The smooth, seductive mask is lifted, and you are left angry at finding yourself unable to get to where you wanted to get to.