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First Time Picking Up Girls? 3 Key Mindsets to Help

First time at a bar picking up girls or going out on a hunch? Here are the three things you should do to optimize your chance for growth... and a few things I would have done different my first time around if I could do it all again.

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All three points I am going to share with you will serve to illustrate a deep principle at the heart of improving with women.

Whether it is your first time heading out or if you are just curious about how you measure up and if your fundamentals are good or not, there will be a few thought-provoking ideas to be found here.

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TubyDuby's picture

True... I sometimes feel impressed by the fact that cute girl is even talking to me that I just forget to close things, or are to afraid to tell about swapping contact details and I lose some girls like this.
But I suppose it is just a mistake of many rookies.

David Riley's picture

Hey Duby,

Yes, a lot of this changes when you get more into the habit of talking opening cute girls. You'll become so use to it, it will become as second nature. Then you'll stop missing out on the cute girls, as you'll be able to keep them around longer.

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Hey, love the blog and the advice here is truly golden. So last night I had a girl out on a second date and both the first and second one went well. The first had some making out and the second I had her come back to my place. I build with her and get her top off then the resistance sets in and I back off. She puts her clothes on and just sits. I build again and get my hands down her pants she's is raring to go and starts touching me. As I'm ready to take the rest of our clothes off she stops yet again and bolts. I know I didn't overcome the lmr correctly hence her leaving, but I guess my question is how should I proceed with this girl after she leaves?

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

Even though your situation pertains to a third date, I believe you'll find the points in this article fairly useful.

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Just Dave

TubyDuby's picture

How one can stop returning to default state of phoning the life in and start living normally? Not get SOME experience but BEST experience and push oneself forward even in situations when you don't have to do it.

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