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Boyfriend Framing: Serious Guy vs. Casual Guy

Chase Amante

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boyfriend framingJust because you use boyfriend disqualifiers doesn't mean you're totally out of the running as a boyfriend. Many guys still act like boyfriends… yet don't even realize it.

An issue I've noticed guys have over the years is they stumble upon Girls Chase, they read about not coming across as a boyfriend, and then they try to present themselves as 'not boyfriends' without actually changing their vibes.

Typically what they do is they add certain things to their conversations that they've read will push them out of boyfriend contention.

But then they don't actually revise the rest of their conversation to take out boyfriend-y topics and remarks. And they don't change their presentation or delivery style any, so they still seem like boyfriend candidates -- except now they're candidates who also say some slightly un-boyfriend-y things.

So let's talk about things men do (without even realizing it) that make them come across as boyfriend candidates to the women they meet... even while these men think (in error) that they are "coming across like the ultimate lovers."

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Johnny DoGood's picture

It's been some time since an article on this website blew me away like this one. I had no idea that I was accidentally doing boyfriend things. I had no idea that I was - by some design other than my own - even evaluating women with a boyfriend mindset. Thank you, Chase. Thank you.

To me, this is probably the most valuable article; if not of all time then certainly in the past two to three years.

I have to rethink my entire life because of this article; how I react to women, how women have reacted to me, etc.


Chase Amante's picture


Glad to hear it gave some fresh perspective.

Most of us are running processes we're not even aware we are, or where they came from...!


stef111222zzz's picture

There are there to enjoy themselves and have fun, first and foremost.
the first There is a typo, should be "they".

Chase Amante's picture

Cheers, Stef.

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