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How to Be Attuned to Women and Your Surroundings

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be attunedAre you tuned out while out? If you notice a beautiful woman, is it a surprise you were unprepared for? Here's how to tune IN (in 5 simple steps).

In my article on scouting for 'meet girls' spots, a reader named Kevin comments

Hey Chase,

From the articles such as this one where you talk about your observations of other people when you're out on the street, I'm always struck by how aware and tuned-in you are to other people. Myself, for various reasons, I got into the habit of being totally in my head and tuned-out whenever I'm out on the street; I'm also very eye-contact averse, with everybody. I don't look, or I break off immediately. The only exception to those would be when I take very long walks or do day game sessions. And since those feel so much better because I'm really tuned-in, this ability to really absorb your environment and be totally present in it is one I very much want to automate. My question is about your eye-contact. Do you shamelessly observe everybody around you, holding eye-contact with anyone who gives it to you? Do you use the overhead eye-contact tactic from the 'Elite EC' article where you only look at people who look at you? Could you please give me some tips on how to emulate your own tuned-inness to the people around you when out on the streets? Somehow, probably because of social control, I'm really shy about just looking at people and observing them shamelessly!

Many thanks in advance,

It's a good topic for discussion. Attunement can be a fleeting thing. It's also by no means assured just because, for instance, you went out to approach women.

I observed in that article that the vast majority of people you pass by in life are tuned out. They're lost in their thoughts, thinking about what they need to do that day, absorbed in messages or notifications on their phones -- their heads are anywhere but present.

The attuned man enjoys some distinctive benefits. One is that women notice him much more. Attuned people are in it; they gaze around, their eyes are wider, they're noticeably taking in their environment. Attuned people look for other attuned people, and a woman who's attuned will tend to very quickly notice an attuned man (and you'll notice her). Which women are most likely to be attuned? Those who have a reason to pay attention. Much of the time this means women who are looking to meet someone.

Attuned men are also more risk-aware and better able to present as hard targets to avoid dangerous situations. Very useful if you live in dangerous places (or venture into them from time to time).

There's only one challenge: how do you tune yourself in?

Because for most people, being tuned in is merely a thing that happens to them, on rare occasions, when the mood strikes, or when they chance into the right state.

But that doesn't have to be the case for you.

You can attune yourself directly and consciously, if you know how.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



John Madrid's picture

Specially since I now live in the third world and being attuned can be even a part of game.

Cid's picture

Chase, you wrote, "There is a distinctive way to check a woman out that, when women see you do it, if those women like you, really sucks them into you."

In your article, "How to Check Out a Girl Openly and Turn Her On" you write, "If you want to check out a girl you have yet to meet, or whom you have met, but haven't "clicked" with yet, there's one simple secret to it you must employ, and that's this: Peripheral vision. Many men don't use their peripheral visions much, but you're missing out a lot if you haven't tapped this yet. After a little bit of training and use, it almost becomes a super power. In fact, what you will find is that WOMEN look at YOU a lot more when you use your peripherals instead of directly staring. You can "make" someone look at you much of the time by looking at him or her first... there's a subconscious process in the human brain that seems to trigger the moment someone even deep in your peripheral vision is looking at you, whether you realize it consciously or not, compelling you to turn and look at almost everyone who is looking at you."

In your article "Tactics Tuesdays: Get Approached by Women" you write, "The main way you pull this off is by never looking at her. But that's easier said than done. Why? Because women are masters of attention. If a girl wants you to look at her, unless you're a legitimate pro, you're probably going to look at her. And at that point, she will not approach you. If you want to get approached, you cannot look at women. At least, not the women you want to approach you."

So using peripheral vision is a way to entice Approach Invitations... this is awesome Chase, thank you. Attunement combined with your technique from "Tactics Tuesdays: Expect Women to Approach You (or Signal)" is going to be awesome! Thank you Chase.

1.Using your peripheral vision your eyes do not move at all correct? Eyes fixated on your computer screen, for example, but your true focus is on her peripherally?

2.Using peripheral vision, do you constantly "peripherally focus" on her using your peripheral vision until you see an Approach Invitation (with your eyes on something else, like your computer screen) or do you focus on-off her (pure focus on your screen, see her peripherally for a few seconds, back to pure focus on your computer screen, then back to your peripheral focus on her)?

3.Would it work to pretend to look at your phone but actually just use peripheral vision on her as an application of this technique?

4.Do you use personally use "The Plant", "The Look About" or "Mutters and Sighs" from your article "7 Approach Invitations You'll Get from Girls", look at something in the general area, like an item at a grocery store, and then use your peripheral vision to entice an Approach Invitation?

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