How to Get Girls: The Last Post You'll Ever Need

Chase,

"Being nice, and paying for things for women, and trying to be impressive to them isn't how to get girls."

I've already done both of these things, and I can tell she's starting to slow down, and waning even.

What can I do to get her to see me as someone to hook up with? Note, she has already expressed her interest before and talked about taking me home. I could tell one night she wanted to kiss me, but the last person at the establishment wouldn't leave when she asked him to. So the conditions were not right either time. I read your article on escalation windows, and that was a definite miss.

I'm feeling at a loss here, but she's really cool. I do have an advantage tho - I see her every day. She runs the MMA Gym I train at, and I'm a fighter.

Is there a remedy here?? Please help..

I know what I have to do now:

1) Give up my law teaching job.
2) Start gambling and drinking.
3) Become an international drug runner.
4) Smoke more weed.
5) Become an all around thug.

Then the babes will be mine for the taking!!! OH, JOY!!!

I think at one part it contradicts with your another post. In here you advise to 'exchange names right away' but there is another post(she doesn't even need to know your name) which you advise not to let her know your name. So which is the way?

Hey I know this is a old article so i'm not truly expecting a response.. however that would be rad! Anyways. I have a bit of a dilemma, I can't just take a girl back to my apartment ( im in college ) because I have a room mate and so we cant have sex. Could I take her back to my car or see if her house is free? This seems just a bit weirder and un natural since I would have just picked her up...

Hey Chase, this article gave me a lot of insight. I have tons of women interested it seems but I am always the potential boyfriend and it never works out. If a girl doesn't tell you her last name is it bad? If your still seeing a girl after a month and you haven't bedded her is it too late, or can there still be potential? Thanks so much, I just discovered your site and its amazing.

Hi Chase
Great article! I have read a lot of your articles and there is some really interesting stuff in there but a lot of it seems to emphasize moving fast and that is a little bit hard in my situation. I am a Junior in High School and so all the girls I know I have known for a while now and so moving within the first couple days or (hours) of meeting someone is no longer an option. Do you have any advice for me?
Thanks!

Im from Kenya and recently I stumbled into this page and the first article to read kept me glued. From then on I have been a frequent reader of your articles as they explain to me what I have been experiencing with girls. It is as if I knew some of this rules from experience but i couldnt really explain maybe just apply. I also listen to B.I.G songs among other hiphop songs and i just admired their bragging about success with women and wished I was like that or could improve up to that level. I always thought taking girls for nice dates would work but things go awry soon after the first date as I have only succeeded to bed one girl after taking her for a date and I think its because she knew I had other options. The other girls who I spend little effort are the ones who I bed faster and are desperate for me. Despite all this, I find myself falling for the same trap with some girls that I come across, its as if my instincts tell me not to do this but i think my brain keeps tricking me to follow what the society says about being 'gentlemanish'. All hope is not lost though as Im young and I recently joined campus this year and even without reading this articles some girls had already said am a sexy and kinda of a badboy and I will enhance this aspect with the help of your articles. Last year though I cant be proud to say I was always the guy who girls always said he is a nice guy and I couldnt actually understand why a beautiful girl who was just within my grasp end up with some other guy yet she claims am the sweetest guy she has ever met and I admitI was kind of bitter. The bitter part of me is all gone and am beginning self improvement thanks to your articles. Keep up the goodwork!!

About a year ago I met this girl, who I made a move on the third time we got together, which was at her place. She even told me if I hadn't made a move that night, it would have been game over! She even asked me why I didn't kiss her after the second date ended. Who would have thought?! However, I did end up being more or less her "boyfriend" for a few months and when I told her I wasn't really looking for a relationship, she got pretty mad and we haven't spoken since.

Moving fast has never been more true, especially after looking back at my past experiences with women after finding this website. Thanks man.

Im 22 years old and not to be condescending but im probably a 6.5 I have almost know experience other then girls that did it once and regretted it. I had older parents that pushed the wine and dine thing on me and as a result im the apitamy of all things Pete except I don't even think ive received the honor of the boy friend spot. Can some one literally give me 9 or ten conversation starters for a girl you like but have never spoken to. Once the ice is broken im usually fine

Thanks

Hi Chase.

I wish I saw this post 4 years ago. This is a succinct & vivid guideline on how to get girls with absolute consistency. I am from South Africa but girls are girls right? ;-) doesn't really matter where they are from! And this is how to get them.

Welldone Mr. Amante

Last night I had some thing extremely perplex fun occur. I took a girl through my process and we ended up at my place. I laid my head down on her leg and she deferred. She then became extremely uncomfortable and said she's not very comfortable with touch. It didn't feel like lmr and it left me in a situation I've never come close to. Any idea what happened?

So, I am going to try to explain this as efficiently as I can.
So I met this girl a few weeks ago at a party, we end up going home together and have a fun night. I enjoyed hanging out with her, I think she also enjoyed hanging out with me. So since then we have been on a couple of dates (3 or so). But since then things have been a bit strange at least to me. I feel as if there are mixed signals coming from her, can't tell if she's into me or what she wants. She takes the time to hang out so I assume she is somewhat interested but at times she is very standoffish. This comes up because last night we go to a sporting event and things are going good and then after I am expecting her to come over for a nightcap and relax. But she is very adamant about how she should probably go home. Then as she is leaving she is strange about kissing goodbye and seems in a hurry. Not sure where to go from here.

Here's a more realistic scenario:

Sue gets cold approached on the street by Jerry. She either turns him down during the approach or gives out her number, but she doesn't put out. She then sleeps with Pete few weeks later and secures a much better life for her and her children with a good, stable man.

Hi chase,

quick question.

On a street stop, should you move her?

I'm getting numbers but can't convert them into dates and the only thing that comes to my mind is that my interactions may be a bit too short or that I don't move them.

here's the process I m going through lately on street stops : stop her with a compliment, ask her what she does in her life and if she likes that/if not why and what would she do instead if she could choose , make a statement about the importance of having a mission rather than a career , ask her if she travels.. then number, then 10 secs of banter and then bye bye. ( all this lasts more or less 4 mins)

I rarely move her but frankly it does not feel very appropriate. I mean, what if she has to do something else at that moment?

Would love some clarification..

anyway, this stays one of my favorite articles!!!!

There is one secret to getting women and it's so simple it changed my life. Go for Asian women. Don't go for western women, they are too strong and independent, too much mind games. Asian women like nice guys, they like boring guys, you don't have to try! When I say Asian women by the way I mean women from Asia who have lived in a western country for maybe one to two years. Not westernised Asian women, they are just as strong and independent as western women themselves. Honestly, if you don't care about language barriers and want a traditional woman with good values, pretty, good body you will never look back. Let's be honest guys don't care too much about good conversation really, it's only because women like it. We just want a decent woman and sex on tap. I'm not saying every hot western woman is indecent, I'm just saying many are, and your chances are low unless you are something extremely special. After 18 months of focusing on Asian women I slept with more hot girls than in my life and now I'm married. I can just be myself. I don't have to be hot, they love white men, it's that simple and as long as you're a gentleman you can't go wrong. No mind games, no bullshit. Trust me.

Hello Chase, 

This article is still the reference for me. I am know working on the approach.  So you reccommand to move girls but reading your other article on approach spud we choose one of these options by the 10 min mark: 

1. Propose a date and ask for her number. Or
2. Move her for an instant date if we plan to get intimate that day/night

Shouldwe always move the girl first? 

What if you want to control the pace and purposely take it slow because you enjoy the anticipation? If I really want a girl to be long term with me, I enjoy intentionally building the escalation methodically and slowly. Is this wrong? Can you risk losing her to another man, even if you are building tension gradually?

Hey Chase,
Kudos on writing such an informative article. Keep the good work :)
Anurag